A guy at uni....

I'v been at uni since the 14th Sept, and have made friends with a pretty nice bunch of people. This thread concerns one in particular who im just gona call Fred for the sake of this. When i first met Fred i thought he was ugly and extremely arrogant but then as i spent more time in his company on nights out etc i realised i was wrong and he's acually quite a decent guy, but perhaps abit of a lad. Also, he began to not appear as quite so ugly. At the beginning of last week this kinda tension (sexual i guess) started to build between us abit. I didn't really think anything of it at first, but we had a big night out planned for the Thursday just gone and as I was getting ready i started to wonder if there might be any developments, even tho i wasnt even sure that i liked him. We spent quite alot of time together that evening queueing for drinks together and such. At one point in the queue we were just facing eachother chatting and he quite sweetly kissed me just on the cheek which was nice. Later on when we went into a bigger club we were wating for other people to come in and we're standing quite close and we kissed on the lips but nothing was said, i don't think either or us even reacted to it (if that makes any sense?) We just kinda danced with our friends in the club and i didn't realy expect anything more and was fine with it. He would ocassionally tickle my back, or squeeze my waist but thats not too major. So later after we all got back to our halls a couple of us were in his room watching a film then it ends up just being me and him lying there....things happened abit, and afterwards i just felt abit bemused and just went back to my flat coz it was about 6am! The next day i thought "ooh is this guna be awkward" and didnt know how i felt about Fred at all. I wasn't even sure if i found him attractive even!! He came down to our flat in the afternoon and i just wondered into the kitchen on hearing his voice in there. For a minute i avoided eye contact which was fine coz there were a few people in there, but then after that it was fine and not awkward. We just carried on like normal really and haven't spoken about it at all.
So basically I'm abit confused about what he thinks of me. I guess I'm mainly looking for guys opinions but any are welcome! Is it likely that he finds me attractive? would any guys here go with a girl that they didn't find attractive? And if you liked the girl would you leave the ball in her court to bring what happened up, or would you be keen to find out what she thought about it? I guess I'm just confused really, TBH i don't even know how much i like Fred, If he didn't like me at all I could probs forget it all quite easily and would be fine being his friend, I suppose I just want to know what he thinks so I know what light to look at him in - friend or possibly more. Anyone had a similar experience? Ooh perhaps i should add that we were both cold sober when things happened! Advice on this would be much appreciated cheers guys! x

Reply 1

L i b

19

Ah, a girl discovers that yes, being arrogant is attractive in guys.

You'll probably be joyous ****-buddies for the next few years.

Reply 2

sahsum

OP

13

LibertineNorth

Ah, a girl discovers that yes, being arrogant is attractive in guys.

You'll probably be joyous ****-buddies for the next few years.

A little bit of arrogance can be accepted, but complete arrogance is unbearable!

Reply 3

IjustlovetheIB

I think he likes you. And you probably like him too, you just don't want to admit it. Regarding the fact that you haven't brought up the whole "well, we kissed and stuff happened so we're not just friends" deal...well, it seems like you are both freaking out about it, that's all. I don't know. Think about it. If you like him and are interested in him, bring up the subject and see what happens..but don't have any high expectations. I mean, maybe he just saw it as a one night thing, or maybe he'd like something more but is afraid to ask.

Reply 4

Sophdoph

1

He probably likes you but maybe he has come to uni with the idea of "playing the field" and he might like quite a few girls. Take your time with it and try and get your feelings straight in your head without letting him influence you.

Reply 5

sahsum

OP

13

IjustlovetheIB

I think he likes you. And you probably like him too, you just don't want to admit it. Regarding the fact that you haven't brought up the whole "well, we kissed and stuff happened so we're not just friends" deal...well, it seems like you are both freaking out about it, that's all. I don't know. Think about it. If you like him and are interested in him, bring up the subject and see what happens..but don't have any high expectations. I mean, maybe he just saw it as a one night thing, or maybe he'd like something more but is afraid to ask.

I would like to bring it up somehow but I don't know how to and don't want to make our friendship awkward, yet this will bug me until i just know whats going on one way or the other.

Reply 6

IjustlovetheIB

sahsum

I would like to bring it up somehow but I don't know how to and don't want to make our friendship awkward, yet this will bug me until i just know whats going on one way or the other.

Since you wanna know and it will obviously bug you if you never find out, ASK HIM. When you guys have a moment alone and are just sitting there talking...just be like "So, what did that night actually mean to you?" and see what he says. Obviously, be prepared to give an answer as well. That's what I would do. In this situation, I think it's just better to be very straight forward and clear things up right away other than waiting or not saying things straight in each other's faces.

Reply 7

yo-less

2

i think he likes you but now he probably think you're avoiding him :eek:

A guy at uni....

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