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Boyfriend never has a thing to say and no opinions?

I have been with my boyfriend for many years. I do love him but he is boring at times. It's like he reads a book and I ask him how was it and he says "ok" or shrugs like he doesn't know. We see a movie and if I ask him what he thought he shurgs and says it was ok, good bad etc but it stops at a one word answer.

He never has any opinion on current affairs or politics. The only thing he has any opinion on is football. He is always watching sky sports news or online checking his fantasy football etc I do talk to him a lot about football even though it's not something I am especially keen on.

He is a professional engineer so I know he isn't stupid but it's like he has no ideas or views on anything and never has anything to say so trying to talk to him at all is like pulling teeth.

I don't really mind too much I love him, he's sweet and kind and the sex is great but sometimes I wish we could connect and talk a little more.

Off with his head.

break up, dude

Maybe he just finds it hard to express his opinions? Or yeh, break up :s-smilie:

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Reply 4

ciawhobat

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you silly theists always make me laugh!

Reply 5

bourney

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All you people saying to break up because the lad sticks to one word answers? I can't tell if you're being serious or not.

How about telling him that you want more than a one word answer? Or ask open ended questions, or just keep probing.

Reply 6

concubine

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Definitely follow the advice of the above and dump him. HURrrrrrrrr.

Probe harder. Ask why he never shares or something? We don't ******* know. He's your bf.

Reply 7

creamsoda

OP

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I'm not going to break up, I really do love him and am lucky to have him. I am a bitch for even complaining about this but I do wish he had the odd thing to say every now and agian.

Reply 8

SatanIsAwesome

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What's he like with his mates? That's if you even let him talk to them, some men become boring when they can't talk to their mates anymore.

Reply 9

MancStudent098

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Maybe you just need to ask him to talk to you a little more, he might think you're digging the strong silent act?

Failing that just talk to someone else about movies and politics and stick to sex with your BF, at least it's better than the other way round....

(edited 14 years ago)

Reply 10

creamsoda

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SatanIsAwesome

What's he like with his mates? That's if you even let him talk to them, some men become boring when they can't talk to their mates anymore.

I am a really laid back girlfriend and let him do what he likes, but in all honesty he doesn't really have any close mates. He hangs goes to the pub to watch the football with his brother and his mates or with guys from his football team but that is it. He always says he would rather spend time with me and that I am his best friend.

Reply 11

Chocothunder

15

Deffo break up. He's probably cheating... :dontknow:

Reply 12

SatanIsAwesome

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creamsoda

I am a really laid back girlfriend and let him do what he likes, but in all honesty he doesn't really have any close mates. He hangs goes to the pub to watch the football with his brother and his mates or with guys from his football team but that is it. He always says he would rather spend time with me and that I am his best friend.

Then there's your problem, he's a queer with no friends.

Reply 13

creamsoda

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MancStudent098

Maybe you just need to ask him to talk to you a little more, he might think you're digging the strong silent act?

Failing that just talk to someone else about movies and politics and stick to sex with your BF, at least it's better than the other way round....

Well I mostly do stick to the sex with him and the stroking and holding :yes:

My best friend is another guy who is into all the stuff I am (he is engaged to someone else and we don't fancy each other) so I can talk to him but I wish I were able to have some of that mental connection with my boyfriend.

Reply 14

Rawr.ox

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creamsoda

I'm not going to break up, I really do love him and am lucky to have him. I am a bitch for even complaining about this but I do wish he had the odd thing to say every now and agian.

Have you actually talked to him about this?
Said to him you'd like to have more stimulating conversations.

Reply 15

TheSownRose

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Maybe he's just a quiet person? :rolleyes:

Most people have opinions; we just don't all feel the need to shout them off.

Reply 16

mehhh.....hi.

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creamsoda

I am a really laid back girlfriend and let him do what he likes, but in all honesty he doesn't really have any close mates. He hangs goes to the pub to watch the football with his brother and his mates or with guys from his football team but that is it. He always says he would rather spend time with me and that I am his best friend.

Aww in every way he sounds perfect... apart from the speaking thing, I can imagine that get's frustrating. I guess mention it to him at some point? Not too sure :o:

(edited 14 years ago)

Reply 17

creamsoda

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SatanIsAwesome

Then there's your problem, he's a queer with no friends.

He is not a queer, didn't I just say the sexy was amazing?

I have a few gay male mates and the all talk a lot.

My boyfriend was very shy and still is so doesn't make friends easily but I would thing that now after we have been together for years and years he would be able to express himself to me?

Reply 18

creamsoda

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TheSownRose

Maybe he's just a quiet person? :rolleyes:

Most people have opinions; we just don't all feel the need to shout them off.

He is quiet and I like that but I would think that after all the years we have been together he would feel able to tell me what he thought sometimes.

Reply 19

ChilliBonbon

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creamsoda

I am a really laid back girlfriend and let him do what he likes, but in all honesty he doesn't really have any close mates. He hangs goes to the pub to watch the football with his brother and his mates or with guys from his football team but that is it. He always says he would rather spend time with me and that I am his best friend.

He sounds like he's probably a nice guy, but a little socially awkward, which is why he doesn't have many close friends. Ask him when you're making small talk whether anything's up, and if he asks why, be honest and tell him that you love him but you don't always feel he opens up to you and tells him what's on his mind. Ok, so it's not exactly the same as saying "Why do you always give one word answers" but atleast it won't knock his confidence, and hopefully he'll make more of an effort in conversation. He doesn't sound like he's purposefully ignoring you, but he he might get the hint.
Good luck

Boyfriend never has a thing to say and no opinions?

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