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How do you deal with knowing you'll never see someone you love ever again?

Anonymous #1

...when you thought you thought you'd potentially be spending your life with them?

Is 'time' the only answer?

Reply 1

lorj

Time.

It sucks but you sadly cant rush these things :frown:

... time is a healer :frown:

Reply 2

olive*

12

Time will help you forget

But you may never get better

Reply 3

sparkplug

11

Anonymous

...when you thought you thought you'd potentially be spending your life with them?

Is 'time' the only answer?

Pretty much. It's horrible and it'll take probably a very long time given that you say you thought you were going to go the distance, but it'll happen eventually.

Chin up, I've been there before and it does eventually get better.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

...when you thought you thought you'd potentially be spending your life with them?

Is 'time' the only answer?

I think it gradually becomes less painful with time, but might always be there in the back of your mind.

Reply 5

deathbeforeimmortality

16

You accept it for what it is. It's a reality everyone has to face, even if it isn't identical to your situation (death of loved one etc). Doesn't make it easier to deal with but you're not alone. Just prepare yourself.

Reply 6

Wayne4

olive*

Time will help you forget

But you may never get better

..it's the other way round.

Reply 7

SatanIsAwesome

13

Find something to distract yourself.

Reply 8

Anonymous #3

I've been in that situation for 4 years now, and time hasn't helped so far..

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

This is unbearable...

I know I shouldn't think of the past and look to the future but he isn't in my future...only my past now. It's too cruel - not for my loss, but for the loss of his own life.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I've been in that situation for 4 years now, and time hasn't helped so far..

Oh god

Four years? I'm so sorry. How do you cope?

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

Oh god

Four years? I'm so sorry. How do you cope?

I barely cope. Getting in to uni this year was one of the only things that stopped me from killing myself. I don't mean to lay a load of pessimissim on you though, I'm sure things will get better for you :smile:

I'm just.. an odd case

Reply 12

username405416

11

You've just made me appreciate how lucky I am. I've been down because my boyfriend is going to uni in 2 weeks. Now I feel like a complete idiot.
People do say that time will heal, but having no experience of this, I'm not sure if it's true. My best friend lost her mum 3 years ago. Her mum and dad had been married nearly 20 years. Over the past year he's finally accepted it and been able to move on. Now he has a new partner and seems genuinely happy, but obviously her death will always be part of his life. So I guess there is hope...
I hope the future gets brighter for you too. I'm sure it will.

Reply 13

Land-based mammal

1

olive*

But you may never get better

is that true, have you experienced that?

Reply 14

bunty64

17

Anonymous

...when you thought you thought you'd potentially be spending your life with them?

Is 'time' the only answer?

yep time is the only thing... I was physically sick when I found out the girl I loved was marrying someone else..... took some time to get over her... still gets to me when I hear her name or someone talking about her.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

If I had ended up really being with him, forever if I was that lucky...it meant he was someone that could've(and I felt was) the right one for me. I don't think I'll ever find that again...

Reply 16

Panda Vinnie

this thread has made me so sad :frown:

just great :mad:

just what I needed at 2:30am :erm:

OP, if you are never ever going to see that person again then the only thing you can do is accept the reality of it. It will get easier to accept over time, you will get used to their absence and eventually you'll learn to live with it :yep:

I know it's easy said than done, but instead of thinking about losing that person just be happy that you knew them, have memories with them :smile:

best of luck :yy:

Reply 17

Spinnerette

16

you just have to go through the stages of grieving. They're basically similar and correspond with the end of a relationship as well.

Reply 18

When will I know?

9

i would be devasted, but then i already have lost contact with someone i liked. :\

Reply 19

Fried Butter

If you're religious it's much easier.

If not face reality. They're gone. That's it. They're never coming back. If they could tell you what to do, they would certainly not ask you to waste your life doting on their memory but move on. You could be missing out on so many great opportunities in the time you waste dreaming about them. The next love of your life. Your dream job. Don't be a chump. Plenty of people have **** happening to them. Don't let it get to you!

How do you deal with knowing you'll never see someone you love ever again?

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