am I really a bisexual man?

harrison1984

I'm 20 year old male, and find women much more attractive, and more fascinating then men. Until recently I considered myself bisexual, still do in a way because I do find some men attractive.

Last week, I met up with this attractive guy, and we talked and ended up in bed, I just couldn't get turned on, I never have found men's bodies attractive, but I like men's faces, I look at the way they dress etc, but intimately it's women who do it for me.

I don't know what I am, sometimes i'm in a club and stare at guys, but physically and mentally women turn me on more, for some reason pulling a guy is easier but it doesn't mean I want a man more, because I don't.

I'm not seeing this guy again, and the thought of going down on a guy doesn't do it for me, but I would let a guy go down on me. :rolleyes:

Sorry if this sounds confusing, are they're any other bisexuals on here who can relate to me?

Reply 1

Kerrigan

Well, I am female, but I used to think I was bisexual and I felt the same way about men & women as you do! I realised that it was women that really did it for me and I was gay.

I still look at men sometimes and think that they are cute or handsome etc and it seems to me like I almost do this in more than just an objective way, like there are some guys I seem to really quite like looking at, but actually getting it on with them...? I don't seem to be interested in that at all.

Whereas with women... I feel incredibly drawn to them and want to sleep with them!

Reply 2

Book-worm

8

harrison1984

I'm 20 year old male, and find women much more attractive, and more fascinating then men. Until recently I considered myself bisexual, still do in a way because I do find some men attractive.

Last week, I met up with this attractive guy, and we talked and ended up in bed, I just couldn't get turned on, I never have found men's bodies attractive, but I like men's faces, I look at the way they dress etc, but intimately it's women who do it for me.

I don't know what I am, sometimes i'm in a club and stare at guys, but physically and mentally women turn me on more, for some reason pulling a guy is easier but it doesn't mean I want a man more, because I don't.

I'm not seeing this guy again, and the thought of going down on a guy doesn't do it for me, but I would let a guy go down on me. :rolleyes:

Sorry if this sounds confusing, are they're any other bisexuals on here who can relate to me?

I think you need to spend some time alone and have a serious word with yourself!

Reply 3

harrison1984

OP

That's how I feel, maybe i'm a lesbian trapped in a man's body!!

I like looking at some guy's, but when it actually come's to both of us being naked, and seeing the guy naked, he makes me laugh, not turns me on.

Reply 4

TKR

15

i think you're straight - if you dont want to have sex with men then you're not bisexual!

Reply 5

Book-worm

8

I would worry if i was you!

why is it worrying?

I think you are straight actually, agreeing with TKR. The reason you might be incline to let a guy go down on you is because like much of the human population you know what you want from a sexual experience. It's very true that particularly with the down below, men are particular about how they are erm.. served. And it is for this reason that some men would rather another man gave them this, because then there is a mutual understanding of what men want from it. Some straight men will allow gay guys go down on them, because they appreciate that most of the time these guys know what they want, if you see what I mean... If you don't want to have sex with guys and do not find them especially attractive in a physical sense, then I would say you are straight.. maybe just more aware of the grey areas in sexuality than some people.

Reply 8

Book-worm

8

Because you sound confused as hell!

Reply 9

~Raven~

11

You do sound confused but this is totally natural. I'm bisexual, but for a while I thought that I might just be staright. However, when hooking up with my ex recently (female) I was... definately interested, but I still feel that way about guys too.
I wouldn't worry about it - it won't help. I would just have a good hard look at myself, and ask yourself one question - Do you want to be with a guy?
i think you already know the answer.

Reply 10

Lawzza

I really wouldnt let the situation worry you more.
You are young, you have many years in front of you to work out what you want, and In the mean time it may do some good just having some you time, and giving your self time to think things through. Im sure you will feel much better for it.