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Is it me...
Or does it seem that when two people meet at a club for the first time and hit it off the relationship tends not to last very long.
Does the way you meet you gf/bf determine how the relationship will continue (generally speaking)
Guys at clubs who are single tend to go there with only one thing on their mind (I would know heh), hooking up with someone there results in a very shallow relationship as you know nothing about each other etc.
Relationships stemming from friendships or casual aquaintance tend to be longer lasting I think and more solid.
Opinions?
Does the way you meet you gf/bf determine how the relationship will continue (generally speaking)
Guys at clubs who are single tend to go there with only one thing on their mind (I would know heh), hooking up with someone there results in a very shallow relationship as you know nothing about each other etc.
Relationships stemming from friendships or casual aquaintance tend to be longer lasting I think and more solid.
Opinions?
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Reply 1
i agree completely. If you meet through friends you are more likely to share similar interests and opinions, which is what make relationships more long lasting.
You can meet anyone in a club, and they can have such a different opinion on what a girlfriend/boyfriend should be like or just on life in general that you can never get on the same wavelength
You can meet anyone in a club, and they can have such a different opinion on what a girlfriend/boyfriend should be like or just on life in general that you can never get on the same wavelength
Reply 2
I think it depends on the people. I knew my boyfriend for over a year and we'd been very close for about 6 months before we got together and we've now been together for over 14 months. I think part of it is that when youre friends first you know what the person is like, know their bad habits etc, whereas often when you meet someone in a club the attraction is based on looks and surface personality, and when you get to know them you realise they're actually annoying, really shallow etc.
Reply 3
yeah. my boyf and I were friends first, and so we knew we shared interests, life outlooks etc. i think its better that way. i didn't see him as anything more than a friend for the first few weeks we knew each other.
It's usually said that long-term relationships thrive on a foundation of friendship, because once the initial lust burns away then you need a deeper connection to keep things going.
I'm a sucker for romance as well, a relationship that starts by pulling in a club wouldn't appeal to me at all. I'm all for a longer courting period
I'm a sucker for romance as well, a relationship that starts by pulling in a club wouldn't appeal to me at all. I'm all for a longer courting period
Reply 6
i think if you meet someone, with the thought in your head 'i want to go out with him/her' then you have expectations that you wouldn't have if you made friends first.
Reply 8
haha i wonder if it the other way round for guys!?
Yeh I agree too. And recently a postgrad friend gave me one piece of advice - never date someone you met at a club cus you dunno what their intentions are!
And in the end, I think relationships are basically something further built upon a good friendship. And how can you say seriously you're into a certain person if you don't know them? Sure you can be attracted to them physically and may enjoy the company, but a relationship takes more. Takes trust - and you can't trust a stranger. You just naturally don't rely on a stranger and don't expect much of them.
And in the end, I think relationships are basically something further built upon a good friendship. And how can you say seriously you're into a certain person if you don't know them? Sure you can be attracted to them physically and may enjoy the company, but a relationship takes more. Takes trust - and you can't trust a stranger. You just naturally don't rely on a stranger and don't expect much of them.
Reply 12
Indus1986
Or does it seem that when two people meet at a club for the first time and hit it off the relationship tends not to last very long.
Does the way you meet you gf/bf determine how the relationship will continue (generally speaking)
Guys at clubs who are single tend to go there with only one thing on their mind (I would know heh), hooking up with someone there results in a very shallow relationship as you know nothing about each other etc.
Relationships stemming from friendships or casual aquaintance tend to be longer lasting I think and more solid.
Opinions?
Does the way you meet you gf/bf determine how the relationship will continue (generally speaking)
Guys at clubs who are single tend to go there with only one thing on their mind (I would know heh), hooking up with someone there results in a very shallow relationship as you know nothing about each other etc.
Relationships stemming from friendships or casual aquaintance tend to be longer lasting I think and more solid.
Opinions?
judgin from ur post on the race n relationship thread-i think uve found ur problem. if races arent allowed 2 mix-how do u think u will ever find some1 special?
Reply 14
My parents met in a nightclub!
They are now divorced! Haha, yes. Apparently if meeting your partner in an orthadontists is very good!
They are now divorced! Haha, yes. Apparently if meeting your partner in an orthadontists is very good!
I met Wzz on TSR and we're getting married. What does that say?
You can't pigeonhole every relationship like that.
Saying that guys only go to clubs to get off with girls is not strictly true, and you can't automatically assume that you'll not have a good relationship because you didn't meet through friends.
You can't pigeonhole every relationship like that.
Saying that guys only go to clubs to get off with girls is not strictly true, and you can't automatically assume that you'll not have a good relationship because you didn't meet through friends.
well i met my boyfriend on a blind date do it was pretty much a relationship from the start- well we didn't kiss til 3 days later but really that's nothing... i think if you're compatible it makes no difference how you met. I probably would have bumped into him at some point as we discovered later that we do actually share some friends... I dunno what the way we met says about our relationship but the way i see it it's just coincidental- nothing we can do about it!
Reply 17
I met my girlfriend in a club and we're still going strong 18 months on. I guess we were just lucky in that we found someone we could connect to straight away and built a friend/relationship up around that.
Reply 18
Indus1986
I have and it is easy.
if its so easy,then y start this thread/?
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