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All relationships (not just close or physical relationships even ones with friends, work colleagues) are built on trust. A deception, once uncovered, will damage the trust that holds the relationship together. Most people cheat because they either don't think or they are unhappy in a relationship (usually the latter is more prominent if it is a long-term relationship). Cheating is therefore either thoughtless or cowardly.
Are you saying that if she doesnt find out its ok?
If you are not fully satisfied by the person who are with, then you shouldn't be with them.
But they have an upside.

Getting too involved just gets people hurt. One major gf ended ish cos she suddenly became a "strong xtian"...damn...

Of course I was never taking that route, so ish fell apart.

Hence, never get too involved again.
So now you understand why I aim to keep things "loosely associated".
Once burned, twice shy are we?
Just keep emotionally unattatched. That way, I cant be hurt. Live for the moment, makes sense dont it.
Did once when I was burned. Now it doesn't make sense to me anymore, but I understand fully what you mean. I won't pretend I've never been there.
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BlackHawk
Did once when I was burned. Now it doesn't make sense to me anymore, but I understand fully what you mean. I won't pretend I've never been there.


ive been there TWICE - swore to myself i wouldnt get emotionaly attached to another girl for a long time. 6 months laer found someone else, couldnt trust her completely due to past experiences but have learnt that, you cant live with what has happened in other situations with other people. as hard as it is, just goto move on and dont base new relationships on old ones.
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the worst part of cheating is the lies!!!
willey
ive been there TWICE - swore to myself i wouldnt get emotionaly attached to another girl for a long time. 6 months laer found someone else, couldnt trust her completely due to past experiences but have learnt that, you cant live with what has happened in other situations with other people. as hard as it is, just goto move on and dont base new relationships on old ones.
Agreed. I had to remind myself of that an awful lot before. Every past relationship was just terrible, but you just have to be thankful that you aren't there anymore!
legbreakgoogly
Are you saying that if she doesnt find out its ok?


Nope, but I'm saying that if it is uncovered then it can't be an issue (Donald Rumsfeld's unknown unknowns and all that), however I resort to the old addage:

They always find out, sooner or later.
I clearly in that post said I would not mind participation in a 3some, to her liking of MMF, if me and the other guy didnt have to touch.

Now, very few, if any, guys are that open minded.
Until a girl so special comes along that I am satisfied in every way, I must sustain that cheating is not that bad.
legbreakgoogly
Just keep emotionally unattatched. That way, I cant be hurt. Live for the moment, makes sense dont it.


So you can't and obviously don't want to be hurt, but you can hurt the girls you cheat on??? Because that really shows your respect for the girls you go out with and then cheat on... and before you tell me you haven't cheated (yet) I'm not saying you do cheat, but the things you have posted suggest that if you haven't already you are definitely considering it....god help any girl who goes out with you.
Like I have said, something like a open relationship.

I was devoted to one girl whilst I was at college, didnt last....
I havent. I have denied or confirmed nothing.
I should get with some freaky chick who is as willing to push the boundries as me. Let us leave it at that, mami.
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legbreakgoogly
I should get with some freaky chick who is as willing to push the boundries as me. Let us leave it at that, mami.


I agree with you 'lbg' :cool:

I want a unique girl, who'll understand me. I'm weird.
Aye. I am pretty open to things. Problem is where can I meet this smart, yet utterly freaky, but dresses normally (ie not freaky goth style) chick?