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missing someone you don't know

this sounds so strange.
but there was this girl at school last year who i used to see everywhere but only spoke to a couple of times and now she's gone to uni and the weird thing is i miss her. i know i don't fancy her as i'm straight and know who i fancy. but i keep thinking i should have kept in contact even though i hardly knew her.

am i just being over-emotional? any ideas?
Reply 1
Well, did you get her number, maybe you can contact her? What was it about her that you really liked?
Reply 2
i know how it feels mate!!! well try to get her number and text her and say hi!
Reply 3
it's not over-emotional, but it's certainly emotional. people going off to uni is like a herd of sheep walking towards, and then off, the side of a cliff. if you're still a sheep with a year or two to go, it probably feels really odd. but as you get older, go to more places, and even go to uni urself, some of these loose ends are tied up.
Reply 4
Maybe you feel like it was a missed opportunity and she might have been somebody you'd wanted to make friends with?
Reply 5
i think the thing is, she was a lot like me, only 2yrs older so i feel we could have been good friends. i can get her e-mail address of my friend, but it just seems really random me e-mailing even though we didn't really know each other.
thanks for all the replies btw!
Reply 6
daydreaming
i think the thing is, she was a lot like me, only 2yrs older so i feel we could have been good friends. i can get her e-mail address of my friend, but it just seems really random me e-mailing even though we didn't really know each other.
thanks for all the replies btw!

randomness is cool. a lot of the people i was mates with in high school kinda dropped out of my life during college, including a couple of my closer mates. there was a girl who i hardly spoke to at high school but we kept in touch and talked more than we ever did at high school. the two mates i kinda forgot about in college i started talking to them randomly after 18 months of nothing - i now play football with one semi-regularly and talk to the other all the time. and now i've left college i've started talkin to someone i never really did when i was at college. nows another stage with everyone going of to uni, but i think we'll all keep in touch - i'll make sure of it.
Reply 7
I know exactly how it feels. There was this girl I reallyliked at work back home. We said hi a few times and that was about it but for some reason I miss her badly. I think like someone said, it's the feeling of a missed opportunity and you kind of think to yourself "well, it's too late now".
Reply 8
silence
it's not over-emotional, but it's certainly emotional. people going off to uni is like a herd of sheep walking towards, and then off, the side of a cliff. if you're still a sheep with a year or two to go, it probably feels really odd. but as you get older, go to more places, and even go to uni urself, some of these loose ends are tied up.


i *love* your sheep analogy.
i might e-mail her...if i have the guts to be that random :smile:
Reply 9
your probably feeling guilty for missing a chance at something that 'could have been'. not a relationship per se, not even a friendship at that. an event, action, anything, could have been missed. and you don't sound very straight, speaking about someone you barely know, and how madly your missing them.. lol. maybe rethink your sexuality?
Reply 10
i'm pretty sure i'm straight, cos i don't like her sexually and i'd never go out with her. it just feels like i've lost a close friend even though i didn;t know her that well. i think it's the missed opportunity for friendship thing someone else was talking about.
god, what will i be like when my close friends go off to uni.
Reply 11
I say e-mail her. I know I'd be really happy if I received an e-mail from someone random... I love that type of thing.