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Sibling Relationships

Hello All, i m not too sure that the "normal" realtionships with brother/sisters is like but i think that my relationship with my sisters is far from normal. there is a long story that will take forever to write but in genreal i really dont get a long with one of my sisters. i am the oldest (17) and we live alone in our own house. we have never really got a long and today we had a massive arguement. we were arguing and debating why we hate each other. all this sounds shallow and we are family afterall but i really want to get along with my family i mean we are in it together and they seem to dislike me. im not sad about it just annoyed and worried about it for the future. i mean i dont want to grow up with my children not knowing their aunts. we say a lot of things that just come up. she really irritates me.
just wnated to know how your relatioships with your bro/sis and what do you really argue about. i meam my arguements are generally about me being lazy and apparently i am arrogant?

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Reply 1

galadriel100

It's normal to have disagreements with siblings and in arguments, you often say things that you didn't mean.
My sister and I usually get along pretty well, but then we argue about the smallest things (eg hair clips) and it goes on forever! I wasn't at home last week and when I came back, she said that she hated me and that she didn't miss me at all. A few minutes later we were friends again.
I don't think you could have an argument when you're a teenager that would casue your sisters to desert you when you're older. Wouldn't you realise that you were young and stupid?

Reply 2

Dragonshorts

I dont get on with my brother at all, we argue, we physically fight (which is unfair as he is quite big and strong and really vicious) but we dont hate each other. We argue over really petty things like the computer (he is currently poking me in the back to try and meake me get off) and the TV etc. Quite often my parents step in but recently they have been doing this really annoying thing where they ignore us when we are fighting and so I have no one there who even might consider helping me. Anyway, though, it is WAY better when everyone is getting on, so maybe you could talk to your sister and try and work out what it is that you dont like about each other. If its that you are lazy, maybe you should set up a housework rota so it is all fair, and stuff like that.

Reply 3

piiiink

I hate my brother. He forced me to it though. Wish things could be better, but, well, I'd just be happy if he was living on the streets right now. He's a theiving, spiteful, selfish little bastard.

But I get on with my sister really really well, or when we fall out, it lasts ages.. Everything either of us do, and we end up screaming at each other. I'd say this would be an example of a more normal sibling-relationship as apposed to the one with my brother!

Reply 4

keyka

i have 3 bros, and the youngest 2 (10 and 11) annoy me sometimes (eg, shouting and waking me up on saturday mornings) but we generally get along. the eldest is 16 and only a year younger than me, and we dont get on at all. hes very immature and does his best to annoy me and his younger bros all the time. there are many times when i think i hate him, but i probably dont really. your relationship is perfectly normal and im sure when you leave home and areent treding on each others toes all the time it will be fine.

Reply 5

legbreakgoogly

This thread is crazy! Thats family homez, remember:

algo para la familia

Anything for the family.

Reply 6

emilyemily

I used to physically fight with my sister a lot but I don't anymore. It's not because I like her more now, just because I used to really hurt her... it's scary thinking about it now, and also because she always tries to fight with me and so I feel that I need to be 'the sensible one' otherwise it won't end well.
I also used to argue with her all the time but I don't do that so much anymore either. The reason for that is because if I try to argue with her, she'll just walk away and start crying... she's not as mentally strong as I am, so I try to avoid confronting her etc.
If she was as mentally strong as me and didn't have a problem with confrontation, I'm sure we'd argue all the time. She does annoy me a lot and sometimes it's difficult to keep my mouth shut.
I don't think you should worry about the future. Most of the time, I really do hate my sister, but I'm sure that we will be friends when we both grow up. The main reason why I get so annoyed at my sister is because I have to spend so much time with her, and when I get older, I won't live with her and I'll hardly have to spend any time with her at all, so her annoying habits won't show through so much... and she'll be more mature.

Reply 7

Gwen

I think I'm a bit too protective of my sister... I don't like the idea that she knows about certain things in life already, when she's just supposed to be my innocent lil sister. :redface:

I still see her in the same way I did when we were in primary. :rolleyes:

Vincent - don't worry, all siblings get into arguments about one thing or another...with mine, it's usually about borrowing eachother's clothes or shoes or something silly like that - but the arguments pass, they don't mean anything and yours will too. They're still your sibling after all, and you know you love em. :wink:

Reply 8

SlyPie

I don't even talk to my half-sister. SHe is much younger than me though...

Reply 9

mathsdave

i thought you were talking about dating your sisters initially when i first started reading your post :smile:

Reply 10

SlyPie

BeitHaller

i thought you were talking about dating your sisters initially when i first started reading your post :smile:

Nah, you guys only date your cousins.

Reply 11

Audacious

I have always been close to my brothers, but i come from a family which is really close knit, like extended family and that are all really close. I kinda think that the reason we are so close is that we had 2 older sisters(or in my case an older sister and a twin) that died early in life and the whole family rallied round to help mum and dad out and that closness has stuck.

In the heat of an argument everyone says things we regret, and when i argue with my brothers we all say some nasty hurtful things, i mean my youngest brother once said he wished it was me and not may(my twin)that had died coz i was such a bitch. That kinda hurt but sometimes you have to just rise above the bait.

As you get older you'll find u tend to get on better with siblings, well according to Hannah my cousin you do, coz her and Jess used to really hate each other but the last year or two they kinda been getting on better.

Next time you feel an argument brewing, talk it out rather then shout.

Reply 12

Duck and Cover

Nah, i dont get on with my brother at all -- he's goin 2 uni next week, HA :biggrin:

Reply 13

andrena.

My brothers (one older and one younger) nevrer used to be very close or even very interested in each other, however since my elder brother went to uni he and i have become a lot closer-we talk about all sorts of thing from current affairs to our respective relationships, I suppose that it is because in many ways we are now on a level in regard to maturity (I know this sounds hypocritical considering that i am 2 years younger than him-but the do say that girls mature quicker than boys). So if you really can't stand your siblings then perhaps it will get better when the age gap doesn't make so much difference and you can really appreciate each other for who you are. Now...I am hoping that my younger brother is going to grow up one of these days so that I enjoy his company as well-no sign of it yet though alas!

Reply 14

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

I started getting on a lot better with my brother when he went to uni. I mean this summer we've got on really well, better than ever before. Maybe cause we're both that much older, basically adults, but it will get better.

Reply 15

Gem

My brother and I used to physically fight when we were younger, I always won with me being the oldest but then when he had a growth spurt and shot to 6ft, that's when I decided not to fight anymore :blush:

Actually now we're older (22, and almost 20) we get on really well! I think all siblings fight and don't get one, but at the end of the day, you'd be lost without eachother, although you may not realise it now!

Reply 16

habosh

well it's usually words fight ,shut up no you shut up you loser...etc typa thing, and yelling :biggrin:

and I hate you mee tooo ,as if I care thingie too :p:

Reply 17

Evenstar

I hated my brother when i was younger. He used to steal my stuff and money. He was violent (he once chased me with a big knife). He also vandalised his room and i had to call the police 'cos he was smashing stuff up. And he used to smoke in the house despite being repeatedly told not to by my parents. Basically he was a b*****d. :frown:

Now I feel indifferent towards him. If I didn't occasionally bump into him at my mum's house, I'd probably never see him again and I can't really say I'd be that bothered.
On the other hand, I'm really close to my sister and count her as one of my best mates not just my little sis.