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    Basically, I moved into halls a weeks or so ago, it's a nice place, nice people and a good uni (Cardiff).
    The problem is, everyday, all I think about is going home, I am painfully homesick and am only feeling better after drinking (which has its own set of problems).
    If i was with horrid house mates or my room was rancid, I could understand why I want to go back so much, but I don't. They're lovely people and my room is better than at home.

    Does going home help? Or just exacerbate the problem? And if you've been in a similar boat, did it ease off, or am I just not cut out for living far away from home?

    I really don't want to drop out, but it's seriously crossing my mind every second.
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    If you're feeling homesick, calling/going home will only make it that much worse.
    Stick with it, it'll pass soon enough.
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    My friend went to Cardiff uni last year and said EXACTLY the same as you. Within just 2 days she wanted to go home and was convinced she was leaving straight away. She stuck it out though and has just started her second year, loving it! So I wouldn't go home yet - try and settle in so that when you go home it's just to visit and not for good!
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    Give it until xmas before you make any rash decisions. Get involved in all aspects of uni, including societies and meet lots of people and have lots of fun!
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    Loads of people will feel homesick initially, give it time, try getting used to it. If you can't get used to it after a long time, then you could maybe start thinking of dropping out (and even then it should be last resort as you look for other places and such).
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    congratulation anyway getting to cardiff Uni,i don't know there how's.but i heard cardiff Uni is also famous.hurmmm...homesick only for a while, u can back at home by weekend
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    I wouldn't necessarily say going home worsens the problem for everyone. It might be better for you, if you can't cope, to commute home for the first couple of weekends and then gradually increase the time between visiting. It'll give you something to look forward to throughout the weekdays. Then you might begin visiting every two weeks, then four...etc, until you really only go back home for holidays. I am in a very similar situation as you, my first couple of days all I could think about was going home and that I had made a mistake going to university. It's lessened down now but I am still missing it, but I can feel myself gradually easing in to the new atmosphere.

    Some say that if you commute home frequently then you'll become an outcast from your flat and course mates, and you'll become 'that guy' because your missing the main opportunity to interact with them. I don't know, but I wouldn't easily make such a sweeping generalization. My brother came back most of the chances he got, and he still became close with his flatmates, course mates, met a nice girl and graduated.
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    I think my sister was like that, but now she actually wants to move back to Cardiff for a while. I'd stick with it, and not go home. Stay safe in the knowledge that Cardiff, it seems, becomes a home for a lot of it's students.

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    Know the feeling OP, i moved to uni last Sunday and im terribly homesick, today im worse than ever cuz i usually go shopping with my mum and aunt on Saturdays. But earlier i rung home and spoke to me mum and told her i loved her and missed her and she said she went shopping and it wasnt the same without me, but i feel weirdly better. Stick it out, tis what i'm gna do. I've told myself i can sit and mope until i drop out or i can hold my head u high and throw myself in and get used to it. I plan to do the latter.

    Good luck
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    I agree with bellacute, calling home can make you feel better. A lot of people don't advise it because they say it will make you worse but it really helps me. It makes me feel less far away from home.
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    I feel homesick, but i hate my flatmates, but i like my course, so its difficult.
 
 
 
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