Intamacy lacks its luster and I need some help....

If you are going to use words like 'luster[sic]', then make sure you spell them correctly.

Where did i mispell "luster". I don't follow.

It's spelt 'lustre'!

First, thank you all kindly about the advice and yes Bekaboo we are both insecure. At the very least I am. In fact my insecurity has caused many a fights between us but she...she is very special. The English language to her is like a tool and she knows how to use it like a mechanic a wrench. When I talk to her and try to tell her how I feel about things and try to tell her that i'm p***ed off about something it ends up somehow always being my fault.

Now i’m just going to put this out in the open, I know all of you are thinking this anyways, I am new to this thing called "dating". Can you tell? So aside from the "newbie" remarks, I just want to lay some background. I work 60 hours a week and go to college as a full time night student. So there is plenty of time where she is alone and I am worried that she finds comfort(not physical but emotional comfort) in other men, regardless of what she tells me.

Take tonight for instance. We have a mutual friend (male) who just got back from basic training from the National Guard. Long story short, I was in the Army, discharged for a bad knee, won her a National Guard T-shirt at a fair doing push-ups. Short enough? Wondering why I mention all that? I’m getting there. Well today the three of us made plans to go catch a movie and check out a wildlife exhibit. Harmless enough right? Back to the T-shirt. What does she wear? The National Guard T-shirt and the finest pair of blue jeans I have ever seen a girl put on. When I picked her up this morning she looked amazing! Anywho...it hit me...is she wearing this shirt/outfit for me or for the other guy?

And while I'm ranting, please if anyone can figure this one out for me I'd love to know. Last year it had become custom that I picked my girlfriend up and drive her to school in the morning and then spend half hour to an hour with her in the morning before her first class. Everything was kosher. Well at the start of the new school year I offer to take her to school and her and I got into an argument about me doing so. She said that she preferred me not taking her in to school because she would get in trouble...that my presence there caused conflict and she would rather avoid that and have me not there at all. But the kicker is is that she still goes in a hour before school starts (gets a ride with her mother) and I am paranoid that she goes in earlier to "hang" out members of the opposite sex and doesn't want me there so that I don't find out. Do you think this could be the case? Am I reading too much into this? Into all of it? This is exactly why I am insecure, but maybe if I got a third party’s perspective it could help me sleep at night.

Thanks for the replies....