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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Your the same as me. I'm 21, never had a boyfriend and or been kissed. But even worse i'm just finished my 3rd year of uni and am stating 4th year in 2 weeks!

    I'm a bloody disaster. I had a chance to go out with osmeone who liked me but i was scared i was going to mess it up it being my first relationship and didnt know what to do....now i'm living with regret

    Best of luck OP x
    Come on! you dont have to regret it, he is not the last guy on earth, trust me there will be some one else far better

    Dont get hung up on the idea of a bf , when the time is right u will meet your guy. plus you HONESTLY dont need a guy to be happy. if you take the desperate mentality some guys will take advantage of you and it doesnt look too good in general and might even put of a nice guy who may be genuinely interested in you

    final year, single and proud baby!:woo:
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    Thanks but I guess you're right and I should take this chance to reinvent myself and try to gain confidence. My family have always called me ugly and fat so I've grown up to believe it. Now they tell me I am pretty but I need to lose a few stones. I can't take compliments well. I guess you have to love yourself before others can.

    YAY there we go, positive mental attitude. :woo:

    On a serious note: i know it can be hard seeing yourself in a positive light when every one has always told you otherwise. I honestly dont think people realise how personal others take comments that they make about their looks or abilities. But belief me its all talk. no really, it is all talk, no one actually finds you ugly. i swear

    In all honesty university is an emotional rolercoaster, you really do learn a lot about your self. you open up and you start to focus on your abilities and positive sides and the good thing is , every one is sooo deifferent you meet all sorts of people. Tall, short, skinny, large, in between, black, white asian, mixed, genius , average, dumb, people from wealthy background, people from working class, people with family history etc.

    EVERYone has their story, and you make friends and you have a good time but no one is focussed on some one else's short comings. so dont you worry.

    At university the only person who can be your downfall is urself, so be your best friend/be good to yourself and othersw ill be good to you

    sorry about the essay, hope it helps, wishing you the best. :woo:
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    Don't worry, you will find yourself something you deserve, you sound desperate tbh. You can't just have a bf just for the sake of it and end up being miserable because you get the wrong one. Once you're in uni, let people get to know you first and see how it goes.
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    I'm a 25 year old postgraduate student. I'm British Pakistani. I'm a virgin and i've never kissed a girl in my life, never had a relationship or have ever been to a pub or a club.

    Why? It doesn't have anything to do with my looks or anything but simply cos i'm a lifelong devout muslim. I'm straight and normal.

    In the past few years I have had so many girls trying to come on to me, some giving me the odd 'wink' and i've had girls stare at me occasionally now and then (caught one staring at my backside) but i've ignored all of em cos of my faith. I'm not ugly either, I have black hair and very light skin. Some have told me I'm very good looking and I look exactly like Pierce Brosnan. lol.

    So....you're not the only one.
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    I have low self esteem, am shy and would just freeze knowing that there would be a crowd in a club thats why i just will not be able to dance and loosen up.

    P.S. I am tee-total and a virgin and I intend on keeping it that way until I finish Uni!
    so let me get this straight - your complaining youve never been clubbing yet also saying your too shy to go clubbing, dont drink and dont want to have sex.

    You sound like a barrel of laughs

    your choice is simple compain about it or get over the fact you dont like it.
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    P.S. I am tee-total and a virgin and I intend on keeping it that way until I finish Uni!
    Ok, that will make things a lot harder.
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    I did ask this guy out because he was giving me sooo many signals, but then he turned out to be a player. I am overweight and ugly. So I have no chance. I created this post to see if people think I have a chance or if I should just accept my fate.
    there is no fate but what we make for ourselves.

    If you stay the way you are then yes nothing is going to change, if you want to be more attractive me more confident and have said confidence to get a bloke then you have to change it yourself no one can do it for you
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    I think you just need your confidence raised

    Maybe take up a new hobby and start lessons on it so that you meet new people that have something in common with you.
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    Jesus, you're a woman, you'll be all right. Just go to a club and look pretty, sleazy guys will bounce off you like charged particles.

    You will have bad experiences if you get attached to them so don't. When you have a bit of confidence, look to meet guys more suited to a relationship, ideally from out of your social groups but there's nothing wrong with meeting someone in a club either.

    Oh well if you have the mindset that you're ugly and you don't want to drink or have sex then you might as well not bother.

    Just do it, for ****'s sake, you only live once. Some of the people on here just astound me.
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    You are in Uni so get out more, go clubbing, make friends and you will soon find someone.
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    I did ask this guy out because he was giving me sooo many signals, but then he turned out to be a player. I am overweight and ugly. So I have no chance. I created this post to see if people think I have a chance or if I should just accept my fate.
    if you're overweight join a gym and start losing those extra pounds!
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    I have low self esteem, am shy and would just freeze knowing that there would be a crowd in a club thats why i just will not be able to dance and loosen up.

    P.S. I am tee-total and a virgin and I intend on keeping it that way until I finish Uni!
    Before you go clubbing, drink some glass of wine or a shot with your friends and then it won't be a problem, alcohol will make you relaxed I don't mean get dead drunk, but a bit tipsy. :yep:
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    I know plenty of people who should be tee-total because of there religion. None of them adhere to this. If your tee-total. clubbings not going to be your cup of tea.

    You say your moving in with aload of people. So it must be halls. Just get to know ur room/housemates. Which shouldn't be too hard. And no doubt you'll get invited to hall parties etc. So that's a way to meet people without getting too drunk. good luck with it.
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    (Original post by ddorie)
    Before you go clubbing, drink some glass of wine or a shot with your friends and then it won't be a problem, alcohol will make you relaxed I don't mean get dead drunk, but a bit tipsy. :yep:
    Sorry, I didn't get that you don't drink alcohol.
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    No, No and eerrrmmm No!
    Upload a pic... We'll judge that.
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    (Original post by Aimes_14)
    Never been kissed, had a boyfriend or EVER been clubbing! I am 21 and have never experienced any of this and am now going to go Uni. Any advice of what I could do to increase my chances?!

    My advice:you are missing nothing.get some good girl mates and stay the way you did.lifes more sweet this way
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    (Original post by At peace)
    My advice:you are missing nothing.get some good girl mates and stay the way you did.lifes more sweet this way
    Yea stay in your comfort zone and never try to escape. That way you will remain in ignorant bliss of the fact that sex, socialising, drink and uni can all be amazing experiences which you have missed out on.:woo:
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    I had my first french kiss a few months ago with a reallly fit guy..i'm 18 btw, and I didn't have to go clubbing, dress particularly skettish or do anything of the sort to attract him. Like the others said just get out there, hang out with friends and be social. There are billions of guys out there which means you've got loads of potential snoggers/ boyfs/ husbands etc just waiting to bump into you. I know you said your tee-total and what not but a kiss (pref. a french snog) is a really good way to get over any anxiety you might be feeling about relationships with the opposite sex at the minute.
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    (Original post by hibsology)
    Come on! you dont have to regret it, he is not the last guy on earth, trust me there will be some one else far better

    Dont get hung up on the idea of a bf , when the time is right u will meet your guy. plus you HONESTLY dont need a guy to be happy. if you take the desperate mentality some guys will take advantage of you and it doesnt look too good in general and might even put of a nice guy who may be genuinely interested in you

    final year, single and proud baby!:woo:

    Haha ur so right I actually dont need him to be happy, I just think I do.

    Bring on final year babyy!

    And thank you for your advice
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    Ok so you're saying:
    -You're not pretty
    -You don't have a nice body
    -You don't drink
    -You don't go to clubs

    :facepalm:
 
 
 
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