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How can you really know who to trust?

So I've been noticing lately just how two faced people can be. I mean being nice to someone you don't like is one thing, but I'm talking actually pretending to be good friends with someone, meeting up with them voluntarily and saying things like "I love you" to someone who clearly believes you and then claiming you can't stand them the second they're out of sight. Watching some people, there's no clue in the way they act that they don't genuinely like the other person, to the extent that I sometimes think they've changed their mind or something. I've got quite a lot of people in mind here. I've also noticed people bitching with say A about B, and then also with B about A to the point where I wonder whether you can really trust anyone. :s-smilie:

If people can be fake not just to avoid an awkward situation when they're forced to be with someone, but practically as a lifestyle, how on earth are you supposed to know where you stand or who to trust?

Reply 1

jblackmoustache

17

I don't trust anyone. Especially women. You can't afford to trust anyone. The moment they see you open or the moment you trust in them too much they'll stab you in the back.

I only trust my family, but then again you can't even trust them, especially when some money comes to hand. My mother, my sister and my brother are probably the only people i'll ever trust.

Reply 2

PrincessAriadne

That's a difficult one. You just have to go with your instincts. Sometimes you'll trust someone who doesn't deserve it, and you'll be let down ... just pick yourself up, and move on. Don't be too mistrusting or suspicious, but do remember to go with your gut feeling on people - and NEVER assume you can trust somebody just because they're 'family'.

Reply 3

bellacute

I believe trust has to be earnt, and it takes me years sometimes to trust people. There are 2 people i truly trust and neither of them are family (i've been let down by them too) but i can tell them anything and i know for a fact they won't bitch about me or tell anyone else (except maybe the cat :snoozing:

)

Reply 4

aliii

9

I try hard not to talk about other people behind their backs. To be honest it's not that hard not to do it.. people enjoy it. I don't understand it to be honest. :s-smilie:

Reply 5

Mann18

15

There are only two people in the world I trust.
One is dead.
The other is me.

Reply 6

sweetness345

10

This is why I think carefully who I'm friends with, choosing them well.

Reply 7

jenny.chu

tell them you've got a dead body in your trunk and ask them to keep it a secret and see if it gets around..

seriously though, just test them really.

Reply 8

Sarawrr

12

You never know who can be trusted. You just have to decide who's worth the risk.

That sounds so cheesy...

Reply 9

Aconite

17

If you can, have a look at their arse. People you can trust always have a 'T' on their left cheek.

Reply 10

TheCoolKid_x

You can never know

I don't trust people easily, but there are some that I fully trust, guess its just about risk taking

Reply 11

DivinityofReason

Anonymous

So I've been noticing lately just how two faced people can be. I mean being nice to someone you don't like is one thing, but I'm talking actually pretending to be good friends with someone, meeting up with them voluntarily and saying things like "I love you" to someone who clearly believes you and then claiming you can't stand them the second they're out of sight. Watching some people, there's no clue in the way they act that they don't genuinely like the other person, to the extent that I sometimes think they've changed their mind or something. I've got quite a lot of people in mind here. I've also noticed people bitching with say A about B, and then also with B about A to the point where I wonder whether you can really trust anyone. :s-smilie:

If people can be fake not just to avoid an awkward situation when they're forced to be with someone, but practically as a lifestyle, how on earth are you supposed to know where you stand or who to trust?

You cant trust anybody unless you are beneficial to them.
But then as soon as you cant meet their needs its over.
Stop wining...

Reply 12

ojl2283

bellacute

I believe trust has to be earnt, and it takes me years sometimes to trust people. There are 2 people i truly trust and neither of them are family (i've been let down by them too) but i can tell them anything and i know for a fact they won't bitch about me or tell anyone else (except maybe the cat :snoozing:

)

story of my life, trust has to take time to fully get but ultimatly it only takes a few lies said over and over again before you begin to believe it... which leads to harsh consequences...

similar situation - 3 friends i fully trusted have betrayed me after knowing them for so long, so im questioning everyone i know...

trust is the most deceptive thing in human existance, not lies...

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

DivinityofReason

You cant trust anybody unless you are beneficial to them.
But then as soon as you cant meet their needs its over.
Stop wining...

Yeah this is what I was thinking but I'm not sure whether it's bitter and cynical or just accepting of human nature and therefore liberating. I wondered what the optimists thought.

Reply 14

Battenberg

14

Too true unfortunately. I spent 3 months pretty much solid with people from work and even got fired for defending one of them and it still turns out they're not to be trusted. I guess it's just what the world has come to these days. :frown:

Reply 15

perrytheplatypus

14

It takes time to gain trust.
Don't rely too much on first impressions.

Reply 16

Sam89

4

Trust no one.

I learnt the hard way, after opening yourself to people fully and trying to see the good in them, chances upon chances... it's not worth it. They only use you when they need you, and yes they do backstab, you only end up getting hurt.

May be sad, but that's the way it is? And I think i'll have this opinion until someone proves me wrong.

Reply 17

sungirl

7

I don't trust anyone beside my family. People are so fake and they don't give a damn on anyone else beside themselves. They'ld be rather happy if you got into troubles.