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Meeting up with old school friends
Ok, so when I was at school, I was a bit of a geek. I had few friends, and didn't go out much. It wasn't a particularly good experience, and I look back on it like a bad memory. I'm at Cambridge now, having an amazing time - i love my course, i have made loads of good friends, and I have a lovely boyfriend. So I changed a lot, and I've become more confident.
But here's the thing: one of my few friends, who was also friendly with a lot of people who never thought i was worth talking to, has invited me out with them. I'm planning on going, since it would be interesting to see how they've changed, and show them how much i have, BUT I'm worried that all the old ways will come back to me, and I'll end up being all shy, beause thats how I always was with them.
Has anyone else, who was like me at school met up with people a year on? What were your experiences?
But here's the thing: one of my few friends, who was also friendly with a lot of people who never thought i was worth talking to, has invited me out with them. I'm planning on going, since it would be interesting to see how they've changed, and show them how much i have, BUT I'm worried that all the old ways will come back to me, and I'll end up being all shy, beause thats how I always was with them.
Has anyone else, who was like me at school met up with people a year on? What were your experiences?
go with your bf, then you can show him off and if you start to feel shy he can make sure you wont
gossip_girl
go with your bf, then you can show him off and if you start to feel shy he can make sure you wont
but he's in Cambridge! so thats no good!
I'm doing the same thing tomorrow, and I'm at Cambridge as well (what college are you at??). I didn't get on with some of them and I'm imagining being treated as though I'm a snob just because I'm a tab. I'll let you know how it goes... Although it's two years on since I took a gap year...
don't wory, you will be fine once u get there, you will make it so that you get along, you will be talking no stop about what you have done since you last saw each other, jsut go and think positively.
Lauren
I'm doing the same thing tomorrow, and I'm at Cambridge as well (what college are you at??). I didn't get on with some of them and I'm imagining being treated as though I'm a snob just because I'm a tab. I'll let you know how it goes... Although it's two years on since I took a gap year...
Selwyn. Yeah, let me know how it goes! Two years on must be even stranger.
Just go, smile and be friendly. You haven't seen them for a year, so you'll have loads to talk about. And don't forget, they will have changed too. After a year at uni, everyone will have a different perspective on life. They will have all gone different ways, done different things and met different people. They're not stuck in their little clique any more. So go with an open mind, and expect them to be friendly towards you. They've probably all grown up a lot since you knew them, and will be more accepting.
It really shocked me when I came back from Cambridge this time and saw all the people i went to school with around. I think the phrasing "kids stabbing each other in the arse over ringtones" does the phenomona justice. You should definitely go though, it's a really stimulating thing to do, great for the old self esteem. Especially when you feel like the competitiveness and pressure at Cambridge is too much.
susiemakemeblue
Just go, smile and be friendly. You haven't seen them for a year, so you'll have loads to talk about. And don't forget, they will have changed too. After a year at uni, everyone will have a different perspective on life. They will have all gone different ways, done different things and met different people. They're not stuck in their little clique any more. So go with an open mind, and expect them to be friendly towards you. They've probably all grown up a lot since you knew them, and will be more accepting.
yeah! i really hope so!
Just be proud of the fact that you're currently attending one of the best Universities in the world. Seriously, if the evening doesn't run smoothly, then it'll be down to their jealousy, as your life sounds pretty cool!
Speaking from experience, school isn't always the best experience, and due to that reason alone, there's nothing wrong in rubbing your success in a little. Call it a 'get-your-own-back' for all the times you would catagorise as being a 'bad' experience!
Speaking from experience, school isn't always the best experience, and due to that reason alone, there's nothing wrong in rubbing your success in a little. Call it a 'get-your-own-back' for all the times you would catagorise as being a 'bad' experience!
kimberley1987
Just be proud of the fact that you're currently attending one of the best Universities in the world. Seriously, if the evening doesn't run smoothly, then it'll be down to their jealousy, as your life sounds pretty cool!
Speaking from experience, school isn't always the best experience, and due to that reason alone, there's nothing wrong in rubbing your success in a little. Call it a 'get-your-own-back' for all the times you would catagorise as being a 'bad' experience!
Speaking from experience, school isn't always the best experience, and due to that reason alone, there's nothing wrong in rubbing your success in a little. Call it a 'get-your-own-back' for all the times you would catagorise as being a 'bad' experience!
haha yeah!
i'm also worried in case they all want to go clubbing, cos its not something i enjoy.
look at it this way......the worst thing that can happen is that you will clam up and go back to being all shy when you meet them, they'll think you're still a bit of a geek and you maybe won't see them again....but thats not really that much of a problem because you don't sound too bothered by not having them as friends, you've obv got a good set of friends in cambridge.....so really there are only positives that can come out of it so just go meet them and have fun! if you don't want to go clubbing just go to the pub for a few drinks, its pointless going if you don't want to cos it'll be obv that ur not enjoying yourself, and anyways you rarely are able to talk and catch up with people in clubs anyway cos its so loud!
good luck! x
good luck! x
I'm sure you'll be fine. You might be a bit shy at first, but you'll have lots to talk and catch up on, so it'll be alright. I love meeting up with my middle school friends and stuff, it's great to see how everyone changes (both their looks and personalities) year after year, and yeah...it'll be fun! 
And if they wanna go clubbing and you don't, just say you have something planned and don't go! Orrrrrr you could always try to go and see if you like it!
And if they wanna go clubbing and you don't, just say you have something planned and don't go! Orrrrrr you could always try to go and see if you like it!Related discussions
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