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Guy at college

Well I've been at college for about 2 weeks now and everything seems okay-ish. There's this guy in my tutor group who I got talking to and now he won't leave me alone! Last Thursday I didn't have anyone to sit next to at lunch so he came and sat beside me. We were talking for a while and then he asked for my number- I gave it to him without thinking. He then asked if I wanted to go bowling with him and I said yes, without thinking.

In the last few days he's texted me around 16 times and I don't want to go bowling with him because I hardly know him! How do I tell him this? I don't think he fancies me he just wants to be friends.

So what shall I do? He's texts me loads and this means he must want to be my friend or something but I don't want to hurt his feelings or anything :confused:

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Reply 1
Honesty is the best policy, you will probably hurt his feelings more if you ignore texts or not turn up for bowling.
yeah as book-worm said, tell him straight, just say to him the lets get to know each other better, become friends fist, i'm not intrested in going out with anyone at the moment, but perhapse we can just be friends and tell him that, try to let him down gently,. but then again part of that was self inflicted with the insentanious response of yes with the do you want to go bowling, ... just talk to him at college 2morrow or what ever days you go, and just say to him that you i think we should be mates, but thats it and try to be civil which i am sure you are, just tell him the truth about how you feel.
He probably does fancy you. But um, maybe you should go and see how it goes...? If not, then follow their ^^ advice.
Reply 4
IjustlovetheIB
He probably does fancy you. But um, maybe you should go and see how it goes...? If not, then follow their ^^ advice.



i think your right.
Reply 5
StripeyGirl
he asked for my number- I gave it to him without thinking. He then asked if I wanted to go bowling with him and I said yes, without thinking...


you basically didnt think :biggrin: ... you gave him the wrong impression there by saying yes... I did exactly the same thing as you but just told her straight that i wasn't interested... prob also best thing for you to do if your not interested in him... but be careful how you go about it :smile:
Reply 6
Is he going to pay for the bowling? Cos I'd never turn down free bowling....
Reply 7
Don't give the poor lad any more false hope than you already have, tell him your not interested and leave him be...
A lot better than feigning interest then getting bored.....
Reply 8
we just live life once.................... so LIVE it and LOVE it.

what's the harm in knowing him, he is not throwing stones at you, innit ?
he just wants to be friends, so what's the big deal about it ?
if you dont like him, then dump him later.
Book-worm
Honesty is the best policy, you will probably hurt his feelings more if you ignore texts or not turn up for bowling.


FOOL!!!!!!!!!!


Just lie, smart poeple lie all the time and they get far in life just look at politicians.
Reply 10
and please ..... dont dump him while he is bowling .... or holding a bowling ball.
he might bang ya.
have sex with him and then dump him :top:
Reply 12
RedRenengade
FOOL!!!!!!!!!!


Just lie, smart poeple lie all the time and they get far in life just look at politicians.



well said! :congrats:
It's almost digusting how you've dismissed him without giving him a chance.
Reply 14
shrutikim
well said! :congrats:


Aye, so true.

Oh the irony.
Reply 15
StripeyGirl
Well I've been at college for about 2 weeks now and everything seems okay-ish. There's this guy in my tutor group who I got talking to and now he won't leave me alone! Last Thursday I didn't have anyone to sit next to at lunch so he came and sat beside me. We were talking for a while and then he asked for my number- I gave it to him without thinking. He then asked if I wanted to go bowling with him and I said yes, without thinking.

In the last few days he's texted me around 16 times and I don't want to go bowling with him because I hardly know him! How do I tell him this? I don't think he fancies me he just wants to be friends.

So what shall I do? He's texts me loads and this means he must want to be my friend or something but I don't want to hurt his feelings or anything :confused:


honesty is the best policy, just tell him he needs to sekkle (calm down) with the text's as your feeling uncomfortable getting so many in one day.

kenzo*
you obviously subconciously fancy him, you are just scared of getting into a relationship, don't worry i'm sure it'll work out
Reply 17
Talk to him and tell him how you feel, perhaps still go bowling but get others to come along and have it as a get to know people kinda do? That way you're letting him know how you fell and are still doing the bowling thing and he may become a friend once you get to know him.
You know the only time bad things ever happen to peopel is when they don't listen to me.

So you should really just lie like crap.
Reply 19
shrutikim
we just live life once.................... so LIVE it and LOVE it.

what's the harm in knowing him, he is not throwing stones at you, innit ?


So why waste time with people you don't like?

Innit.