I feel for De Jong. His primary position - his sole position - is as a midfield enforcer. He's told to break up play. He's told to stop the opposition. He's told to play aggressively. Unfortunately for him, it's also what he does best. He can't compete against the likes of Yaya Toure and Barry when it comes to a more general midfield role.
If he wants to stay at City, or if he wants to play for any top 4 team, he has to keep up what he's doing. Van Marwijk used him in that role, for that very same purpose in the Holland squad, and now he's put him in a difficult position. He should get rid of Van Bommel too tbh... but he's probs immune from criticism.