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    What if he's right though? :dontknow:
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    (Original post by *Star*Guitar*)
    Even though its the standard TSR H&R response I am deadly serious when I say get rid of him.
    What a ******. Don't expect his attitude to change. You can do much better.
    ^ totally! I mean, I'm in a very similar situation but, regardless of his other faults, the guy I'm with has been nothing but encouraging/complimentary/understanding. Anything else and I would've slapped him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Basically he said "you're not very good at sex are you" and when I got upset, he saidhe meant I was bad because I haven't orgasmed from having sex yet (how does that mean I'm bad? Some girls don't get off from sex right?)

    Then LATER, he said that it was boring. I got upset again and he says we only do "boring positions". We've only been having sex for a month, and I was a virgin until then, I'm still getting used to it.....

    I feel really un-confident now and refused to have sex with him later on when he tried, then he said I was "taking it too seriously and being too sensitive", and that it was "only a joke."

    Meh Am I being too sensitive? What would you do???
    Please leave this guy, not for me but for yourself! He is a selfish ******.
    Honestly, you deserve so much better than that, who does he think he is to say such a thing? He could have said ''lets try something new =D''

    Honestly don't bother with him again cause all he wants is sex and doesn't care about your feelings a single bit, he is not worth it
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    When you are with someone you ACTUALLY LOVE, even the worst sex is one of the best experiences. I love love XD
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    i only read the OP, but i just want to say that your bf is an arrogant, selfish, thoughtless, insensitive *******.

    it worries me that actually many men are off this opinion that somehow when the woman finds it difficult or impossible to orgasm during sex its like a dumpable 'offence'. grow up you little tossers, try thinking of someone else other than yourself for a change. the only reason you care about the issue so much is because you don't get a pat on the back for a job well done.
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    (Original post by xStaceyy)
    just say:
    "maybe i haven't orgasmed because you are **** as sex. also, you have a tiny ****."
    Boom... sorted.
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    let me be the judge
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    Tell him he's got a small willy that should shut him up!
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    You go right up to him and tell him exactly where to shove it.
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    Show him this thread. :rofl:
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    Lessons learned from this thread: if you have problems with sex or a relationship, never EVER bring them up - she won't be able to handle it at all and you will be the bad guy.

    Instead, just bottle it up, lie to her, and find someone else who can satisfy you.
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    3 things: pornhub, notepad, pen
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    3 things: pornhub, notepad, pen
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    (Original post by cttp_ngaf)
    Lessons learned from this thread: if you have problems with sex or a relationship, never EVER bring them up - she won't be able to handle it at all and you will be the bad guy.

    Instead, just bottle it up, lie to her, and find someone else who can satisfy you.
    Um no, you just bring it up in a tactful manner. Something the OP's BF clearly did not do. He was just putting all the blame on her, and being nasty about it. If he wants her to orgasm, then some understanding wouldn't go amiss - loads of girls never orgasm through penetrative sex anyway, and as well as that he doesn't seem to understand that if you make a girl feel bad mentally/complain during sex, then the experience will be ruined for her and she can wave goodbye to any chance of orgasm. Also, he's forgetting that they've only been sleeping together for a month and she was a virgin before that - he's putting to much expectation on her in too short a time. She's not very experienced at all yet; if he doesn't think sex is interesting enough for him, then he needs to be encouraging her, not having a go at her and making her feel bad.
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    (Original post by FormerlyHistoryStudent)
    Um no, you just bring it up in a tactful manner. Something the OP's BF clearly did not do. He was just putting all the blame on her, and being nasty about it. If he wants her to orgasm, then some understanding wouldn't go amiss - loads of girls never orgasm through penetrative sex anyway, and as well as that he doesn't seem to understand that if you make a girl feel bad mentally/complain during sex, then the experience will be ruined for her and she can wave goodbye to any chance of orgasm. Also, he's forgetting that they've only been sleeping together for a month and she was a virgin before that - he's putting to much expectation on her in too short a time. She's not very experienced at all yet; if he doesn't think sex is interesting enough for him, then he needs to be encouraging her, not having a go at her and making her feel bad.

    Wow you sure know a lot about him from the few, vague details the OP gave. Personally I'd want to know his side of the story and how he remembers what was said and how.
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    Ignore everyone here. What you've just said is not in context so we don't know the surrounding conversation. Chances are you're not good in bed anyway. Seems like you needed approval that you're in the right rather than taking what could possibly have been constructive criticism (trying new positions)
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    (Original post by missygeorgia)
    Do people actually put up with being treated like this? I can't understand it.
    this.
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    What a horrible thing to say to you! I'd dump him, but I can't tell you what to do... Instead of going in moods with him, would it be possible for you to explain to him your side?
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    (Original post by DancinBallerina)
    This. If ANY half wit of a man said this to me, I would have dumped his arse faster than he can blink!!
    All the time?

    But what if you really were bad at sex as in the reason you're feeling no sexual stimulation is because you have no enthusiasm whatsoever and just 'lie there and take it'.

    Or perhaps you meant he should be more subtle about revealing it? Which I'd understand.
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    Try pegging. That means you using a strap-on in his ass.
 
 
 
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