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Friends/Family being clingy...

I'm all geared up for leaving next week, and I feel mostly fine about it...

I have a sister, who's 11, and when she found out I was leaving, she cried for hours and wouldn't talk to me. Last week, I left her for a couple of days to go stay with a friend, and she was constantly texting me, ringing me, asking me to come home. She's getting worse the closer I am to leaving. I asked her if she wanted to help me pack.. "No, because if I don't help, you might not leave". Now don't get me wrong, I sort of expected this off her, I didn't ever expect her to be happy that I'm moving away from her. But now I feel bad. I feel like I shouldn't be leaving her, because she's getting so upset about it. I don't mind leaving my mum and dad, they're being fine about everything and.. Yeah..

But then theres my best friend too. We talked about my sister last night, and how hard its gonna be leaving her. And then when I got in, she sent me a message. "sometimes i wish you were a dumbass cause then you wouldnt be going off to get a better life, you'd be stuck here with the rest of us idiots".

I'm not looking forward to next friday at all. It's the last time I'll see both of them, for a while, and i'm scared of how I'm gonna feel about it all. I know I'm doing the right thing, and I know neither of them are trying to hold me back, and they want me to go and have fun.. But..

I spose I just wanted somewhere to write all this. I know a lot of people are gonna be feeling similar things to this, is anyone else finding it so difficult? The thought of saying goodbye?
I kind of understand how you feel. Most of my friends have left for college already and they all had the same "omg I'm actually leaving" last minute panic. And I was just like your best friend. I was happy for them, and still am, but I knew I was gonna miss them, and I still do. It was hard for me, but I know it must have been harder for them. They were all really scared and upset about leaving, but now they're doing great. They're having fun and are happy they have left, although they obviously miss their families and the friends they've left back home.

So anyway, just think positive! You'll meet lots of new people, you'll live on your own in a new environment and you'll be there to study something you actually like! (I'm assuming you're going to college, by the way) so...yeah. It's normal for you to feel this way but things will change, you'll be fine. And your sister and your friend will be sad for a while, but they'll get used to it. It's just a matter of time. And you'll see each other in a few months anyway.

Trust me, it's hard and all, but you will be fine and won't regret it. :smile:
Your related to Chingy?
Right thurr!
my family are being all anoying about me leaving grrr...there acting more stressed out than me, constantly asking if ive packed this and that.

My freinds are pretending not to be too bothered, but I can tell that next weeks 'farewell' will be emotional.
I wouldn't worry about it, everyone takes time to adjust, but ultimately, you're going to have to move out some time anyway. They will miss you and you will miss them, and it'll be very hard at first, but you'll soon make loads of new friends and as long as you still keep in contact with everyone back home all will work out well. :smile: