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if someone i like starts liking me back i go off them! what's wrong with me!?
there’s a boy that i liked for ages. let’s call him n. by ages i mean like 3 months or something lol which is quite long. he then basically told me he liked me and for about.. a week i was happy because obviously it was what i thought was my dream scenario. then, however, he started to sicken me and everything about him started to annoy me, and i realised this wasn’t because i hadn’t known him properly before or anything but because he liked me, i.e knowing he felt the same way made me not like him.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
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Reply 1
I've had the same thing happen to me quite recently. I thought that I could potentially have a relationship with this boy. Then he asked me out and I've felt quite sick about it.
Anonymous
there’s a boy that i liked for ages. let’s call him n. by ages i mean like 3 months or something lol which is quite long. he then basically told me he liked me and for about.. a week i was happy because obviously it was what i thought was my dream scenario. then, however, he started to sicken me and everything about him started to annoy me, and i realised this wasn’t because i hadn’t known him properly before or anything but because he liked me, i.e knowing he felt the same way made me not like him.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
Anonymous
I've had the same thing happen to me quite recently. I thought that I could potentially have a relationship with this boy. Then he asked me out and I've felt quite sick about it.
what did you say to him? i forgot to say btw that this isn't a one off thing, it literally happens to me every single time i like someone. obviously i just like the 'thrill of the chase' and nothing else.
Reply 3
Thrill of the chase. My mentality about it was, at one point: ****, you do like me. You can't be as classy as I thought you were.
A good line from a Santana song: Pain never makes me cry, but happiness does.
I'm the same. If I get euphoric I can't deal with it because I know it'll be over soon. If a girl likes me back I can't deal with it because I know the thrill will go away.
A good line from a Santana song: Pain never makes me cry, but happiness does.
I'm the same. If I get euphoric I can't deal with it because I know it'll be over soon. If a girl likes me back I can't deal with it because I know the thrill will go away.
(edited 14 years ago)
I've had this before. Sometimes they just come across as too keen and it gets a little annoying.
I used to be really bad with this, but I decided that even if I felt irritated by someone, I was going to just carry on talking to them like normal and see how I felt about it. I'm glad I did because sometimes I even started liking them again and I was letting really great people just slip through my fingers because they tried hard. I thought I should be appreciating the fact they're making the effort!
I'm not sure if it will be the same for you, but I totally understand where you're coming from
I think it's quite normal! I wouldn't worry about it, maybe just give them a chance and eventually the feeling that you want to be sick will pass
I used to be really bad with this, but I decided that even if I felt irritated by someone, I was going to just carry on talking to them like normal and see how I felt about it. I'm glad I did because sometimes I even started liking them again and I was letting really great people just slip through my fingers because they tried hard. I thought I should be appreciating the fact they're making the effort!
I'm not sure if it will be the same for you, but I totally understand where you're coming from
I think it's quite normal! I wouldn't worry about it, maybe just give them a chance and eventually the feeling that you want to be sick will pass (edited 14 years ago)
Reply 5
You are all freaks.
You get turned off because somebody you like, likes you back? Prepare for a long lonely life in which you die alone.
You get turned off because somebody you like, likes you back? Prepare for a long lonely life in which you die alone.
Reply 6
This happens to me almost every time too, and the couple of times it hasnt happened, its the guy who starts going off me. Right now I cant stop thinking about a guy, hes completely not my type though so I know if I take it further then the polite hellos I will start being creeped out by him. People get angry at us but its not like we dont hate being this way. I havent acted on my crush impulse in years due to the high rate of getting myself into situations I then want to get out of.
Reply 7
MonsterMash
You are all freaks.
You get turned off because somebody you like, likes you back? Prepare for a long lonely life in which you die alone.
You get turned off because somebody you like, likes you back? Prepare for a long lonely life in which you die alone.
I'm perfectly happy to die alone. Its a much better situation in my mind than being with someone who your just not that into. Its people who date others they dont really like enough just to have somebody that are the pathetic ones.
Reply 8
I have this sometimes. It's called immaturity!
That and being uncomfortable with making it all official- liking the daydream of companionship but when it comes down to it, you'd rather not have the fuss.
That and being uncomfortable with making it all official- liking the daydream of companionship but when it comes down to it, you'd rather not have the fuss.
(edited 14 years ago)
Reply 10
Arnotts
I'm perfectly happy to die alone. Its a much better situation in my mind than being with someone who your just not that into. Its people who date others they dont really like enough just to have somebody that are the pathetic ones.
That is nothing whatsoever to do with this situation. Obviously the person likes the other, and then when the feeling is reciprocated they go off them. It's not that they aren't into them, it's that they're too childish for a relationship.
Anonymous
there’s a boy that i liked for ages. let’s call him n. by ages i mean like 3 months or something lol which is quite long. he then basically told me he liked me and for about.. a week i was happy because obviously it was what i thought was my dream scenario. then, however, he started to sicken me and everything about him started to annoy me, and i realised this wasn’t because i hadn’t known him properly before or anything but because he liked me, i.e knowing he felt the same way made me not like him.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
I don't think you deserve him you fickle tart.
Reply 13
chinaberry
I have this sometimes. It's called immaturity!
That and being uncomfortable with making it all official- liking the daydream of companionship but when it comes down to it, you'd rather not have the fuss.
That and being uncomfortable with making it all official- liking the daydream of companionship but when it comes down to it, you'd rather not have the fuss.
Yeah, I kinda agree. This happened to me when I was fourteen
. OP, how old are you?Reply 14
MonsterMash
That is nothing whatsoever to do with this situation. Obviously the person likes the other, and then when the feeling is reciprocated they go off them. It's not that they aren't into them, it's that they're too childish for a relationship.
It has got everything to do with it as obviously if you start to feel sick by them once you have a chance, you just dont like them enough. So theres no point ignoring those feelings and going out with them just because you liked them at one point.
Reply 15
Anonymous
there’s a boy that i liked for ages. let’s call him n. by ages i mean like 3 months or something lol which is quite long. he then basically told me he liked me and for about.. a week i was happy because obviously it was what i thought was my dream scenario. then, however, he started to sicken me and everything about him started to annoy me, and i realised this wasn’t because i hadn’t known him properly before or anything but because he liked me, i.e knowing he felt the same way made me not like him.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
so, yeah, i started to act offish with him and basically ignored him and was just generally rude so that he’d ‘get’ that i didnt like him anymore since i couldn’t say it to his face. anyway, he did get it and he soon didn’t say anything to me other than the polite hi occasionally.
and then, of course, i started to like him again. but now (i think) it’s too late because i was so unnecessarily rude to him the first time round, and even if it’s not, and he gives me a ‘second chance’, then i’ll probably start to feel sick again and that really will just be too strange.
why is it that i like someone until they like me? but then if they stop liking me i don’t like that either? it’s basically impossible for me to ever maintain any sort of relationship with someone, which is really quite worrying.
On a very serious note, tell this dude to PM me..LOL......
He obviously did a lot of things wrong , to keep you interested......He needs to learn the "basics of being mysterious"........I think you probably "lost" interest in him because "there was nothing else about him that kept you challenged" especially since you knew he liked you......Personally, I think there is a way you can show a girl you like her, without coming out explicitly.....This keeps the girl interested.....
There is nothing wrong with you. I think you just dont see him as a "challenge" when he told you he liked you, hence, your interest level went down.
Tell this guy to ping me..pleaseeeeeee
Reply 16
Plus.....wait..How old are you?..I really dont want to be all detailed and profound, if I am dealing with a 14,15 or 16 year old.......sorry....
Reply 17
This happened to me when I was younger. I think the reason was that I wasn't really ready for a relationship. I liked the guy, but when it came down to officially starting to go out with them, I just freaked out. I wasn't really mature enough. It changed for me when I started going out with a friend. It'll probably stop happening when you meet the right guy/mature a little more. (Not to be patronising or assumptious)
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