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    I really wouldnt like that at all. I'd definitely ask him to delete them. If an ex is in the "past" then she should stay there and not naked on his bloody phone.
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    (Original post by Tootles)
    This is the cycle of unhappiness with which he'll have to deal.

    I'm not even considering his happiness, I'm talking about her (OP) and what's best for her :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Deadlifts)
    Out of interest, how did you come to that conclusion?
    Also apply to Bristol
    Lol, thanks for the advice!

    In my eyes, keeping that kind of sensitive material is a little... odd. It's kind of a symptom that something wasn't quite right between them. I'd find it odd if my boyfriend had pictures of his ex on his phone. To avoid a similar fate I'd just leave them. I may be overreacting slightly but meh.
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    I wouldn't mind my boyfriend using porn.
    I wouldn't mind him having it on his phone - I'd just think it was a bit sad.
    But I would have an issue with him having nude photos of his ex. If it was some picture of a random girl off the internet he had never seen or spoken to in his life, like I said, fine - you can't develop feelings and an emotional attachment in that situation. Whereas he had both with his ex.
    If he just wanted something to fap to, Google would be his friend. I admire the honesty of your boyfriend when he showed you the pictures, but what person would do that?!
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    (Original post by symmetry)
    We've been together for a few months although we knew each other from uni, and he broke up with his ex before the summer (she now is also in another relationship). Thing is, I know his ex girlfriend, in fact she is in a few of my lectures. And before you tell me off for snooping around his phone let me make it clear that I wasn't...in fact I only know because he showed me the photos himself one night. He also has a few old texts from her (which again he showed me during a conversation) and some other more 'normal' photos of her.

    I was worried he still had feelings for her and guess still am, but he has said to me that he doesn't think he was truly in love and the break up for him wasn't too much of a big deal as it slowly fizzled out... although they were together for a year and a half. I have almost asked him to delete them but don't want to overreact if it's nothing. He seems pretty nonchalant about them and I don't think he has anything to hide (unless he's being really clever about it!) especially with his phone because he leaves it lying around and asks me to look after it often. Then again if it's not a big deal then I guess he shouldn't have any objections to deleting the photos if I asked?

    I do feel it's more of an ego/power thing with him but it still makes me feel insecure and I don't know how to go about this. (There's also the inevitable awkwardness of his ex seeing us together around uni which I am not looking forward to..!) What do you think TSR?
    i think he is a weirdo..he might upload them online if tries going back to her ex and gets rejected ..on a serious note thats a possibility..trying persuade him to delete them all-get over it.if he does that..good he wants to be with you otherwise asta la vista baby
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    I agree with most people - there's a big difference between having pics of Megan Fox or some glamour model and having pics of someone he actually knows, and has been intimite with and had feelings for. That's not fantasy, that's reliving the past, something he shouldn't be doing if he's with you.

    But the fact that he showed you - I mean, was he impying that he does infact 'use' the pictures, or that he just keeps them to show people? Neither seem that great to me, and both seem like a reasonable excuse for asking him to delete them.

    My ex had pics like that, and it disturbs me to think that he probably still has my pics (and that he might show people! Has put me off taking pics again lol), but I guess there's nothing I can do about it.
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    Thanks everyone for the replies. He has asked me to send him naughty pics a couple times and actually asked me today but I don't think I ever will considering the circumstances! I might ask him to delete them and explain why next time I see him, see what his reaction is. As for him having the photos backed up - he is a massive technophobe and doesn't currently have a laptop, so, dunno. I think it's more of a trophy thing for him and obviously he's most likely showed the photos to his mates etc so he isn't getting any replacements from me!
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    Forgive & Forget.

    Making a thread about will just make you more paranoid about it..and it will drive you to think about it MUCH more than you would otherwise. So basically my advice, well..I don't really have any- this is pretty useless isnt it since youve already made the thread.

    Hope it works out..sorry I couldnt help, I just had to make a point!
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    You are such a woman...he looks at those photos to remind himself how grateful he is to have you and not some other slut.
    (not srs)

    He still jerks off to them
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    Delete them yourself

    Or drop his phone 'by mistake' :p: then step on it!
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    Ask him to delete them, you're perfectly within your rights to ask for that.
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    Ha. All the girls are like abort! Abort!

    All the guys. Nurrr. Nout wrong with that.

    TSR makes me laugh so much.
 
 
 
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