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Social Situations
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Not sure if this is in the right place...but...
When I am with a large group of people I can never find the right thing to say so I just don't say anything...people may think I am anti-social..
but I am not that shy or anything...I can make speeches and do presentations quite confidently and when it's just one or two people I am fine..
Can anyone help me get over this problem?
Thanks, Veer
When I am with a large group of people I can never find the right thing to say so I just don't say anything...people may think I am anti-social..
but I am not that shy or anything...I can make speeches and do presentations quite confidently and when it's just one or two people I am fine..
Can anyone help me get over this problem?
Thanks, Veer
Reply 1
12
i think it always feels like you dont say much in groups or social situations, when with 2 people you talk around 1/2 of the time right? unless the other person doesnt let you get a word in edgeways, but at any rate that fraction will get smaller as people increase so it feels like that for everyone. perhaps its just normal?
Reply 2
I have the same problem... I do well when there are less people around but when there is a crowd, I tend to be quite shy.
How to get over this- if you are looking for topics of conversation, people love being asked about weather, home, their past, future plans, their new home, where they stay etc etc... in other words, everyone loves talking about themselves. That might endear them to you and vice versa. Or find a general topic of discussion and involve everyone in it. The most memorable talk I had with a big group was when there were 6 of us, some playing rugby & some (like me) just watching it, and a formal dinner was totally transformed with rugby being the main topic and then talking about SA, Aus etc.
How to get over this- if you are looking for topics of conversation, people love being asked about weather, home, their past, future plans, their new home, where they stay etc etc... in other words, everyone loves talking about themselves. That might endear them to you and vice versa. Or find a general topic of discussion and involve everyone in it. The most memorable talk I had with a big group was when there were 6 of us, some playing rugby & some (like me) just watching it, and a formal dinner was totally transformed with rugby being the main topic and then talking about SA, Aus etc.
Reply 3
11
I'm really really bad in social situations - I start sweating (highly unattractive!), and I get really fidgety and then 9 times out of 10 I end up insulting the person I'm talking to really really badly. It's sooo embarassing! 
Reply 4
Im not great in social situations at all. I stay quiet and engage in 1on1 convos.
Reply 5
Kubed
OP
13
At least I'm not alone! Thanks for your advice..but has anyone found any methods to get over this?
Reply 6
I'm worse, I tend to shut up in a group of 3. :/
Reply 7
I'm like that too 
As for methods, maybe see counsellor or something? I'm considering that...
As for methods, maybe see counsellor or something? I'm considering that...
Reply 8
I'm not trying to be funny, but you could possibly try a hypnotist, I've heard they're very useful curing phobias etc. But it might be expensive, I dunno :/
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