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Strong feelings for stranger?

Is it possible to fall in love with a complete stranger and for the relationship to last? Yesterday we broke up with gf (long story) but only for a couple days till I come to London (that's where she is now). But yesterday night she met some guy and she says she felt for him what she hasn't felt for anyone. Thing is, she usually takes things slowly. At the moment she is unsure about everything, how much she really likes him, me, etc

So is it possible that she is completely in love with him after meeting him yesterday? Before that she was definitely in love with me as much as I am in love with her now (unfortunately).
Reply 1
I think it's just a rebound to be honest - she's probably missing the company and the affection and this guy came along and she's just jumped on him (not necessarily literally!) as he's the first opportunity. I would think it's unlikely it's love when she doesn't even know him.
Reply 2
i would agree with hoofbeat, love and feelings like that tend to grow over time and dont suddenly appear ona random stranger when u just broke up with someone
Reply 3
Yes but thing is, she is not a rebound type person, all her exs for example are nice people (i know them all), and she got to be best friends with them before dating them. Same with me. We were best friends before we got romantic. SHe doesn't usually do this. She said herself she was overwhelmed by the feelings she felt, and she told him not to do much because she felt bad about me and about the guys gf (he has one in another country, but things have been going bad for them etc). She said she'd never felt like this for anyone, and I know she is forward about her feelings. Plus they are more perfect for each other than I am for example (music taste, they are on same course, same interests) etc. She's not sure now, she's gonna see him again sunday and monday and then see if it was just a one time thing or if this will grow. Hope it was a one time thing and there's nothing. :/ whatever i was just ranting coz i felt heartbroken.. you can just ignore this if you want :P
Reply 4
Also he isn't the first opportunity, she's met lots of guys. Its this particular guy because of similar interests.. (Similar) Personalities mean a lot to her.
Reply 5
prob trying to make you jealous. an age old situation...
Reply 6
well she mite be looking at this guy an seeing he has the same interests and thinking he may fit into how she wants a guy to be. I still think it mite be a rebound thing though
Reply 7
Nope, i wish that was it. But she is not like that. Like i said before, first of all i have never ever heard her lie, i've known her for 6 years and she's my best friend so trust me she never lies. So everything that she told me and i've said here you can be absolutely sure is 100% correct. She is very honest and wouldn't try to do that.. UNFORTUNATELY!
Reply 8
Audacious I hope you're right and it is rebound, but like I said if she thought it was she would tell me. And she said yes it might be rebound, but what she felt was something so strong it's unlikely (even I don't think so) that it's rebound. She said it might be but doesn't think it is, and I agree with her. Time will tell, time will tell...
Reply 9
:hugs: Good luck with the situation!