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Etiquette/Behaviour when meeting people?

So this is a weird question but like a lot of people, well at least I think, I am unsure of the proper behaviour when meeting and greeting new people?

For example when you meet a girl (platonic) do you kiss her on both cheeks, give here a hug or what?
What if it’s a girl you meet for the first time?

This is actually quite confusing and I don’t what to be construed wrongly by people that I may meet!

Odd question :p:

, maybe – but the collective advice of TSR would help!

thanks :smile:

Reply 1

black_mamba

14

I always wondered this, but as with most similar questions the answer is simply; it differs from social group to social group.

Some people I know would be offended if I didn't air kiss them twice on each cheek, whilst others would laugh at the gesture. Close friends I high-five whilst again, most people who find that laughable.

Have I confused you more? Whoops. :eek:

Reply 2

xx_ambellina_xx

14

I generally concentrate on not tipping things over myself. It helps.

Reply 3

fuglyduckling

2

Hmm. Firm handshake for the blokes, it's always harder with girls: handshake looks a bit formal (and weird!), hug is for friends, so maybe a light kiss on the cheek - could go wrong, though. haha. I enjoy others' discomfort! :p:

(Although, I'll be in the same situation come Sat.)

Reply 4

yo-less

2

i stand a safe radius away and gesture 'hi' awkwardly.

don't do that.

Reply 5

bubbalicious_28

1

with guy friends.. a high 5, hand holding thing-but not quite as formal as a hand shake (if that makes ne sense-i have no idea what theyre called!).its good when u havent seen them for a little while-but a hug might look a little silly!

Reply 6

dave

stu.dent

So this is a weird question but like a lot of people, well at least I think, I am unsure of the proper behaviour when meeting and greeting new people?

For example when you meet a girl (platonic) do you kiss her on both cheeks, give here a hug or what?
What if it’s a girl you meet for the first time?

This is actually quite confusing and I don’t what to be construed wrongly by people that I may meet!

Odd question :p:

, maybe – but the collective advice of TSR would help!

thanks :smile:

Personally - I'd shake anyone's hand when meeting them for the first time - male or female. It's an acknowledgement of introduction that isn't open to misinterpretation. Hugs/kisses on first meeting (girls) are too direct imho.

Reply 7

fuglyduckling

2

I've been thinking about what I do when meeting a girl for the first time:

Situation 1 - Being formally introduced, i.e. "Matt, this is X, X, this is Matt"... I'd go for the handshake :cool:

Situation 2 - Out on a night out/something v. informal where we (may) have been drinking, say hi first then a light kiss on the cheek :smile:

Situation 3 - Not properly introduced, just incline head and smile and say hi but without any physical contact :cool:

Situation 4 - Any contact whatsoever with hot Latina girls, just mumble somethin unintelligible and hope the earth swallows me up soon :redface:

Reply 8

Cellardore

11

well all the guys i've met have either given me a hand-shake or a friendly smile and introduce themselves like 'hi my name is.....' and just smile, that's the secret to meeting people sucessfully :smile:

i wouldn't want a hug or kiss on the cheek if i was greeting them for the first time, i'd feel intiimidated.

Reply 9

black_mamba

14

I hate it when men shakes their male friend's hand but kiss the women, I dunno, I'd rather have my hand shaken - it'd make me feel more at ease and more on the same level.

bubbalicious_28

with guy friends.. a high 5, hand holding thing-but not quite as formal as a hand shake (if that makes ne sense-i have no idea what theyre called!)

Iknowwhatyoumean, fun isn't it? :smile:

Reply 10

bubbalicious_28

1

black_mamba

I hate it when men shakes their male friend's hand but kiss the women, I dunno, I'd rather have my hand shaken - it'd make me feel more at ease and more on the same level.

Iknowwhatyoumean, fun isn't it? :smile:

lolyeh i hate it when all the guys do it and jsut leave the girls out!
i wouldnt want to be kissed on the cheek if i was just being introduced to the bloke on a night out (maybe if i was a little drunk :rolleyes:

). but then again- i cannot stand formal handshakes!

on my dads side of the family-u gota greet everyone by giving a kiss on each cheek-its long!!

Reply 11

RoCkPoRt

do whatever you are comfortable with. only be yourself if you are successful with friends/females. otherwise, blag your ass off and do it well. eradiate confidence and you'll never fail to hit the mark.

Reply 12

L i b

19

For the chaps, a handshake is in order. A firm one. If they don't think for at least 1.3 seconds that they might be permanently crippled from this encounter, you have failed.

For girls, I tend to do a semi-handshake thing. It's weird actually, never thought about it before. It's almost the way some 19th century Frenchman would hold a lady's hand before going down to kiss it... obviously I don't do THAT, but it's roughly similar, minimal pressure applied, maybe slight shake there.

Um, okay, I've just discovered I'm weird.

Reply 13

dazmanultra

1

If you want to give a girl you've just met a kiss on the cheek, do so.

Whatever you do, do it confidently.

If you act confused and shy, it will just make it more awkward and embarassing.

Reply 14

saywhatnow

6

i'd go with handshake to male and female, if a stranger hugged me i'd wonder why they were doing it. but then again.....when meeting strangers in foreign countries they hug and kiss twice....... the issue that always confuses me more is who to say "how are you?" to....

Reply 15

nikk

15

I hug all my female friends when I meet them. For male friends, I generally do that hand thing that is like a handshake but your thumbs interlock and grasp each others hands (lol that sounds so gay but it isn't - does anyone know what I mean??) :biggrin:

Reply 16

saywhatnow

6

nikk

I hug all my female friends when I meet them. For male friends, I generally do that hand thing that is like a handshake but your thumbs interlock and grasp each others hands (lol that sounds so gay but it isn't - does anyone know what I mean??) :biggrin:

i know what you mean! it's quite funny to watch when guys do that and when they do the half hug thing.....

Reply 17

Catski

I really don't shake hands or do the kissy kissy thing even with people I know well.
Just say hello and fall in step.

Reply 18

Loof

I don't tend to do much but smile and say hi until I know what a person does to greet. I don't mind the touchy kissy stuff, it just depends on the other person. Like, my mate at college is from France so she's very touchy and she kisses us and things. However, another mate in the same group has only ever hugged me twice!

I say, don't touch unless they touch you first...

Reply 19

Logan

4

everytime whether girl or boy, i just nod my head and smile at them then say "hi" or "how are you" etc etc. Trust me, It is 100% fail proof.

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