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he called me weak

the other night my boyfriend told me i was 'weak' and he missed the old me...

'old me' being the person i was before we broke up over another girl who he turned out to be sleeping with
during the break up time he messed me about an awful lot - sleeping with me and her - i ended up with a therapist...he made his mind up after 6 months

but he called me weak! i dont know what to make of it...i'm just in shock...and hurt and he keeps saying it and then acts like i'm in the wrong

i've just felt really bad ever since, i mean i am trying but he doesnt seem to get that i can't be 100% ok instantly...living with her makes it harder as well i just... someone say something to me? =/

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

*bump

Reply 2

Noble.

17

He sounds like a right ****. You'd be MUCH better off without him.

EDIT: :facepalm:

Seems even non-swear words are in the filter.

(edited 14 years ago)

Reply 3

BumperBo

10

Anonymous

the other night my boyfriend told me i was 'weak' and he missed the old me...

'old me' being the person i was before we broke up over another girl who he turned out to be sleeping with
during the break up time he messed me about an awful lot - sleeping with me and her - i ended up with a therapist...he made his mind up after 6 months

but he called me weak! i dont know what to make of it...i'm just in shock...and hurt and he keeps saying it and then acts like i'm in the wrong

i've just felt really bad ever since, i mean i am trying but he doesnt seem to get that i can't be 100% ok instantly...living with her makes it harder as well i just... someone say something to me? =/

You sound incredibly weak.
Firstly, you had an extreme emotional reaction to being called weak, rather than shrugging it off or having a normal "somewhat ****ed" reaction. Second, you felt you needed the help of random people online to overcome this.

Reply 4

Skaiyote

9

So he cheats on you and treats you like **** yet you're still with him?
Ok.

Reply 5

llys

17

She's a room-mate?

Move out and (probably) dump your boyfriend.

(Be aware that on TSR I always advise people to dump their boyfriends, though in my defense I have to say that generally boyfriends do not get a very complimentary press on TSR. (...))

(edited 14 years ago)

Reply 6

iamwhoiam17

yeah dump him....

Reply 7

int_applicant

14

Anonymous

the other night my boyfriend told me i was 'weak' and he missed the old me...

'old me' being the person i was before we broke up over another girl who he turned out to be sleeping with
during the break up time he messed me about an awful lot - sleeping with me and her - i ended up with a therapist...he made his mind up after 6 months

but he called me weak! i dont know what to make of it...i'm just in shock...and hurt and he keeps saying it and then acts like i'm in the wrong

i've just felt really bad ever since, i mean i am trying but he doesnt seem to get that i can't be 100% ok instantly...living with her makes it harder as well i just... someone say something to me? =/

Are you strong enough to dumb him for good?

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

llys

She's a room-mate?

Move out and (probably) dump your boyfriend.

(Be aware that on TSR I always advise people to dump their boyfriends, though in my defense I have to say that generally boyfriends do not get a very complimentary press on TSR. (...))

she's his roommate

but i dont want to dump him... we're not a bad relationship, i am just mega annoyed that he had the nerve to call me weak :/

Reply 9

Berkz

6

Anonymous

the other night my boyfriend told me i was 'weak' and he missed the old me...

'old me' being the person i was before we broke up over another girl who he turned out to be sleeping with
during the break up time he messed me about an awful lot - sleeping with me and her - i ended up with a therapist...he made his mind up after 6 months

but he called me weak! i dont know what to make of it...i'm just in shock...and hurt and he keeps saying it and then acts like i'm in the wrong

i've just felt really bad ever since, i mean i am trying but he doesnt seem to get that i can't be 100% ok instantly...living with her makes it harder as well i just... someone say something to me? =/

Sorry don't mean to sound harsh but, HELLOOOOO fix up? from reading that i can tell your insecure? Why dont you just tell him to .... off and move on? He cheated on you and even after you forgive him his treating you like dirt? So why stick with him? Just move on, dont talk to him and he will chase after you. Or if your sooo much in love then talk to him? tell him if he carries on its not gonna work but talk to him alone :smile:

Reply 10

TravelGuru

You're weak for staying with him. Sort your life out ffs.

Reply 11

PapaShmurff

12

Don't know why you're still with him.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

BumperBo

You sound incredibly weak.
Firstly, you had an extreme emotional reaction to being called weak, rather than shrugging it off or having a normal "somewhat pissed" reaction. Second, you felt you needed the help of random people online to overcome this.

you dont really know alot about the relationship so i find that quite a bold statement,
slightly exaggerating i think most people would be upset if someone called them weak , especially someone they cared for...

Reply 13

Pixie_89

2

It may be hard but sometimes it is the right thing to do. The fact that he calls you weak and then turns it round on you like your the one in the wrong indicates he can't care that much for you.

He cheats on you and then still lives with the girl? and your ok with that.

You need to get rid this is not a healthy relationship he'll run you down till you feel a lot worse then your feeling now!

Reply 14

daniel bergmann

7

Anonymous

she's his roommate

but i dont want to dump him... we're not a bad relationship, i am just mega annoyed that he had the nerve to call me weak :/

Sorry, but let me highlight something you said here...

Anonymous

we're not a bad relationship

Yes you are. He cheated on you, messes you around for 6 months and calls you weak? If I were you, I would have hit him after cheating. Dump the loser. He is definitely not worth it. He will just mess you around more. People like that are best kept out of your life.

I'm sorry he's been like that too you. But seriously, the best thing to do is to chuck him and move on.

Reply 15

Love.Angel.Music.Baby

8

Maybe the choice you made wasn't the strongest, he ****** you over and you forgave him and took him back, saying this, I have made the same choice and if my bf ever told me that the fact I had forgiven him for frankly bastardly acts made me weak, I would DUMP HIS ASS. He should be grateful you gave him a second chance, not ridicule you for it, he obviously doesn't appreciate you enough.

Reply 16

BumperBo

10

Anonymous

you dont really know alot about the relationship so i find that quite a bold statement,

What exactly makes you think I don't know much about relationships?

EDIT: never mind read that wrong >_>

slightly exaggerating i think most people would be upset if someone called them weak , especially someone they cared for...

Yes most people would be a bit upset in your circumstances. But you seemed to be on the verge of a breakdown over it.

(edited 14 years ago)

Reply 17

candydiva

16

LOL! No they don't and in some cases - like this one evidently - it's 100pc justified.

But it's true that all females respond to such threads by urging dump his *** even tho most often they would not do this themselves under similar circumstaces coz u know, life is complex, more so than TSR commentaries would have anyone believe...

he called me weak

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