bondage- what to do!

OK, I'm a 21 year old girl, I've only ever had 1 bf - been with him for 18 months. I really love our sex life, but I'm worried that I just don't have any new ideas to make it exciting for him. I'm totally satisfied :wink:

with just missionary & a snuggle afterwards. He just seems to know exactly what to do. :love:

He's said a couple of times that he'd like to try bondage, for me to tie him up. I don't like the idea of being tied up myself, but I want to try tying him if that's what he wants. The problem is... I just have no idea what to do!

I mean, should I get hanbdcuffs? (I'd just feel so embarrassed buying them!) where do you get them from? Then when should I put them on him? And then what should I, you know, do? Do I have to dominate him as well (I just can't imagine I'd be very good at it!)

I've tried looking up bondage on the internet, spme of the outfits are quite sexy but but what they do looks really scary and weird, all these people getting beaten and stuff, just a total turnoff. I don't think that's what he wants (I hope). I don't want to hurt him, I just want to give him a really good time & show that I love him & I'm willing to try new things.

I feel so embarrassed and clueless! Anyone out there tried this stuff in real life? Any advice?

Reply 1

Keith Lemon

You're satisfied with just missionary...?

I feel sorry for both you and your boyfriend!

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

If your comfortable with doing it then give it a try.

As with the embarrassment with buying the handcuffs your just gonna have to walk into a shop and buy them OR you could always order them off the net :wink:

If your not sure what to do then ask him what he wants.

Remember only do things if you want to and are comfortable though :smile:

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

OK, for bondage equipment try lovehoney.com. It's cheap, good enough for 'playing around' or stuff a bit more serious, and is delivered discreetly so shouldn't embarrass you, and you don't have to go into a shop! So handcuffs are definitely an option. I like tying him up with rope instead, just got it from B&Q and then tie each wrist/ankle to the bedposts...

If you've tied him up then you're going to have to be a little dominant. It can be awkward so just go for it. Think of it that he's helpless and you just have free range of his body. Kissing and stroking if that's all you want to start with. Teasing is fun, like holding your lips just a little too far from his and making him work for it. Staying dressed while he is not. Leave the room and just let him suffer.

If he wants to be tied up then he'l probably be happy with whatever you do afterwards. Start slowly, that's what I did. We started in a very non-threatening non-painful way that wasn't really BDSM, and then built it up gradually, introducing ice cubes, or some tickling or gentle scratching, or a blindfold. You'll quickly get an idea of what both of you enjoy.

The key is to not be embarrassed! If you don't like it or he doesn't like it make sure you say to eachother. Or, if you're being dominant, make him put up with it a little bit for your pleasure.

It's a very personal thing so sorry if this isn't helpful. Good luck and it can be brilliant so enjoy :smile:

Reply 4

forever_dreamer

Try the bondage tape - it's comfortable as long as you don't tie it too tight and it sticks to itself. According to friends the handcuffs are prone to breaking.

Start with just tying him up, then work up - as long as you are both comfortable with what you are doing. Have fun :smile:

Reply 5

Rhiani-ani-on

Why not try using a tie or scarf instead of handcuffs just to begin with? Then if yous decide you dont like it you havent wasted any money!! x

Reply 6

Davezk

Use ties.

Reply 7

Amziii

Scarves, sashes and ribbons work well - they also can hurt less too. You don't have to start off with the stuff you see on the internet - sounds like he's going more for the aspect of messing with the balance of power at first than being tied up by some dom in latex, gagged and beaten xD

Reply 8

tommy5x

Contrary to earlier advice, don't use rope from B&Q. The weave in normal ropes in pretty coarse and vinyl ropes chafe really easily. Try and find some fine weave cottons ropes, or as Amzii said, scarves or sashes work great.

Reply 9

She_Bittersweet

Tie him up and rape him :sexface:

Reply 10

supernicegirl

i think spicesforlove.com is best and cheap.

Reply 11

ponpon14

Definitely Lovehoney like someone said before.

Theres no harm in trying new things, you never know - you may like it!

We cant give sex tips on here, so you may want to ask on another forum.....and talk to your OH about what he actually wants!