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    hola idiotas!

    hello everyone!

    ive recently qualified as a body massage therapist. i love it, the warm oils, nice smells, music etc. i do it on the side of ma main job, so mobile work evenings and weekends.

    the guys ive dated think its great but only if i only massage them, and women only. obviously i dont see why i should. im very professional and enjoy what i do. but they think it is nasty and get jealous

    would you have a problem with this? i think they are unreasonable.
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    hola idiotas!

    hello everyone!

    ive recently qualified as a body massage therapist. i love it, the warm oils, nice smells, music etc. i do it on the side of ma main job, so mobile work evenings and weekends.

    the guys ive dated think its great but only if i only massage them, and women only. obviously i dont see why i should. im very professional and enjoy what i do. but they think it is nasty and get jealous

    would you have a problem with this? i think they are unreasonable.
    Tell him to grow up please... Thanks
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    I wouldn't have a problem if I trusted the girl. If I didn't trust her then I would go out with someone else. So no problem, hm? :curious:
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    I dont believe you. I think you work in a massage parlour as a prostitute.

    "i do it on the side of ma main job" - confirmed.
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    (Original post by rach [shikari])
    I dont believe you. I think you work in a massage parlour as a prostitute.

    "i do it on the side of ma main job" - confirmed.

    LMAO :rofl:
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    Being a masseuse is a respectable profession, and so long as they aren't sexual massages I would have no problem with my partner doing them.
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    my boyfriend does massage therapy at uni and i HATE it when he has to massage girls.
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    (Original post by bevs)
    my boyfriend does massage therapy at uni and i HATE it when he has to massage girls.

    this is the same reaction i get when i massage guys.

    out of interest, why do you hate it, massageing girls is for work purposes no?

    also is he doing a whole degree course in massage? what is he studying that requires him to massage girls? being a massage therapist only requires a diploma, not uni
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    this is the same reaction i get when i massage guys.

    out of interest, why do you hate it, massageing girls is for work purposes no?

    also is he doing a whole degree course in massage? what is he studying that requires him to massage girls? being a massage therapist only requires a diploma, not uni
    A massage, professional or not is always going to be an intimate act, and if you're good at it, pleasurable. That would be my guess as to why it sparks of jealousy in some people.

    Studying an art based course i do and will be doing a lot of life drawing. Likewise my GF, studying medicine will undoubtedly have plenty of medical examinations to carry out on both males and females. Both of these involve studying and in her case touching other members of the opposite sex blah blah blah. My point is, neither of us have any problem with it because we both understand it's purely on an academic/professional basis and will never be anything more.

    The problem with massaging is the whole stigma attached to it. Far too often do we see it leading to so much more than just a massage in movies, stories, porn etc. Which, i would imagine, doesn't help things for you. All i can suggest is you assure your partner that it's purely professional, perhaps demonstrate how you go about it with clients and how you think about it a medical and professional way.
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    I don't blame you if you feel jealous or concerned...I mean she is gonna be working with a lot of male bodies. All I'd say is if you can judge she is trustworthy/genuine/down to earth, you don't have anything to worry about.
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    hola idiotas!

    hello everyone!

    ive recently qualified as a body massage therapist. i love it, the warm oils, nice smells, music etc. i do it on the side of ma main job, so mobile work evenings and weekends.

    the guys ive dated think its great but only if i only massage them, and women only. obviously i dont see why i should. im very professional and enjoy what i do. but they think it is nasty and get jealous

    would you have a problem with this? i think they are unreasonable.
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    (Original post by Astra_K)
    You're redder than a communist.
    careful else your a$$ cheeks will be redder than a communist
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    careful else your a$$ cheeks will be redder than a communist
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    Its not trusting the girl..... thats the problem its trusting creepy men... my girlfriend does it and she only does woman , if she decided to do men.. i would consider ended our relationship... one she barely has enough time to touch me and be intimate with me. 2 i know alot of people and if she was massage my naked male friends. Flashing their penises... doing things they shouldnt then.. thats something i am uncomfatble with.... if people think its bad to finish a relationship over this... then i ask them this question,, there are plenty of jobs why do that?? Especially if your partner like most partners dont like it... guys are perverts , touching up guys giving them erections no matter how proffsional you are doesnt ait with me. If they think it was that important of a job... then relationship can end... simple....
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    (Original post by Impactglory)
    Its not trusting the girl..... thats the problem its trusting creepy men... my girlfriend does it and she only does woman , if she decided to do men.. i would consider ended our relationship... one she barely has enough time to touch me and be intimate with me. 2 i know alot of people and if she was massage my naked male friends. Flashing their penises... doing things they shouldnt then.. thats something i am uncomfatble with.... if people think its bad to finish a relationship over this... then i ask them this question,, there are plenty of jobs why do that?? Especially if your partner like most partners dont like it... guys are perverts , touching up guys giving them erections no matter how proffsional you are doesnt ait with me. If they think it was that important of a job... then relationship can end... simple....
    Hi there,

    This is a 7 year old thread, if you want to carry on this discussion then just create a new thread.

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    (Original post by antdac)
    Tell him to grow up please... Thanks
    Or you could stop being a selfish person and get a real job that isnt touching pervy naked men with erections.. doesnt matter how professional you are its the men us guys know and worry about. Not what the women do... we trust the women we just dont trust the men... and being in a job as such seeing naked men all day touching naked men ... more than you touch your own partner... thats just weird and wrong... somebodies gotta do it, let single woman do it... its not a profession any man would enjoy their partner doing.. and they are selfish to not care about how their man feels
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    (Original post by gatorade)
    I don't blame you if you feel jealous or concerned...I mean she is gonna be working with a lot of male bodies. All I'd say is if you can judge she is trustworthy/genuine/down to earth, you don't have anything to worry about.
    Dont know why everyone seems to think its about not trusting the girl... its about not trusting other men.. and the fact they spend more time touching other men than you.. seeing sometimes touching other males parts,, erections.. perverted men.. male friends that laugh and enjoy the fact the were baked and been touched up by your girlfriend which should be only for you.. doing jobs and being exposed to things like this no matter what person changes people... not saying they are going off with other men or selling sex... just the thought of your wife or partner touching another man so intimately and chatting away or being chatted up makes me feel sick....

    Out it this way women that dont think this is wrong is selfish and unreasonable, when women get jealous over men looking or talking to other women in the street.. let alone in a room by themselves naked... they need to get a real job or stay single...
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    I am not insecure, therefore I will not be jealous and I will be perfectly fine with it.
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    I used to go out with a male masseur a few years ago, I knew he massaged other women but didn't care. That was his job, people need to stop watching too much porn and assuming that he might potentially shag every woman he touches. A person who doesn't work could just as easily have an affair too, it's got nothing to do with the job it's the person. He came home to me everyday in the end, I knew he never cheated even though he never talked about his work.

    Any guy who doesn't want you doing it is clearly just an insecure little idiot and you should not waste any time with someone like that
 
 
 
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