i love you...

I went out tonight, it is my boyfriend's last day before going to uni, so the last time I will see him before we both come back/visit one another. I just said to him "I love you" as I got out of his car and he said "yep, see you later". OMG I feel like such a fool. We've written "love you" in texts to each other and we have said it in person once before!! I don't get it. He's been acting weird these past few days, but tonight he seemed normal. I don't get it. Was he just using me?? What does this mean?

Reply 1

BlokeFromStoke

hayley_1604

I went out tonight, it is my boyfriend's last day before going to uni, so the last time I will see him before we both come back/visit one another. I just said to him "I love you" as I got out of his car and he said "yep, see you later". OMG I feel like such a fool. We've written "love you" in texts to each other and we have said it in person once before!! I don't get it. He's been acting weird these past few days, but tonight he seemed normal. I don't get it. Was he just using me?? What does this mean?

It means not a great deal. He may not have heard you properly, may have been startled. Doesn't mean he doesn't feel the same way. Don't stress. You only feel like this because it was an emotionally charged moment with saying goodbye and all. Relax and see how things pan out :smile:

Reply 2

Vixen

12

How long you been together?

Try not to worry about it too much :hugs:

Some people find it takes a while to feel comfortable saying it and he's probably all het up about uni and leaving you and just said the first thing that came into his brain without thinking.

Reply 3

mrs_bubb

OP

Vixen

How long you been together?.

we've been together only 2 months.

Reply 4

Sunofnight

3

hayley_1604

I went out tonight, it is my boyfriend's last day before going to uni, so the last time I will see him before we both come back/visit one another. I just said to him "I love you" as I got out of his car and he said "yep, see you later". OMG I feel like such a fool. We've written "love you" in texts to each other and we have said it in person once before!! I don't get it. He's been acting weird these past few days, but tonight he seemed normal. I don't get it. Was he just using me?? What does this mean?

Sometimes guys don't think 'oh what will she think if I say/don't say this' he probably just assumed that you knew his thoughts. Send him a text before he goes to uni to give him a last chance to say it :biggrin:

Reply 5

khil

15

Maybe "love" is a little too intense for a 2 month relationship? That doesn't mean he isn't crazy about you or serious etc - it just means this relationship can and needs to keep growing, that's all. I mean, I only said "I love you" to my ex - back then still together - once or twice as I find it sorta hard to express myself when it comes to sincere emotion to the person involved, and I wasn't sure if I truly loved him then so I didn't wanna use the word lightly.

Although having broken up 8 months on, NOW I realise I really did love him and still do. Although at the same time I've moved on and don't need him anymore. So it's all good I suppose!

Don't think too much into it. It was probably just too intense a moment and he didn't know what to say.

Reply 6

mrs_bubb

OP

you're all right, thank you. Iris, I agree I think maybe I'm saying it now because I won't have a chance to say it to his face for a long time, and my feelings for him are so strong. I don't know if its love, I do know I care so much about him and would hate to think I'm being made a fool of here. I get paranoid rather easily and think too much into things a lot too....

Reply 7

danmint

1

dont worry about it too much. There is a mental block in men which means we cant say the words 'I love you' unless its to your mates when you've had too many drinks. Maybe hes too nervous to say it back, sometimes people dont say what they mean. Maybe you should talk about it? Although be careful its a very sensetive subject.

Reply 8

covered farm wagon

11

Maybe he was trying to avoid a soppy goodbye. If you're feeling a bit emotional (especially if you're a macho man) then it's easiest just to hurry sad situations along as fast as you can.

Reply 9

serious narb

11

i have to say i'm on the blokes side here, he is just trying to be honest. Girls do tend to say 'I love You' or maybe even fall in love very early. It sounds like he probably will love you one day but probably doesn't yet, would be unfair of him to say 'I love you' if he didn't really mean it. :smile:

Reply 10

Feynman

To be honest, I do believe that there is mutual love in your relationship

If he is going away to a University far away from you I think he did this on purpose to break you guys off because he thinks that it will be hard for you two in the near future considering the situation, and now, he is trying to deny you, forgive him, because what he tried to do is make you angry at him which he thought would break you, but it didn't, and even if he did break you he would be the one calling you

Feynman.

Reply 11

mrs_bubb

OP

its just weird, my ex used to say i love you ALL the time! i guess i just got used to that. he said it first when we had been going out a week or something!

Reply 12

mrs_bubb

OP

Feynman

To be honest, I do believe that there is mutual love in your relationship

If he is going away to a University far away from you I think he did this on purpose to break you guys off because he thinks that it will be hard for you two in the near future considering the situation, and now, he is trying to deny you, forgive him, because what he tried to do is make you angry at him which he thought would break you, but it didn't, and even if he did break you he would be the one calling you

Feynman.

But HE was the one basically begging me to give our relationship a go when we move away to uni. A few weeks back I was saying how it wouldn't work....but I've fallen for him bigtime since. He was the one who was totally into me at the start!

Reply 13

Feynman

Yes, but the thing is, the "I've fallen" bit is mutual, and now he is in great shock, and he does not have a clue about how he can leave you even for a second, and now that he's going to University it's like this :eek:

, so he is in terrible self denial, try to think about how he's been acting weirdly in any other situations where he usually wouldn't; that is all a result of the latter, talk to him and ask him directly about the denial thing

Feynman.

Reply 14

FlyingIsis

1

maaaybe he's just embarrassed/feels awkward about it...or he´s a horrid tart....only you can say

Reply 15

Barny

17

Did anyone else laugh very, very, very hard, at this thread?

Reply 16

FlyingIsis

1

how rude, someone is obviously quite distressed here....yes i did :p:

Reply 17

Ferrus

19

imasillynarb

Did anyone else laugh very, very, very hard, at this thread?

To be honest... yes.

I really wouldnt read to much into it, there could be laods of reaons for the reply.

Reply 18

saz_1989

2

You've only been going out two months... I'd say move on and find someone better at uni. Don't worry about it :hugs:

Love just complicates things, normally in a bad way. :hugs:

Reply 19

Lil-Qu

hayley_1604

I went out tonight, it is my boyfriend's last day before going to uni, so the last time I will see him before we both come back/visit one another. I just said to him "I love you" as I got out of his car and he said "yep, see you later". OMG I feel like such a fool. We've written "love you" in texts to each other and we have said it in person once before!! I don't get it. He's been acting weird these past few days, but tonight he seemed normal. I don't get it. Was he just using me?? What does this mean?

Not a something you should worry about... but you shouldnt forget about it either! try and see him again and say that you love him once more, if he gives you a reply like that again then theres a problem

i love you...

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