I've been going out with my boyfriend for a couple of months, prior to this he was in a relationship with a girl (lets call her Shan*) for nearly 4 years. He broke up with her, and they've been broken up for about 7 months now, apparently she really wanted to get back with him and was texting him.. but anyway...
Recently, a number of people have told me that Shan was regularly sleeping with my boyfriends best friend when they were together, although i have no other evidence apart from word of mouth that this is the case.
I'm basically wondering should i tell him what I have heard, because if i was in his situation I would want to know.
A little more information:
His best friend's brother is marrying my boyfriends sister, so it would be a family issue if this all came out to be true.
I know that my boyfriend would absolutely knock the **** out of his best friend and it would probably break his heart, he'd feel so betrayed. although i know he no longer has those kind of feelings for his ex, he is a very proud man and i think thats what would bother him most, the fact his pride had been hurt.
Also, i think alot of his friends know about this, but they haven't said anything to him, they probably don't want to be the bearer of bad news. And if i am to tell him what I've heard, I don't want to seem like the new jealous gf.
It's a tricky situation, and it could mess a LOT of things up, like his sisters wedding and someone he thought was his true friend.. is it worth him knowing? Should i be the one to tell him? Should i tell him at all? What should i do? I feel so guilty keeping this from him and i feel bad for something so terrible being done to him However reading this back, I feel that this is a thing of the past and he doesnt NEED to know, would I be wrong to keep it from him?
Thought he was 19... really he's 14