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    (Original post by Fat-Love)
    All the time?

    But what if you really were bad at sex as in the reason you're feeling no sexual stimulation is because you have no enthusiasm whatsoever and just 'lie there and take it'.

    Or perhap's you meant he should be more subtle about revealing it? Which I'd understand.
    The 2nd point you made is what I meant. Ok if the girl is pants, ok - but at least say it in a subtle, kind manner, or be the kind loving BF and actually teach her or something.
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    (Original post by cttp_ngaf)
    Wow you sure know a lot about him from the few, vague details the OP gave. Personally I'd want to know his side of the story and how he remembers what was said and how.
    Well, you seem to be automatically dismissing her side of the story. The fact of the matter remains, he must have been pretty damn tactless, or she wouldn't be so upset. If he'd brought up bedroom problems constructively with tact and understanding, she'd feel relaxed enough mentally to start experimenting, and wouldn't be upset now.

    Saying that she was bad because she hadn't orgasmed is an extremely ignorant thing to say, I can't see how anyone can dispute that.
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    In a way its good that he raised the issue because unsatisfactory sex will harm the relationship in the future. If his issue is solely with making you climax, it would have been nice if he had phrased it that way - said something along the lines of, "I know you haven't orgasmed yet and I want to do whatever I can to give you the pleasure you deserve".

    Then you could have worked out your issues together, gradually build up each others confidence and competency before ultimately having to fake orgasm because he just isn't big enough to do what you need.
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    Tell him if he wants to try something new he can try your fist in his ass
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    Sounds like a ******** the way he brought it up, although it probably depends how he said it.
    At least he's honest though, it's probably a good thing.
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    Pfahahahahahahah, this guy must be asexual but covering it up by saying sex was boring. Or he might be trying to cover up that he's not ready for sex yet.
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    (Original post by xStaceyy)
    just say:
    "maybe i haven't orgasmed because you are **** as sex. also, you have a tiny ****."
    Because that's really mature.

    He sounds like an idiot. Why do people put up with stuff like this?
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    i dont know why but the angry responses in this thread made me laugh so much
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    (Original post by Davezk)
    Because that's really mature.

    He sounds like an idiot. Why do people put up with stuff like this?
    yup, as is saying someone is bad at sex when they've only just started.
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    (Original post by xStaceyy)
    yup, as is saying someone is bad at sex when they've only just started.
    So why does she have to be equally petty? Why can't she just think wow what a jerk and move on than resort to childish comebacks?
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    what a douche!
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    Dump him,Sounds like a right idiot!
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    (Original post by Davezk)
    So why does she have to be equally petty? Why can't she just think wow what a jerk and move on than resort to childish comebacks?
    cause it's more fun my way
    i was just kidding though...
    people make jokes sometimes.
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    (Original post by xStaceyy)
    yup, as is saying someone is bad at sex when they've only just started.
    Insensitive, yes.
    But it's not like he just said it for the sake of offending her.

    You're worse than the OP's boyfriend no doubt. Wise up. :o:
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    (Original post by xStaceyy)
    cause it's more fun my way
    i was just kidding though...
    people make jokes sometimes.
    You have a lame sense of humour then.
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    He's a douche. Dump him.
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    (Original post by Davezk)
    You have a lame sense of humour then.
    do you have a tiny willy?
    is that the problem here?
    i think i rock.
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    (Original post by mikeylfc1989)
    Insensitive, yes.
    But it's not like he just said it for the sake of offending her.

    You're worse than the OP's boyfriend no doubt. Wise up. :o:
    Nah she's just 17. I could have actually guessed that.
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    (Original post by xStaceyy)
    do you have a tiny willy?
    is that the problem here?
    i think i rock.
    I'm above average and never had any complaints if you're asking.
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    (Original post by Davezk)
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    jeeez, sorry guys.
    i won't make any more jokes now, i promise.
 
 
 
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