Guy just texted me...

...and I don't know whether to text back or not, or even what to say. Basically, Saturday night I got with im at a party, we exchanged numbers (I was quite drunk...) and now he's texted me so i don't actually know hwether I like him or not.

You know when you could get to know someone, but its hard to start from stratch since you've alread kind of fell on their lips, and used your tongue as a support system.

Hmmm. I still feel hungover actually. That might be why I have no idea what to do. I'm usually so decisive. Also, the last time I got involved with someone I really got messed up in the head, as he messed me around. A lot.

Please just offer any advice, anecdotes or anything.

Thank you

xxxxxxx

Reply 1

ChemistBoy

16

arrange to meet him for a coffee or something so you can check him out in the cold light of day as it were.

Reply 2

Segat1

16

Agreed, he might turn out to be thinking the same and you could become mates or never see him again.

Reply 3

DeLboY

Text back and BE HONEST! Sounds like you don't want a relationship. You cant go wrong by saying exactly what you are thinking. The last thing you want to do is give out false impressions, you don't know anything about this guy..
You could tell him you were drunk and flirty, and you would usually prefer to get to know someone first. Just make sure that you make him aware if he's being blown out or not.

Good luck :smile:

Reply 4

envoy

I would respond to his text, but would keep it light and see what happens from there. It might be easy to assume what his intentions are from the fact that he sent you a text, but you can't know.
I imagine that you can only decide whether you like him if you meet him again and I don't think that there would be any harm in meeting him if that is what both of you want. No or limited amounts of alcohol though so that you can decide! As for the last guy messing you around.... I understand your reservations (in that state myself at the moment), but I don't think that it is fair to this person to start off with those assumptions. It also isn't fair to yourself to let what the previous guy did hold you back. Easier said than done though. Don't have any expectations and see what happens.

Reply 5

cleas001

1

ive had this problem- then when you do meet up with him he may expect more of the same action from the party- this is all good if you like him...if not make your excuses and run...
i always find that it helps if you get a mate to ring you 1/2 to 1 hour into your date...if its a disaster you can use it as an excuse to leave...if your loving him you can just turn your phone off! hehe
good luck
ps.(cheesy p.s!)- in my eperiance all relationships are a head **** because its messing with your emotions!- just enjoy

Reply 6

ChemistBoy

16

cleas001

ive had this problem- then when you do meet up with him he may expect more of the same action from the party- this is all good if you like him...if not make your excuses and run...
i always find that it helps if you get a mate to ring you 1/2 to 1 hour into your date...if its a disaster you can use it as an excuse to leave...if your loving him you can just turn your phone off! hehe
good luck
ps.(cheesy p.s!)- in my eperiance all relationships are a head **** because its messing with your emotions!- just enjoy

That is all solved by not getting so drunk isn't it though? I have, however performed the phone service for some of my female friends in the past.

Reply 7

cleas001

1

ChemistBoy

That is all solved by not getting so drunk isn't it though? I have, however performed the phone service for some of my female friends in the past.

yep- your correct there! but when its too late- then the phone always works!!
tho i tend to chicken out before that stage n send a txt saying im ill!- tho that is mean i will not be doing that again...except mayb tonight! :p:

Reply 8

scutt

1

There's a good chance he spent 3 hours debating whether or not to send that message or not. Text back, and be honest. Bring up something to talk about, see if he's worth talking to. If it's all cool, and a meet up goes.. excellent. If things seem odd, leave it, no loss.

Never hurts to have another friend, though.

Reply 9

naelse

15

take it slow, and don't do anything you're not 100% comfortable with

x

Reply 10

oxygenbubbles

2

immortal

...and I don't know whether to text back or not, or even what to say. Basically, Saturday night I got with im at a party, we exchanged numbers (I was quite drunk...) and now he's texted me so i don't actually know hwether I like him or not.

You know when you could get to know someone, but its hard to start from stratch since you've alread kind of fell on their lips, and used your tongue as a support system.

Hmmm. I still feel hungover actually. That might be why I have no idea what to do. I'm usually so decisive. Also, the last time I got involved with someone I really got messed up in the head, as he messed me around. A lot.

Please just offer any advice, anecdotes or anything.

Thank you

xxxxxxx

It depends what he said? Text back and see what happens, arrange to meet up or something. If you don't want to be stuck with someone you might *not* like, tell him you can only stay for an hour or so. Otherwise you'll wonder if there could have been anything there.