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    (Original post by Emma.x)
    sorry about spelling, not really with it atm, i can spell i got a A in english :L
    and i know im not going to, i want it to have a good upbringing, one where it has stability and financial security, cant help the way i feel though
    Ok, sorry for being harsh.
    It's good that you know not to though. I know hun, but it's ok. Just preoccupy yourself with other things, and try to take your mind off it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I reckon the vast majority of women our age feel like this, not all but most.
    It's not unheard of but, um...no. The "vast majority" of girls your age do not desperately want a baby.
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    It would be wise not to.
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    (Original post by doodle7)
    I think its normal, when you first start a serious relationship, to think like this, and completely change your mindset from being career driven to wanting to settle down and start a family. But just think, you changed your mind really easily and quickly - it can always change back but once you have a baby you can't take it back if you change your mind. You're 16. You have so much time for that and I'm sure in a few years time you will want to concentrate on your career again.

    A lot of young girls develop really strong maternal instincts at one time or another, but please don't act on it - you have the rest of your life to do that and, like you said, it isn't fair on your boyfriend.
    nicely said
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    Keep as anon or delete please.

    I was in the exact same position as you. I decided the best thing for me was to have a baby. My bf agreed and we got married. I study through distance learning rather than going to a traditional university. People say I have given up too much and will regret my choice, but I prefer the idea of staying in looking after my baby rather than going to a club getting drunk.

    At the end of the day, there are both pros and cons, you have to do what is right for you!
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    You can't have a baby because you can't afford one. It's like seeing the latest mobile phone iphone 4 in a shop, you like it to bits but you can't afford to have it. But then you think to yourself, you'll save up for it and buy it later and you do, just like to have a baby, you need to sort out your career first, settle down with your bf by marrying him, afford a room/house for your bf to stay with and where you two can raise the baby ....
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    OP - I can sympathise with you
    I'm a person, who at the age of 14 was like "I'm never having kids..." It's funny how quickly being in a relationship can change that for some.
    However, you need to keep your head on straight. My wake up call is that I'm in my first year at uni, and live with my boyfriend in a small apartment - there's no way we'd be financially ready for children and we won't be for a while yet.
    Crack on with your studies, practice safe sex, and live your life - kids can come later. See it the same as me, and something to look forward to down the line
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    Imagine if you were an alien from out of space and the idea of having sexual intercourse was alien to you, upon watching some porn or watching a tutorial on fornication, wouldn't you feel like 'WTF??'

    Next time you watch a porno, watch it as if you haven't heard of sex before and you'll think these people are weird.

    Also, approach sex objectively ... it's very strange.
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    Average cost of having a baby before it's even born is £1,560, according to several different websites. And then several thousands more for nappies, college, child care, health, and loads of other stuff.
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    You don't want a baby, your crazy lady hormone filled brain wants a baby.
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    You want a baby?

    Do you want a 13 year old? Because babies aren't babies forever.
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    (Original post by Emma.x)
    sorry about spelling, not really with it atm, i can spell i got a A in english :L
    and i know im not going to, i want it to have a good upbringing, one where it has stability and financial security, cant help the way i feel though
    Anon fail!!!
    I had a feeling it was you anyway :cool:
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    (Original post by Emma.x)
    sorry about spelling, not really with it atm, i can spell i got a A in english :L
    and i know im not going to, i want it to have a good upbringing, one where it has stability and financial security, cant help the way i feel though


    Anonymous fail? haha
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    Poke holes in all his condoms.
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    I know how you feel, I felt the same from the age of 14 or so (I'm 20 now). It's just natural. But the thing that sets people like you apart is that you're mature enough to realise that it's stupid to have a baby at your age and it wouldn't have the best of starts no matter how much you loved it. I'm afraid the feeling doesn't really go away, I still get it but know I have at least another 5 years to wait, but I know it will be worth it in the end. You need to just get on with your life, try not to dwell on it too much.

    Good on you for not doing what loads of girls do and just going for it anyway.
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    (Original post by emmaD96)
    Anon fail!!!
    I had a feeling it was you anyway http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/i...ilies/cool.gif
    Oops ah well tbf only made it anon incase i came on here when my bf happened to be looking and someone had quoted me, and what do you mean you hd a feeling it was me anyway?
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    Have one. But don't have it for another ten years.

    See? You can have your cake and eat it. Good luck. Babies are brilliant.
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    It's going to cost you a lot of money.
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    (Original post by pina.Love)
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    i HAVE to ask you - is that katy perry in your sig? are they having a lil tiff??? it looks so juicy..

    oh and op, i saw this amazing baby today out shopping, i seriously wanted to kidnap him/her (can never determine the sex of a baby unless it's wearing bright pink/bright blue). i suppose i'm just gonna dish out the practical talk.. wait until you're financially stable and have lived your life a bit because although it seems exciting now, your life sort of comes to a stop that lasts about 18 years :sigh: and then even after that, i don't think the worry ever ends. so yeah. but meh who am i to say that, we're all different and lead different lives so woooooo babies?
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    (Original post by arabie)
    i HAVE to ask you - is that katy perry in your sig? are they having a lil tiff??? it looks so juicy..

    oh and op, i saw this amazing baby today out shopping, i seriously wanted to kidnap him/her (can never determine the sex of a baby unless it's wearing bright pink/bright blue). i suppose i'm just gonna dish out the practical talk.. wait until you're financially stable and have lived your life a bit because although it seems exciting now, your life sort of comes to a stop that lasts about 18 years :sigh: and then even after that, i don't think the worry ever ends. so yeah. but meh who am i to say that, we're all different and lead different lives so woooooo babies?
    yup KP it looks like a lil bit of *****iness is going on
 
 
 
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