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    being cheated on and then consequently dumped has left me feeling with self- esteem even lower than i'd had prior.

    people say that even if you're ugly, if you have some confidence you can attract people
    i feel like i have nothing to be confident about- i'm one of those people who are so pathetic that they need to have someone with a romantic interest in them to feel remotely confident or good about themselves. but inevitably, the feelings of worthlessness and incredibly low self esteem mean i have no confidence whatsoever (ie, always looking at the floor etc).

    how the hell do i get over this?

    (on a side note... umm WUT? someone just neg repped me for having low self-esteem??? :s)
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    Get laid as many times as you can.

    Makes you feel like a **** but at least you get some attention you've been craving, you know.

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    Ive just seen your profile pic you are not ugly, just try feminising yourself a bit. You have a lot to be confident about a lot of guys find ginger hair and pale skin hot Try working out if you are unhappy with your figure or anything it will make you feel better anyway.
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    I think that your real problem is that you're not getting enough enjoyment out of looking at the floor. That's the best part about having low self-esteem. Floors are often the most interesting part of a building. Patterns caused by small dips and ridges in the patterns of carpets are often as fascinating as any mountains in the Andes. I don't believe that you're taking full advantage of your situation.
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    (Original post by Justin1265)
    Get laid as many times as you can.

    Makes you feel like a **** but at least you get some attention you've been craving, you know.

    Dont listen to this idiot :|
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    You're neither ugly nor attractive... Enjoy life in the middle!!!
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    Lots of chocolate for you :hugs:

    Fake the confidence and the real stuff will follow!
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    (Original post by Kulpio)
    Dont listen to this idiot :|
    Ok but it really does work.

    I have a virgin friend who got laid and after she felt really happy and finally accepted herself as a person.

    I think that if you have sex with at least one person, then you suddenly feel socially accepted.
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    You got into Durham, enjoy your life.
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    Watch all series of How to Look Good Naked back to back! Seriously, I felt like crap a couple of years ago and this really helped!
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    Here you go... http://operationbeautiful.com/
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    (Original post by Justin1265)
    Ok but it really does work.

    I have a virgin friend who got laid and after she felt really happy and finally accepted herself as a person.

    I think that if you have sex with at least one person, then you suddenly feel socially accepted.
    i've had sex before... i'm just too unattractive to have it again (unless i pay someone :/ ]
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    i would suppose smiling helps, but if you ever feel unhappy about how you look, try experimenting with different looks, if you're into that kind of thang :camp:
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    You ARE NOT unattractive, i don't know where you got that from. Play with makeup a bit. For your confidence, go out, meet new people, socialise and you will feel confident.

    Always be happy with yourself, positive attitudes always draws people like a butterful to a flower( pardon the pun) But seriously. You are pretty! Don't feel inadequate with yourself.
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    (Original post by AmiiRainbow)
    being cheated on and then consequently dumped has left me feeling with self- esteem even lower than i'd had prior.

    people say that even if you're ugly, if you have some confidence you can attract people
    i feel like i have nothing to be confident about- i'm one of those people who are so pathetic that they need to have someone with a romantic interest in them to feel remotely confident or good about themselves. but inevitably, the feelings of worthlessness and incredibly low self esteem mean i have no confidence whatsoever (ie, always looking at the floor etc).

    how the hell do i get over this?
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    Your not ugly, your just unconventionally attractive :p: Which is basically saying; to me your attractive, but to other guys perhaps not. Shappens though...

    Also, I reckon you'd look nice with a nose piercing like this one http://content5.videojug.com/aa/aa6f...-piercings.jpg :o:

    I can partially understand how you feel, but the only way is to actually put in a big effort in communicating with the world. You don't have to be THAT confident with guys because generally they put in the effort anyways. So long as you reciprocate in a way which feels comfortable with you, then you will no doubt have a successful relationship! A guy who truly loves you won't cheat and will always be standing by your side. BUT no i mean get your confidence up a bit and to the world you will be very attractive
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    (Original post by LadyJazzles)
    Here you go... http://operationbeautiful.com/
    i've read about this actually... it's such a lovely idea- i think the whole concept of leaving happy notes for strangers to come across is pretty great though
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    (Original post by Vanny17)
    You ARE NOT unattractive, i don't know where you got that from. Play with makeup a bit. For your confidence, go out, meet new people, socialise and you will feel confident.

    Always be happy with yourself, positive attitudes always draws people like a butterful to a flower( pardon the pun) But seriously. You are pretty! Don't feel inadequate with yourself.
    thankyou-i'm ok at talking to people who're in a similar situation to me... but sometimes the paranoia tends to kick in and i shy away :/
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    (Original post by daytona01)
    profile pic;

    Your not ugly, your just unconventionally attractive :p: Which is basically saying; to me your attractive, but to other guys perhaps not. Shappens though...

    Also, I reckon you'd look nice with a nose piercing like this one http://content5.videojug.com/aa/aa6f...-piercings.jpg :o:

    I can partially understand how you feel, but the only way is to actually put in a big effort in communicating with the world. You don't have to be THAT confident with guys because generally they put in the effort anyways. So long as you reciprocate in a way which feels comfortable with you, then you will no doubt have a successful relationship! A guy who truly loves you won't cheat and will always be standing by your side. BUT no i mean get your confidence up a bit and to the world you will be very attractive
    thanks- if i wasn't a wuss, getting a nose piercing would definitely be something i'd consider :p:
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    Everybody feels down about themselves sometimes. I know that I do all the time.

    You could take some of the advice you've got here and sleep around as much as possible, or get the classic drunk self-righteousness. Seems like pretty silly advice to me.

    For me, I think it's best to be mindful of your own low self-esteem and get to the cause of why. There’s no point just being depressed for no reason. And if you know why you’re down and you can easily go about fixing it, you should do. And, well, if you can’t fix it, no point getting down about it. Just focus on the positives?
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    (Original post by Great Lord Xenu)
    I think that your real problem is that you're not getting enough enjoyment out of looking at the floor. That's the best part about having low self-esteem. Floors are often the most interesting part of a building. Patterns caused by small dips and ridges in the patterns of carpets are often as fascinating as any mountains in the Andes. I don't believe that you're taking full advantage of your situation.
    I agree, floors are usually underrated, I mean the floor is basically what keeps us upright and balanced. Floors should be treasured by mankind.

    You are hot OP, check your profile pic. Honestly, you look a million times better than some of the girls that live in my town (quite a small town though). You're like a female version of Ron Weasley. I mean, that speaks for itself really and we all know how damn good looking Ronnie is to all you girls. Ginger hair suits you, you stand out from everyone. Maybe you should trim it a bit to make it look more elegant :dontknow: Up to you, I don't know how girls take care of their looks. Just advice.
 
 
 
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