and I feel so guilty about it.
It first happened sort of by accident, my boyfriend thought I'd orgasmed because I was very loud and then he seemed so happy and smiling I couldn't bear to tell him I actually hadn't. How can you turn around to someone and tell them that you actually didn't?
After that, being as I'm quite noisy, he always thinks I've orgasmed. I sort of feel I have to play it up now because if I don't he'll think he's done something wrong.
The thing is, I'm never going to be able to orgasm with him. I can only climax on my own. So is it best just to keep pretending to make him happy?
Just tell him!
How can you have sex with someone but have the inability to communicate about it?
Keep faking it as long as you enjoy sex anyway.
I could never tell him that I've faked it so much. I think it would completely crush him. Isn't it best for him to just remain blissfully unaware?
Are you at all close to orgasm when you 'fake it'? If so, tone it down a bit... maybe just some light moaning? And wait for the loud stuff until you ACTUALLY feel something.
Haha, awkward. I guess what you should do depends on whether never having an orgasm with him sounds acceptable or not.
I had this problem with my ex. He assumed every noise I made was an orgasm, when really, it was just me being noisy.
I told him and he said he'd try something new. Never got to try it though because I broke up with him for unrelated reasons.
But meh, tell him, or just say, hey I'd like to try something new and stuff. Or just mention it in passing 'Oh I'm quite noisy, hope the neighbours can't hear.' and maybe he'll get the hint. Meh.
I never feel close to orgasm with him ever. Not even through oral. I'm quite... sensitive, and when I masturbate by myself I have to do it over clothes or something because any direct touching is just too much, so this just isn't possible in sex. And I know I'm never going to orgasm with him and thats fine, I enjoy the sex anyway.
i also fake it. and let me tell you faking an erecion is no easy trick to pull off. so think yourself lucky.
Its not actually that unusual, to not be able to orgasm like that.
You should let him know how your body works, it'll help in the long run.
Clearly you're still enjoying it loads, so just make sure you remind him of that!
I just worry that if I tell him he'll be crushed, and then when he tries to make me orgasm genuinely and can't, he'll be even more crushed. Does anyone think its best just to be blissfully unaware?