How can you tell?

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I think one of my mates is starting to have feelings for me. Just the vibe I've been getting lately. :frown:

He's lovely, but he just ain't my type!

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pikaboo

I always thought kisses meant he either liked you or was gay. I think it's a pretty good measure.

The guy I like puts kisses at the end of his texts, but he's definitely not gay and definitely doesn't want me to be his girlfriend. :frown:

Reply 26

visesh

17

I am not gay, and i usually put kisses at the end of most of my texts to girls (who i may or may not have a thing for)

Reply 27

Jump

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visesh

I am not gay, and i usually put kisses at the end of most of my texts to girls (who i may or may not have a thing for)

I'm not gay and I do that to some of the guys too, just to piss them off. xx

Reply 28

OP

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the bear

check his eyes...if the pupils are dilated when he is near you he fancies you...or is on drugs.

Oh that reminds me of something my sister joked about - their pupils could be dilating just as much from the fact that you're blocking out the light :biggrin:

lol!

Well, body language - micmicking the other person's body language could simply mean you get on well though. A couple of times I was completely shocked that the entire position of my body and even exact thing I was holding was identical to my friend who stood next to me - and I'm really not sure whom copied whom and it wasn't even deliberate. But that doesn't mean we fancy each other (both girls, both straight). Although maybe it's different when it's a guy? Don't have many guy-friends - no one from school were particularly my type of people.

Don't think xxxx could be seen as much of a sign here - I do it all the time to guy and girl alike, although I do give more kisses to a close friend or someone I fancy :p:

I dunno, I suppose I'm also confused about how you can tell it apart if you actually fancy/are starting to fancy the guy as well? Have learnt in the past you could read so much into things you mistake signs of good friendship for signs of something more.

Reply 29

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To Iris - I don't think there's a way of *telling*

If I knew, I'd be a millionaire

*groans*

Reply 30

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FlyingIsis

you can always tell by the way he looks at you/ if at all :p:

Meh, well, I'm a girl, and therefore not a guy (!), but with people I like, I can hardly look at them...

*attack of the shyness eeeek!*

Reply 31

OP

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FlyingIsis

you can always tell by the way he looks at you/ if at all :p:

Oh that reminds me of someone who had a bit of a crush on me in yr7 - think he fancied me for 3 years or something before he gave up lol. I remember him staring at me from across our geography classroom and would turn away if I ever look back at him. Tbh if my parents hadn't had a policy of saying we're not supposed to date til we're at uni, I probably would've dated the guy, even if we were just a *bit* young! I think I eventually fancied him for a while too lol.

Reply 32

Barny

17

If I fancy someone and I'm sober I can barely make eye contact with them :frown:

Reply 33

16

I think all the body language signs are ridiculous. How much do people get paid to think this crap up anyway?

Even if there is any truth in it, who's going to be analysing their potential's body language? I know that when I'm with someone I like I just smile a lot and laugh a lot and feel like a bundle of nerves inside, and I'm far too worried about what he thinks of me to even remember that such a thing as body language exists.

Anyway, everyone is different. Someone might touch your arm because they fancy you, or they might just touch anyone's arm at that particular point in the conversation.

Reply 34

OP

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xx_ambellina_xx

To Iris - I don't think there's a way of *telling*

If I knew, I'd be a millionaire

*groans*

Hmmm, well I got thinking simply cus I think I'm starting to like this guy but well, don't intend on letting my feelings dwell or grow before I find out whether the feeling is mutual. And then in the past I've mistaken one guy for liking me when he's just downright affectionate but as a friend.

Oh and if some guys give signs like one of my guy-friends does, then whoever he fancies and fancies him back but is waiting for him to make the first move, then the girl is pretty doomed. Cus this guy-friend's only signs are "hello" "goodbye" and then he leaves :rolleyes:

Reply 35

Barny

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susiemakemeblue

I know that when I'm with someone I like I just smile a lot and laugh a lot and feel like a bundle of nerves inside, and I'm far too worried about what he thinks of me to even remember that such a thing as body language exists.

Isnt that what they base their theories on? How you act when you're not even thinking about it, after all, thats what body language is..

Reply 36

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irisng

Hmmm, well I got thinking simply cus I think I'm starting to like this guy but well, don't intend on letting my feelings dwell or grow before I find out whether the feeling is mutual. And then in the past I've mistaken one guy for liking me when he's just downright affectionate but as a friend.

Oh and if some guys give signs like one of my guy-friends does, then whoever he fancies and fancies him back but is waiting for him to make the first move, then the girl is pretty doomed. Cus this guy-friend's only signs are "hello" "goodbye" and then he leaves :rolleyes:

I can sympathise with that, it causes embarassment. I think the best thing to do in these situations is to wait it out...Meh...

Reply 37

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imasillynarb

Isnt that what they base their theories on? How you act when you're not even thinking about it, after all, thats what body language is..

Yes but my point is, most people would be too nervous to even think about the other person's body language, let alone analyse it. Hence why this information is at best, useless, and at worst, a hindrance to them.

Reply 38

OP

15

Body language affects the subconscious, I think. Don't do psychology so could be wrong but it's what I think anyway! You act that way without really noticing and the other person takes note of that subconsciously but you may not consciously know it. Like I remember I was in this room having a one-on-one talk on the subject Psychology and I had my body averted from the man and arms folded. Towards the end, my body faced him, my hands were on my lap, and our body positions were in symmetry. I did not notice this or did it consciously - but then I asked about body language cus I find it interesting and the guy told me all of that detail I just wrote that, all of which indicated I was more relaxed and opened, which was true.

Ambellina - wait it out... hmm yeh I suppose it's the only way. Going to different unis anyway. I'm not overly bothered but still, wish I had a way of knowing!

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