Was your 1st time painful??

some of my friends have said they were in agony the first time they had sex, which has really scared me seeing as i am such a baby.. so i was just wondering how was it for you (guys and girls) and does it get less painfull each time or is it only the 1st time and then fine after that??

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Reply 1

daniel_williams

erm well, my first time, i dind't ezperience any apin, its just strange trying to get into the rhythm of what you are doing, but you get into it once you have ahd a few sesions, i am not sure how it is for women, but for me its was ok, the only problem is if they are erm how do i put it nicely... tight downstairs, then you can havea bit of trouble gaining acess so to speak, but other than taht i haven't had any pain or anything

Reply 2

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

Haha, i think she meant girls!

Reply 3

daniel_williams

DanGrover

Haha, i think she meant girls!

yeah i kno, but she did put in brackets guys and girls, so i was letting her know about my first time. but yeah ure right she is seeking more female advice

Reply 4

jayne87

well i primarily do but i am also interested in guys views/feelings/opinions :smile:

Reply 5

fabulous_darling

I've been scared to death by horror stories from my friends. I think I may remain a virgin for life.

I can't even stick a tampon up there, so I don't have a clue how anything else can possibly fit in.

Reply 6

sr4470

It loosens up when you're sexually aroused.

Reply 7

viviki

have you tried lube for the tampons?
My first time wasn't a horror story but I had pain quite a few times after when I tensed up. Keep trying with the tampons it certainly helps loosen you up and make you a bit more at ease with down there IMO.

Reply 8

fabulous_darling

sr4470

It loosens up when you're sexually aroused.

And tampons just don't turn me on.. :p:

Reply 9

Adhsur

I'm not sure but I suppose a lot will depend on how caring your bf is and how comfortable you are about it all (taking your time etc).

Reply 10

sr4470

spangletastic

And tampons just don't turn me on.. :p:

I hope your bf does though...

Reply 11

edu

Adhsur

I'm not sure but I suppose a lot will depend on how caring your bf is and how comfortable you are about it all (taking your time etc).

pretty much focus on it depends on how the guy treats you......... simple as.... btw "be gentle" is very hawt lol!

Reply 12

sr4470

L1m3y

pretty much focus on it depends on how the guy treats you......... simple as.... btw "be gentle" is very hawt lol!

Indeed.

Reply 13

Adhsur

L1m3y

btw "be gentle" is very hawt lol!

Reply 14

Vixen

Yeh, it was quite bad. I was afraid I'd bleed aswell but I didnt. Dont build it up to be the most horrifying thing in the world though because then you'll be too tense for it. It actually wasnt as painful as I'd thought it would be though if that helps.

Reply 15

Madelyn

Mine was fine, but friends have said theirs were pretty painful. I think the best advice is to take it slowly, relax, like Vixen says, don't build it up into a big thing - it's not going to be perfect (if it is, you're very lucky!), but be careful and insist that he's gentle (if he isn't, why are you doing it with him?) and you should be ok. I wouldn't let fear of it stop you having sex if you want to.
Oh, and I found it was nothing like inserting a tampon.

Reply 16

TheVlad

Did you guys all manage to do it the first time you tried?

Reply 17

pheebs

a little bit painful but beautiful too!

Reply 18

Agrippina

It was very painful for me for the first few times, but I still enjoyed the emotional aspect and overall it was a positive experience.

Reply 19

willey

As a blokes perspective, my first time was with my ex, ex girlfriend.
we were both virgins at the time.

we had problems the first few times we had sex, i.e i just couldnt get it in, however after making her relax it was fine, blokes must go slow though.