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reasons why we like the opposite sex

Ok call me mad but ive wondered this for a long time. Basically I can understand why girls like guys (ok thats cause im a girl) in a way cause they are strong/muscular, logical, well thats why I find guys attractive in general anyway lol. Though I can't understand why a guy would like qualities that girls tend to have (soft, squimish (sp) blah ) as you would think them qualities would annoy a guy. Anyone know what im on about?

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It's the T&A, blatently!
Liking the opposite sex is instinctive.... generally.. that's all i know.
Reply 3
Hormones, of course! Duh...
Reply 4
They provide a good substitute for a hand...hahahaha!

Oh wait, I really can't think of any other reasons.
Reply 5
Guys are stupid and easily controlled.
Reply 6
I love it when girls say that, especially as in my experience its the complete opposite..
Reply 7
imasillynarb
I love it when girls say that, especially as in my experience its the complete opposite..


Yeah, maybe because you date sluts?
Reply 8
haha slypie your post reminds me of the saying, 'love is a fools game'. A lot of my mates have been manipulated by women TOO EASILY. guys for the record, p***y whipping HAS TO END. in response to the original question, guys like girls and vice versa due to hormonal reactions, the reason behind this is to reproduce, thats why you exist.
Reply 9
SlyPie
Guys are stupid and easily controlled.


LOL. Nice cynicism!

and alio, if you were to consider that the criteria that make a guy attractive as the security, the strength he provides, it's because you think of what a guy can bring to a girl...

What can a girl bring to a guy: sexual satisfaction of course. That's the equivalent criterium for a guy.

When men and women overlook these superficial criteria, there are loads of other things we can find attractive in the opposite sex.
SlyPie
Yeah, maybe because you date sluts?


LOL. Actually I'd call girls who control guys "sluts" too if I was pissed off but you're right, in relationships, women are the intelligent sex. They seem to think more about what they can get out of the relationship in many areas, whereas for us guys it can often be summed up as: sex or let's say love.

I think Madame Bovary (you study that in the US right?) is a great example of how men and women get together. Madame Bovary marries a guy who can provide her with the security she desires but she'd rather go shag other guys with whom she has no future. Her husband however, is just blindly in love with her. Sorry if that sounds like a rather negative description of women.
Reply 11
SlyPie
Yeah, maybe because you date sluts?


I didn't mean just me when I said "in my experience", but yeh, if thats your view on blokes and relationships then good luck to you.
imasillynarb
I didn't mean just me when I said "in my experience", but yeh, if thats your view on blokes and relationships then good luck to you.


I personally think she'll go very far in life. It's true, if a girl has what a guy wants, she can have him wrapped around her finger.

I just hope I'll never end up with a girl who really thinks like that!
Reply 13
Not the case with all guys..
imasillynarb
Not the case with all guys..


What are other guys like then?
Reply 15
Not idiots..

Its quite obvious when somebody is using you, in which case surely most blokes wouldn't stand for it?
imasillynarb
Not idiots..

Its quite obvious when somebody is using you, in which case surely most blokes wouldn't stand for it?


I don't think it's that obvious. A lot of girls have serious boyfriends because of the security it gives them... it's not that obvious.

If you have a well-paid job in the future, how will you know if the girl you're marrying or you're have a serious relationship with hasn't taken into account the fact you have a good salary and all the rest? I think you'll find it hard to find a girl who hasn't at least noticed the security you provide...
Reply 17
SamTheMan
I don't think it's that obvious. A lot of girls have serious boyfriends because of the security it gives them... it's not that obvious.

If you have a well-paid job in the future, how will you know if the girl you're marrying or you're have a serious relationship with hasn't taken into account the fact you have a good salary and all the rest? I think you'll find it hard to find a girl who hasn't at least noticed the security you provide...


This may have been the case for well most of history but the number of female breadwinners is constantly on the rise, in other words, it works both ways :p:

I have a fair few male mates who at least claim their intentions are to marry a million. :rolleyes:
Reply 18
SamTheMan
I don't think it's that obvious. A lot of girls have serious boyfriends because of the security it gives them... it's not that obvious.

If you have a well-paid job in the future, how will you know if the girl you're marrying or you're have a serious relationship with hasn't taken into account the fact you have a good salary and all the rest? I think you'll find it hard to find a girl who hasn't at least noticed the security you provide...


Thats true, but the same thing happens now to a lesser extent, how do you know a girl isn't going out with you because of the clothes you wear, that expensive watch you wear, or because you can drive?

Surely being good looking can be compared to having lots of money, in which case a girl can be with you entirely because you're good looking(it happens often), its the same thing when you think about it..
Jump
This may have been the case for well most of history but the number of female breadwinners is constantly on the rise, in other words, it works both ways :p:

I have a fair few male mates who at least claim their intentions are to marry a million. :rolleyes:


Hmm yeah you have a point there. So they're planning to be toyboys to ugly millionairesses (is that a word?) ?