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ok sorry another teenager wanting advice....

Ok I'm taking my ex boyfriend to my formal in a couple of weeks time and well I'm thinking of getting back with him but how the hell am I gonna do it - I'm too shy to be extremely forward so what do you think I should do..... xoxo


P.s btw we didnt break up because of it not working out, we broke up because there was two girls (my ex friends) who fancied him and told lies to me at every opportune minute about him so we both decided to leave it.....now we've met up once or twice after that but just as friends....but I really do love him :frown: xoxo
Reply 1
tammy_girl
Ok I'm taking my ex boyfriend to my formal in a couple of weeks time and well I'm thinking of getting back with him but how the hell am I gonna do it - I'm too shy to be extremely forward so what do you think I should do..... xoxo


P.s btw we didnt break up because of it not working out, we broke up because there was two girls (my ex friends) who fancied him and told lies to me at every opportune minute about him so we both decided to leave it.....now we've met up once or twice after that but just as friends....but I really do love him :frown: xoxo


invite him to the formal, but as friends and see what happens. Just make sure he still feels the same.
dont let ur 'ex' friends get in the way, they obviously werent proper friends.
good luck :smile:


Just being at a formal together might trigger romance again. But dont go expecting it, cuz u mite b dissapointed. Just be positive :smile:
Reply 2
Do you think its worth getting back with him if hes just going to lie again and hurt you?? If you do then just start talking to him and try and gauge if he would be interested in getting back with you. If hes really not then there isnt much point trying, but if he is just have a bit of self confidence, be forthright and tell him how you feel.
Reply 3
Tomski
Do you think its worth getting back with him if hes just going to lie again and hurt you?? If you do then just start talking to him and try and gauge if he would be interested in getting back with you. If hes really not then there isnt much point trying, but if he is just have a bit of self confidence, be forthright and tell him how you feel.


but he didnt lie or hurt her? her mates did!

just go for it gal.
Reply 4
sorry to be pessamistic, but if he really like you the first time would he just decide to 'leave it' after a misunderstanding? surely he would true and explain the truth?

Oh the other hand, you've already invited him to the formal which is very good, and i guess things will just go on from there perhaps!
Easy fix: Listen to Missy Elliot, she knows how to solve this.
Reply 6
uh... you broke it off because of people talking about you? why do you give a flying **** what other people say? maybe if you paid less attention to your 'friends' and more attention to your b/f and what you were getting out of the relationship you should have known what to do. so really, the relationship was not worth getting flak over, therefore its not worth getting back with him now as it will just break down a little while down the road. either that, or your too selfconcious and care what people say about you, in which case.. dont get back with him. there's your answer. dont do it.
Reply 7
What is the problem with people who can't read what the girl says!?!?!?
She wasn't getting flack for it, she was being told untrue stuff about him by her friends because they fancied him. GRRRRR

Anyway here's my little bit of advice. You've already invited him (good start) so I would just say dance a bit and hold his hand a little and he'll get the message. Then if he wants it he can take the lead, and if he doesn't thne you won't get embarassed
Reply 8
Bekaboo
What is the problem with people who can't read what the girl says!?!?!?
She wasn't getting flack for it, she was being told untrue stuff about him by her friends because they fancied him. GRRRRR


I have to admit that i did miss read it. I thought she said that the guy was telling her lies. Ooops
Reply 9
Hopefully it will work out if he is interested, it was a mutual break up so no hard feelings on either side. It should be alright and have a lovely time =0)
Perhaps be as flirty as possible, lots of eye contact and touching of body parts such as an arm. Be the life of the party, sparkly and bubbly and make him see what he's missing. I wouldn't try the 'making him jealous' technique it has never worked for me, in fact had the opposite effect. You could always ask him, perhaps subtly or not so subtle, to test the water to whether he wants to get back together or not. If he doesn't then I do suggest you try and move on (hard as it may seem) because coming back to one person who doesn't see your relationship in that way is unhealthy. But failing that...

Get really drunk and then proposition him :biggrin: Works for me (very rarely!)
Thanks everyone for the comments, (except rocport but I did ask for advice I suppose) and hopefully we shall see what happens :smile: thank you for your thoughts as I didn't have one notion how to attempt to say anything to him or whatever....but thank you all :hugs: xoxo