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Straight up talkin

Experience wise, i've only gone out with girls that i have been introduced too. A friend of a friend sort of thing. However, sometimes when i'm walking down the street i see a beautiful girl and we acknowlegde each other and .. walk past each other. Its not a confidence problem it just the fact that i haven't got a clue how to approach a random girl in that scenario. My friend recommended saying to her 'Have you got the time... and can i have your number?' but this approach has got cheddar written all over it. So first of all guys how would you approach it and secondly, gals has a random fit guy ever walked up to you and tried to chat you up.

PS. I don't mean going in groups up to people nor chatting girls up in clubs etc.

Reply 1

hugatree

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DENNIS_MENACE

this approach has got cheddar written all over it.

Um no guys have never randomly tried to chat me up. :frown:

It'd be nice though, not weird at all, I recommend you to try it! Makes a girl feel good about herself. :biggrin:

Don't be shy, it's not like the girl is gonna try it.

Reply 2

legbreakgoogly

Cheddar breeds jealousy. Remember that.

Reply 3

dave

DENNIS_MENACE

Its not a confidence problem it just the fact that i haven't got a clue how to approach a random girl in that scenario.

What's wrong with introducing yourself then asking the girl's name? Simple enough. Be direct and candid. The worst that can happen is she'll tell you to p*ss off. Nobody ever died from that.

Reply 4

andyj72

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bodhisattva

What's wrong with introducing yourself then asking the girl's name? Simple enough. Be direct and candid. The worst that can happen is she'll tell you to p*ss off. Nobody ever died from that.

lol, i tried it it doesnt work. i have a similar problem as the author of this post. in my case if i dont meet her in any of my lessons i find it hard to approach her. i am a little shy but im trying to become more confident.

im my case i use to see her a lot and smile and she use to do the same then one day i introduced myself and asked her for hers and stuff politely and she started laughing then blanked me. :mad:

till today i wonder what went wrong

Reply 5

Icy Ghost

2

im my case i use to see her a lot and smile and she use to do the same then one day i introduced myself and asked her for hers and stuff politely and she started laughing then blanked me.

till today i wonder what went wrong

Maybe your flies were open? Or you had something stuck in your teeth?

Seriously though, it could be anything. She might just be nervous and didn't know what to do so just laughed, and afterwards was awkward towards you.

Reply 6

Adhsur

15

I think in a situation like that you should at least try and assess whether the girl you bump into (or whatever) actually wants to talk to you too. Does she smile when you smile at her, etc? I think it's a bit dangerous if you approach a stranger who won't even look at you and clearly doesn't seem interested.

If she does seem interested, you're half way there. There's nothing to lose in talking to her.

Reply 7

andyj72

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Icy Ghost

Maybe your flies were open? Or you had something stuck in your teeth?

Seriously though, it could be anything. She might just be nervous and didn't know what to do so just laughed, and afterwards was awkward towards you.

hehe, well nothing like that. that morning i felt so good until then. ahaha

Reply 8

DENNIS_MENACE

OP

I do admit that i have tried to chat up a random girl but to no avail. I asked how old she was? (Stupid, perhaps) and she told me seventeen but then muttered the immortal word 'Why?' I was kind of shocked by this question and jokingly explained that i was member of the Uk Survey squad and am currently researching the age of the people that walk on this particular street. The thing is, she actually believed me!

Reply 9

polythenepam

2

well people have tried to chat me up in the street and its very flattering! reli there is no wrong or right thing to say because each girl is different! i suggest u just try talking to these girls, we dont bite(hard). and if u do get rejected u can at least say u tried and no u wont be missing nething good! if she responds positively then you will have taken a risk, but it will have paid off!!

Reply 10

Profesh

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DENNIS_MENACE

I asked how old she was? (Stupid, perhaps) and she told me seventeen but then muttered the immortal word 'Why?' I was kind of shocked by this question and jokingly explained that i was member of the Uk Survey squad and am currently researching the age of the people that walk on this particular street. The thing is, she actually believed me!

Not everyone is gifted by comedic genius: perhaps, in future, wearing a clown hat might serve to ameliorate the situation.

Reply 11

Barny

17

I was wondering the same actually, I don't think theres a chance in hell of making anything from it to be honest, no matter what anyone here says you can't just chat up a random girl because shes smiled at you..

Reply 12

kate86

8

If someone tries to chat me up when im all on my own jus walkin down the street i always get right nervous and run off!
I think its because i think that they are having me on!

Reply 13

Dragonshorts

1

I would think it was cool if someone randomly came up to me. Probably not if he was with a load of sniggering friends (or if I was for that matter), but yeah, its a dead sweet idea, go for it.

Reply 14

Oziris

15

Profesh

Not everyone is gifted by comedic genius: perhaps, in future, wearing a clown hat might serve to ameliorate the situation.

I like to call these people Comically Challenged.

Reply 15

shavenwookiee

6

How about this. If your worried about girls, just go round approaching the most attrative girls you can, and say something like:

'Hi, my names **** and I'm performing an excersize to reduce my fear of approaching girls I find attractive. Thanks for participating!'

Then walk off.

Dont rush it and speak clearly. Half the time they'll get talking to you anyway!

Reply 16

marmalade

1

it's happened to me

a guy might ask me something which is obviously an attempt to talk to me, but in a way that doesn't matter, because if I do want to talk to him I'll carry on the conversation, if I don't I'll go

I was quite impressed that he's jusy come up and talk to me, it was flattering

Reply 17

musicbloke

17

You should wear a trench coat with nothing underneath. Then walk up to the girl, stand in front of her, and open the front.

MB

Reply 18

Audacious

4

musicbloke

You should wear a trench coat with nothing underneath. Then walk up to the girl, stand in front of her, and open the front.

MB

lol yeah, i can see that really working :rolleyes:

But seriously, just ask her summin, start a convo going, if she stops and speaks to you then great if not well better luck next time. You win some you lose some. I mean when im in town and bored with mates or just alone, i will start talking to people and getting to know them. hey even if they dont want a boyf u may find urself a great mate. just go at it so to talk to them as a friend rather then arm-candy.

Reply 19

DENNIS_MENACE

OP

Mmm... i think startin convo's was may main problem. The fact is i can't just go up to sum1 and say something like 'I believe Darwin's theory of evolution is incorrect. Lets discuss this for a few minutes, i'll then ask for your number, buy you a drink, become great lovers, get married, have children and live happily ever after.' Rose tinted glasses me thinks.

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