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One night stand but no sex watch

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    What do guys think about girls who are up for a 'one night stand' but who don't want actual sex? As in they would be up for doing other stuff like oral, dry humping etc but not actual penatration? Has anyone been in a situation like this before?
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    No, but each to their own.
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    yeah seems fair enough
    girls don't always want to go straight into sleeping with a random guy, just a bit of fun is ok
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    I heard some guys talking about this the other day and they said only if they really liked the girl and new they could resist not having sex with her if they were in bed together or wherever they end up.
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    Id be intereasted to know what girls think of a guy who wanted this?
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    Doesn't sound like a problem to me.
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    (Original post by Suzanne123)
    Id be intereasted to know what girls think of a guy who wanted this?
    Fine, perfect if the girl wanted the same. I'd respect the guy quite a lot tbh.
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    Then it isn't a one night stand?
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    (Original post by FTstudies)
    Then it isn't a one night stand?
    yeah it is, even though the term one night stand is almost 100% assumed to be sex, it doesnt have to be. It could just be a one off night of fun for both people, whether thats actual penetration or not is irrelevant?
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    I'd feel like I was leading a guy on if I'd just met him, gone back to his but then refused to have sex...I'd say that most guys who take girls home after night's out are looking for one thing, and will probably be disappointed if they didn't get it!
    It would be ok if either party made it clear beforehand that they didn't want full sex...
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    If I really liked a girl we could have prolonged spoonage in bed as opposed to having actual sex.

    If there was reasonable doubt about our relationship prospects (e.g. we have just met), then I'd be more inclined to have sex.
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    if i had a one night stand where penetration wasnt involved i would be like 50 times more horny than i was to start with and to me that defeats the idea of a one night stand. high energy sex is great where your really being ploughed into mmm
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    That would be really misleading unless stated before hand.. which would kinda be weird wouldnt it?

    'hey shall we go back to mine then?'
    'yeh sure!'
    'by the way, we're not having sex just maybe some dry-humping/oral?'
    'cya'

    ..can't see the situation ever happening personally
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    One night stands are one night stands because of the sex therefore you didn't actually have one.
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    (Original post by c_tiger)
    yeah it is, even though the term one night stand is almost 100% assumed to be sex, it doesnt have to be. It could just be a one off night of fun for both people, whether thats actual penetration or not is irrelevant?
    It's not what the majority would think though. If someone was bragging about having a one night stand, you'd instantly think 'SEX' as in, penetration. Otherwise it's kind of a flimsy way to use the phrase (no pun intended)
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    (Original post by FTstudies)
    It's not what the majority would think though. If someone was bragging about having a one night stand, you'd instantly think 'SEX' as in, penetration. Otherwise it's kind of a flimsy way to use the phrase (no pun intended)
    Yeah true I do agree. But then again if you went away and stayed with a guy for the night and just gave eachother oral sex I think it could still be classed as a one night stand, cos it has all the effects and implications of sex just minus the penetrative intercourse bit.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What do guys think about girls who are up for a 'one night stand' but who don't want actual sex? As in they would be up for doing other stuff like oral, dry humping etc but not actual penatration? Has anyone been in a situation like this before?
    As long as the guy gets 'finished off', many would be fine with it. If you've gone home with someone you probably think they're quite hot and most guys love blowjobs.

    (Original post by Suzanne123)
    Id be intereasted to know what girls think of a guy who wanted this?
    Strangely when I've said this before, the girls have often got a bit upset and wondered why I didn't want to have sex with them (the stereotypical "aren't I good enough for that?" and suchlike).
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    http://www.urbandictionary.com/defin...ne+night+stand

    If there's no sex then there's no "one night stand".
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    (Original post by Drogue)
    Strangely when I've said this before, the girls have often got a bit upset and wondered why I didn't want to have sex with them (the stereotypical "aren't I good enough for that?" and suchlike).
    Hmmm I can see why some girls might act like that, but I can also imagine some would be more relieved to know they won't be pressured into sex if the guys have said no to sex first.
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    I've known a few women who've wanted this. As long as you make it clear up front its fine.
 
 
 
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