curfew and bf. help

hi, even tho im 18 and at uni, my parents exp[ect me 2 b home at like 7pm. now theres this boy thats asked me out and how can i go out with him if i cnt stay out late. i dnt kno wat to to. plz help.

Reply 1

ChemistBoy

16

sweetie999

hi, even tho im 18 and at uni, my parents exp[ect me 2 b home at like 7pm. now theres this boy thats asked me out and how can i go out with him if i cnt stay out late. i dnt kno wat to to. plz help.

Talk to your parents about it. If that fails, move out.

Reply 2

Leisure17

8

Have your parents said they want you to be home early or do you just think they expect you to be home?
If you are told to be home early, is there a reason?

Reply 3

Apricot_Bea

1

Sit down and talk maturely and sensibly to your parents about why you believe you should be allowed out, don't get angry or storm out because this will show your parents that you still are 'young'. Ask them their reasons and see if they are valid. I always find it is good to do pros and cons of whatever your asking so your parents can see you've thought it through and that you understand why etc.

Reply 4

Trousers

11

Try to negotiate with them - it's unreasonable for them to keep you home all the time. Has this problem never come up before? What if you want to go to the cinema with your friends? If they're really over-protective then perhaps you should try organising for them to pick you up at the end of the evening, or take your mobile phone with you so they can stay in contact. It's very strange for an 18 year old to have a 7pm curfew for no good reason.

Reply 5

pink_lucie

14

your 18 and have to be in at 7?!!! :rofl:

Reply 6

RobbieC

15

Tell your parents they are being unreasonable, because they are.. and try and demosntrate that you are responsible (even if you might not be, lol). I think you can pull some strings, you have nothing to lose really..

Reply 7

jalapeno

7

You're 18, you can do as you wish; screw your control freak parents. (Harsh but true).

Reply 8

username23872

sweetie999

hi, even tho im 18 and at uni, my parents exp[ect me 2 b home at like 7pm. now theres this boy thats asked me out and how can i go out with him if i cnt stay out late. i dnt kno wat to to. plz help.

They love u, thats why they want u to be home by 7pm. since when do u know that boy? If he really likes u, he will accept ur apology and wont ask for going out late nights.. test him first b4 doing anything else.. :wink:

Reply 9

heminder

13

i get like 20 minutes late coming home from college, and my parents just start freakin out...
oh, and yes tell your parents to set you free...

Reply 10

Helenia

20

But don't (like some people have suggested) tell them it's not fair and they're control freaks etc. Be mature about it, that way there's more chance of them believing you'll be mature about going out. Agree a new curfew for your date, even if it's just 9 or 10, and stick to it, hopefully this will begin to show that you're not completely irresponsible (or at least, I hope you're not!)

Reply 11

Pookie

1

Just tell them you are going end of story, you are an adult so therefore are deemed to be able to make your own decisions. No need to create an argument about it or insult them, they can't stop you at the end of the day.

If they do start to make a fuss, just let them know you could always move into University Accomadation.

Reply 12

Jitsu

OP

che guevara

They love u, thats why they want u to be home by 7pm. since when do u know that boy? If he really likes u, he will accept ur apology and wont ask for going out late nights.. test him first b4 doing anything else.. :wink:

i met him a couple of weeks ago n i really like him, but im not sure iff hell understand, cos i dont fink my parents will change.

Reply 13

mathsdave

a 12 year old might have a 7pm curfew, but an 18 year old? That is absolutely hilarious :smile:

If I'm out with friends, I could come in at 3am if i wanted to and i'm just 19

Reply 14

Punkjunkie04

Blimey your parents seriously need to chenge their ways tbh. Let them know that being over-strict and overprotective has EXACTLY the opposite effect ehy want it to in the long run: as soon as you are free of their grasp you wont know what do do with yourself lol! You're 18 and that sort of curfew is appalling! You dont even need a curfew! I know it will cause arguments etc but seriously go out when you want and come back when you want (within reason), they can hardly complain since ur an adult now! Like someone said before, if they dont like it you can move out or something. Live the dream! lol

Reply 15

Logan

4

stick to your parents curfew... daytime dating is good enough but i do agree dating at night times is better. Somehow at least you can ask them for at least once in two weeks that you go home late. Look on the brighter side, once u graduate at uni, youll be spending all your time with him as much as you want. :smile:

Reply 16

Jitsu

OP

but wont that be embarrasssin tellin him that?

Reply 17

Punkjunkie04

definately! Why do you feel like you need to stick to their mental curfew? Ur 18, can't you tell them you can do what you want now?

Reply 18

Book-worm

8

Tell them straight...say "mum i'm 18 now, i'm going to take drugs, get drunk and have unprotected sex till early morning hours" like the rest of us young'uns!

Reply 19

Pookie

1

Book-worm

Tell them straight...say "mum i'm 18 now, i'm going to take drugs, get drunk and have unprotected sex till early morning hours" like the rest of us young'uns!

Make sure they have written you into the will first, otherwise they might drop dead and not give you anthing :wink:

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