What would you do? (relationships)

Once again I feel like I should appoligise to you guys for giving you my life story but you are always so helpful, I wonder if you could pass judgement on this...

Ok I broke up with my ex (of 2 years) about 3 months ago. Since then I have been with other guys although not in a relationship, ie, went on dates etc. One guy I really liked but he didn't want a relationship etc. Don't get me wrong I havn't been looking for anything, it's sort of found me (if that makes any sence?)

Since the breakup, in which I was dumped :frown:

(I didnt want it to end) my ex has been horrid to me and I honestly can say I have no feelings for him anymore. I have built up friendships which were weaker before and found new people and have become more sociable than I have been in the last 2 years.

Well I have liked a guy for a while, not excessivly but I thought he was ok, he is friends with my ex, and has never had a girlfriend before, (which is relevent....I'm comming to that bit)

I like him but Im worried my friendships will break down again and Im not sure anymore after telling him I liked him if I still do as much now hes said he likes me too. Ive really led him on and I feel bad to turn round and say 'Im not sure I want this anymore' and if I do I may regret it. Its awkward, we have similar interests and goal and I get on really well with him. We have kissed but thats it, our friends think we should get together (friends independant of my ex) erghh and not only that but I'm scared I will get hurt or I don't want a relationship and it is not fair of me to ask him to wait (I dont want him to) even though he said he would... (I did mention I wasnt sure what I wanted.) Im confused, what would you do?

P.S Apologies for long life story AGAIN!! :smile:

Anybody?

if you're not sure then the best thing to do is tell him the truth. There's no point in steering clear or going for it because that's not really agreeing with how you feel. Have some time to make up your mind, if he's a nice guy he'll wait. How old are you by the way?

Reply 3

-sophie-

18 thats y its weird going out with sum1 less experienced and older than me!

Reply 4

rachplatt

Sorry I just don't like giving relationship advice to 13 year olds, that's why I had to ask! (Could have just looked properly at your signature but never mind!) I had a similar experience with much shorter timescale...id been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months and we broke up, then just less than 2 months later I got with my new boyfriend. We're still together nearly 10 months later but I kept him waiting until I was sure of how I felt. If the lad is worth it he won't mind and after being in a relationship for so long, you don't need to rush.

Reply 5

-sophie-

Its not me Im so worried about, I dont want to mess him about! Ive been messed about and I wouldnt want to do that to anybody ever!

Reply 6

username18215

There isn't an option to vote if you don't really mind.

sorry

I think you need to analyse precisely what it is you want from a relationship. Does the fact that he's friendly with your ex have any relevance? (subconciously, I mean).
The fact that you have so many questions suggests to me that you're not ready for a serious relationship at this time, why would your relationship with your friends be at risk because of a prospective bf btw?
You say you're afraid of getting hurt. Isn't that a risk in any relationship?
Bottom line - I would leave guys out of the frame totally for a period of time, and spend time with your friends just having fun with no complications. You'll find your answer soon enough. Good luck. :smile:

Reply 9

-sophie-

This man speaks knowledge, I think your right. Subconciously it makes a difference yes. I suppose I want him to see how well I have done and if I were to be with someone they would want to be better than him and Id want him to think that. Suppose your pretty level with your friends, sounds SO PETTY and SO IMATURE etc but its subconciously an underlying factor for sure.