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    Social wise I messed up my chances in making friends and, for the majority of first year, have been quiet and reluctantly anti social in class.

    I screwed up big time and its my fault that I'm perceived in a negative way.

    How can I improve this in the second year? How likely is it that your classmates would totally change their mind on you?

    Has anyone been through this before and how have you coped it?
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    Join a society, get involved.
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    I was the exact same mate.

    Make sure you talk to people all the time, get to class 5 or 10 minutes early and get chatting to people waiting. Classes will be smaller so it's easy to get talking to the same people regularly. And talk in seminars.

    Also join a society to meet people with common interests.
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    :sigh: I know exactly what you mean.

    Have you considered why you were reluctantly 'anti-social'? :holmes:

    I've been thinking about what went wrong (as it were :rolleyes:) a lot, and now I think I know what I need to change. :pwnd:
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    (Original post by + polarity -)
    :sigh: I know exactly what you mean.

    Have you considered why you were reluctantly 'anti-social'? :holmes:

    I've been thinking about what went wrong (as it were :rolleyes:) a lot, and now I think I know what I need to change. :pwnd:
    Yes I have. I was reluctantly anti social because I knew that I couldn't pretend to be confident because that way people would know. I also couldn't give myself time to open myself because I was under social stress most of the time (it doesn't help when you're in a group of 15 and more).
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    (Original post by WildStriker)
    Yes I have. I was reluctantly anti social because I knew that I couldn't pretend to be confident because that way people would know. I also couldn't give myself time to open myself because I was under social stress most of the time (it doesn't help when you're in a group of 15 and more).
    I can relate, in a way. :mmm:

    Are you living with people next year? In halls again? :dontknow:
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    Just chat at them long enough and often enough until they are so used to you that you become friends.
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    (Original post by + polarity -)
    :sigh: I know exactly what you mean.

    Have you considered why you were reluctantly 'anti-social'? :holmes:

    I've been thinking about what went wrong (as it were :rolleyes:) a lot, and now I think I know what I need to change. :pwnd:
    What was your issue, if I may ask?
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    (Original post by Broderss)
    What was your issue, if I may ask?
    I was really really self-conscious, so I spent a... lot of time in my room :innocent:, avoided people, declined invitations... everything you're not supposed to do. :slap:
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    I was really really self-conscious, so I spent a... lot of time in my room :innocent:, avoided people, declined invitations... everything you're not supposed to do. :slap:
    Yeah I was extremely self conscious and had low self esteem, so to go out took a lot of hard work and effort and it got to the point it was too exhausting and I just wanted to spend time alone.

    This only developed after a couple of months though

    Looks like we're in the same boat :cookie:
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    Deal with it, it is not going to change anytime soon. :nope:
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    (Original post by Broderss)
    Yeah I was extremely self conscious and had low self esteem, so to go out took a lot of hard work and effort and it got to the point it was too exhausting and I just wanted to spend time alone.

    This only developed after a couple of months though

    Looks like we're in the same boat :cookie:
    :dancing:

    So, how are we going to fix this? :p:
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    (Original post by + polarity -)
    :dancing:

    So, how are we going to fix this? :p:
    I think we need to find what we are self conscious about or what aspect of us causes low self esteem and either change it or change our attitude toward it.

    But now it is time for bed :yawn:
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    (Original post by Broderss)
    I think we need to find what we are self conscious about or what aspect of us causes low self esteem and either change it or change our attitude toward it.

    But now it is time for bed :yawn:
    Done :ahee:

    Good night. I may PM you later. :ninja:
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    Done :ahee:

    Good night. I may PM you later. :ninja:
    Good night polski. I may or may not be expecting that PM.
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    (Original post by + polarity -)
    I can relate, in a way. :mmm:

    Are you living with people next year? In halls again? :dontknow:
    Not with the same people I don't think. But if my new flatmates turn out to be extreme extroverts, it would be beyond my capability to try and be friends with them.
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    I thought you'd messed up ur grades mate !!

    Try the library. Theres people there.
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    (Original post by WildStriker)
    Not with the same people I don't think. But if my new flatmates turn out to be extreme extroverts, it would be beyond my capability to try and be friends with them.
    What, you're in halls again? But with new people?
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    Roofies. :lolwut: Could solve alllll your problems.
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    ...Unless you have good flat mates this year, you're screwed. Sorry, but that's how it is.
 
 
 
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