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    So I moved to uni last Sunday, I was obviously excited but also pretty scared because I'm not the type to just go crazy with people, not overly-confident etc. Don't get me wrong I actually do really enjoy going clubbing and that but like to do so with my close friends. I went to a really tiny all-girls school where everyone had their own set of friends and didn't socialise outside that. There was a group of 5 or 6 girls who blatantly thought they were cooler than everyone else and although they were perfectly civil I found them really initimidating, and was really hoping that the people at Uni wouldn't be like them.

    As for my hallmates, they pretty much all seem like really nice, friendly, down to earth people...except for one particular person. This person is probably best described by our first encounter, I was chatting to some guys from the hallway when we heard this banging and yelling. It was this girl, already drunk (it was literally half an hour after our hall's moving in slot) banging on everyone's door with a doorstop, dressed in a full-body panda costume, yelling and swearing for everyone come out to 'get messy'. In her room were several crates of beer. Of course, everybody loved it.

    She is loud, inconsiderate and pretentious. I can tell she thinks she's really edgy because she's got some piercings and plays really loud music (she also loves to advertise how much she loves dubstep in a really cringeworthy manner.)

    The worst bit is, literally everybody seems to love her. I wouldn't care that she was like that - if you don't like someone, you don't like someone, and you stay out of their way but my hall is so corridor-orientated and she lives 2 doors down from me. All the boys seem to absolutely love her, which I don't understand because she's not even that good looking, she is waaay too skinny and has a weird nose. She has a 'gang' which is of course some hilarriooouussss drunken personal joke. They were mucking around in the corridor 'appointing' people and one of the guys I get on pretty well with in the corridor was like 'hey you!' she took one look at me and burst out laughing, and said "look at her face...she'd rather die" and then they all laughed at me and I felt like complete crap.

    I know that you're going to all call me pathetic, but I can't help it, she really, really bothers me. I would go so far as to say that her presence, and the effects she's had on our community, has ruined my freshers. But in another respect, I'm kind of obsessed with her. The fact that she has private facebook drives me mad, I don't know why. And no, I'm not gay.

    I don't even know what I'm expecting from you, or what I'm asking. I think I needed to vent (I mean clearly I can't talk to people at uni about he) and maybe consolation that I'm not being a psycho.. am I being a psycho?
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    u're not a psycho. u need to come out of ur shell. u sound pretty shy to me...

    just have fun, pretend she doesnt exist
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    She's a prat, and she probably won't be there all that long if that's what she's playing at! Don't worry about it, just rise above it and have a good time yourself
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    (Original post by katyness)
    u're not a psycho. u need to come out of ur shell. u sound pretty shy to me...

    just have fun, pretend she doesnt exist
    It's pretty hard for me to 'come out of my shell' and 'just have fun' when those people I'd like to be doing that with (I do really like my hallmates) are obsessed with this complete moron. She seems to be everywhere. She already seems to know half the campus. If our hall play drinking games, she'll just dominate. Never have I ever just becomes 'What has Miranda done or pretended to not do just so she can tell her KRAZY anecdote.' Ring of Fire becomes 'let's make rules up to target Miranda so that we can flirt with her'. I just feel like a complete shadow. In fact people are pre-lashing in her room right now... I can hear the bass from her stupid speakers when someone opens the door.
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    i couldve sworn that this was my ex, until you mentioned the panda costume and the beer, really doesnt sounds like her

    just try and ignore it for the first few weeks
    people will hopefully settle down after freshers week and realise that she isnt the best type of person, unlike yourself by the sounds of it
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    give it a few weeks, people will tire of her
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    She's a prat, and she probably won't be there all that long if that's what she's playing at! Don't worry about it, just rise above it and have a good time yourself
    What makes you think she won't be there long? And it's hard for me to rise above it when everyone I want to hang out with arse-wipes her
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    Oh dearie me.

    Don't worry about her. People will get bored of her easily and will eventually be annoyed by her attention seeking methods.

    If she says anything rude to you again just ignore it with a shrug or comeback with something epic that will shut her up.

    And Dubstep? Please.
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    It's pretty hard for me to 'come out of my shell' and 'just have fun' when those people I'd like to be doing that with (I do really like my hallmates) are obsessed with this complete moron. She seems to be everywhere. She already seems to know half the campus. If our hall play drinking games, she'll just dominate. Never have I ever just becomes 'What has Miranda done or pretended to not do just so she can tell her KRAZY anecdote.' Ring of Fire becomes 'let's make rules up to target Miranda so that we can flirt with her'. I just feel like a complete shadow. In fact people are pre-lashing in her room right now... I can hear the bass from her stupid speakers when someone opens the door.
    yeaah, i see it.

    well it's just freshers. guys wanna have sex like crazy and she's up for that. im sorry that she ruined ur week; that sucks.
    maybe once everybody as settled down, u can have fun again?

    i dont know what to say :/ that sucks...
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    What makes you think she won't be there long? And it's hard for me to rise above it when everyone I want to hang out with arse-wipes her
    Well think about it, if she's spending ALL her time getting wasted and taking the piss out of people, she's going to get kicked off her course.
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    Oh, wow, she sounds like a total *****. I guess the only thing you can do is start a rumour that she's schizophrenic and HIV positive. :dontknow:
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    So I moved to uni last Sunday, I was obviously excited but also pretty scared because I'm not the type to just go crazy with people, not overly-confident etc. Don't get me wrong I actually do really enjoy going clubbing and that but like to do so with my close friends. I went to a really tiny all-girls school where everyone had their own set of friends and didn't socialise outside that. There was a group of 5 or 6 girls who blatantly thought they were cooler than everyone else and although they were perfectly civil I found them really initimidating, and was really hoping that the people at Uni wouldn't be like them.

    As for my hallmates, they pretty much all seem like really nice, friendly, down to earth people...except for one particular person. This person is probably best described by our first encounter, I was chatting to some guys from the hallway when we heard this banging and yelling. It was this girl, already drunk (it was literally half an hour after our hall's moving in slot) banging on everyone's door with a doorstop, dressed in a full-body panda costume, yelling and swearing for everyone come out to 'get messy'. In her room were several crates of beer. Of course, everybody loved it.

    She is loud, inconsiderate and pretentious. I can tell she thinks she's really edgy because she's got some piercings and plays really loud music (she also loves to advertise how much she loves dubstep in a really cringeworthy manner.)

    The worst bit is, literally everybody seems to love her. I wouldn't care that she was like that - if you don't like someone, you don't like someone, and you stay out of their way but my hall is so corridor-orientated and she lives 2 doors down from me. All the boys seem to absolutely love her, which I don't understand because she's not even that good looking, she is waaay too skinny and has a weird nose. She has a 'gang' which is of course some hilarriooouussss drunken personal joke. They were mucking around in the corridor 'appointing' people and one of the guys I get on pretty well with in the corridor was like 'hey you!' she took one look at me and burst out laughing, and said "look at her face...she'd rather die" and then they all laughed at me and I felt like complete crap.

    I know that you're going to all call me pathetic, but I can't help it, she really, really bothers me. I would go so far as to say that her presence, and the effects she's had on our community, has ruined my freshers. But in another respect, I'm kind of obsessed with her. The fact that she has private facebook drives me mad, I don't know why. And no, I'm not gay.

    I don't even know what I'm expecting from you, or what I'm asking. I think I needed to vent (I mean clearly I can't talk to people at uni about he) and maybe consolation that I'm not being a psycho.. am I being a psycho?
    You don't need to change, or become more outgoing. It's okay not to be false and need alcohol to socialise. I fail to comprehend how people (especially freshers) get drunk... to make friends... Because that is what it really is. I only make friends after spending time with an acquaintance enough to see that we gel and are in 'tune' where as all these people I see at Uni go out get drunk and only then can they approach people and become 'friends' with them. When really you are just drinking buddies. People like her because everyone is new and she is being 'friendly' and easy going. A bit like a friend.

    I don't know. I know I'm not helping. Don't feel like you have to reduce yourself to be able to be a part of this crazyness. Don't descend to their level if you don't need to.
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    So I moved to uni last Sunday, I was obviously excited but also pretty scared because I'm not the type to just go crazy with people, not overly-confident etc. Don't get me wrong I actually do really enjoy going clubbing and that but like to do so with my close friends. I went to a really tiny all-girls school where everyone had their own set of friends and didn't socialise outside that. There was a group of 5 or 6 girls who blatantly thought they were cooler than everyone else and although they were perfectly civil I found them really initimidating, and was really hoping that the people at Uni wouldn't be like them.

    As for my hallmates, they pretty much all seem like really nice, friendly, down to earth people...except for one particular person. This person is probably best described by our first encounter, I was chatting to some guys from the hallway when we heard this banging and yelling. It was this girl, already drunk (it was literally half an hour after our hall's moving in slot) banging on everyone's door with a doorstop, dressed in a full-body panda costume, yelling and swearing for everyone come out to 'get messy'. In her room were several crates of beer. Of course, everybody loved it.

    She is loud, inconsiderate and pretentious. I can tell she thinks she's really edgy because she's got some piercings and plays really loud music (she also loves to advertise how much she loves dubstep in a really cringeworthy manner.)

    The worst bit is, literally everybody seems to love her. I wouldn't care that she was like that - if you don't like someone, you don't like someone, and you stay out of their way but my hall is so corridor-orientated and she lives 2 doors down from me. All the boys seem to absolutely love her, which I don't understand because she's not even that good looking, she is waaay too skinny and has a weird nose. She has a 'gang' which is of course some hilarriooouussss drunken personal joke. They were mucking around in the corridor 'appointing' people and one of the guys I get on pretty well with in the corridor was like 'hey you!' she took one look at me and burst out laughing, and said "look at her face...she'd rather die" and then they all laughed at me and I felt like complete crap.

    I know that you're going to all call me pathetic, but I can't help it, she really, really bothers me. I would go so far as to say that her presence, and the effects she's had on our community, has ruined my freshers. But in another respect, I'm kind of obsessed with her. The fact that she has private facebook drives me mad, I don't know why. And no, I'm not gay.

    I don't even know what I'm expecting from you, or what I'm asking. I think I needed to vent (I mean clearly I can't talk to people at uni about he) and maybe consolation that I'm not being a psycho.. am I being a psycho?

    Aww I don't think you're a psycho! I would be feeling exactly the same way!

    I can't relate exactly but I did have a flatmate last year who annoyed she - she was really loud and opinionated and thought her subject was superior to everyone else and the fact that she'd had a lot of lfe experience meant that she was always right. Now, I know it's not the same situation but for the first term, everyone seemed to keep their feelings to themselves and then after the Xmas break, everyone started to reveal that they all found her irritating.

    Anyway, when people have private FB settings, it drives me crazy, BUT, i think you can legitimately add her cause she is your flatmate and that might show that you dont hate her (which they might think cause of the 'look at her face' thing) which might go someway towards stopping them from laughing about you again.

    Right, so I reckon, everyone seems to love her at the mo 'cause it's freshers but once lectures begin, you'll be suprised how quickly people settle down and if she's still being a pain then, people will probs see why she's getting to you.

    Keep talking to all of your flatmates but dont get involved in her rubbish if you dont want to - dont alienate everyone else though.

    Good luck and try not to let her get to you xx
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    She sounds like a turd.

    No worries, she'll crash and burn soon enough, and then you can step in and wow peepz.
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    (Original post by shygirl18)
    You don't need to change, or become more outgoing. It's okay not to be false and need alcohol to socialise. I fail to comprehend how people (especially freshers) get drunk... to make friends... Because that is what it really is. I only make friends after spending time with an acquaintance enough to see that we gel and are in 'tune' where as all these people I see at Uni go out get drunk and only then can they approach people and become 'friends' with them. When really you are just drinking buddies. People like her because everyone is new and she is being 'friendly' and easy going. A bit like a friend.

    I don't know. I know I'm not helping. Don't feel like you have to reduce yourself to be able to be a part of this crazyness. Don't descend to their level if you don't need to.
    But I enjoy drinking! I do! I like to go out with my friends and get drunk and have a laugh, I just can't deal with this huge looming presence in the place where I'm going to be living for the NEXT YEAR! OH MY GOD. A YEAR. I WANT TO CRY.


    And to all the people who said she sounds like a *****; the thing is, she's not actually *****y or outright mean. It's more that she's just really dismissive and arrogant. She wants everybody to like her, so she talks to everyone, even what one might consider stereotypical 'nerds' (annoyingly, she's really academic. she got 3A* and a special letter from the exam board:rolleyes: which, of course, the entire UNIVERSITY knows about)

    For instance: she saw that I had a poster with a quote about music on it and asked what sort of music I was into. I said I liked indie and she seemed really nice and enthusiastic and was all coooool me too what bands are you into and I told her that my favourite bands were the Fratellis and Bon Iver. She kind of smirked and went like 'oh right, so like mainsteream indie-pop. Yeah I'm more into like 90s post-punk blablablabla' and went on for about a year about her musical knowledge before ending the conversation firmly on that note and running off to get messy, or something.
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    But I enjoy drinking! I do! I like to go out with my friends and get drunk and have a laugh, I just can't deal with this huge looming presence in the place where I'm going to be living for the NEXT YEAR! OH MY GOD. A YEAR. I WANT TO CRY.


    And to all the people who said she sounds like a *****; the thing is, she's not actually *****y or outright mean. It's more that she's just really dismissive and arrogant. She wants everybody to like her, so she talks to everyone, even what one might consider stereotypical 'nerds' (annoyingly, she's really academic. she got 3A* and a special letter from the exam board:rolleyes: which, of course, the entire UNIVERSITY knows about)

    For instance: she saw that I had a poster with a quote about music on it and asked what sort of music I was into. I said I liked indie and she seemed really nice and enthusiastic and was all coooool me too what bands are you into and I told her that my favourite bands were the Fratellis and Bon Iver. She kind of smirked and went like 'oh right, so like mainsteream indie-pop. Yeah I'm more into like 90s post-punk blablablabla' and went on for about a year about her musical knowledge before ending the conversation firmly on that note and running off to get messy, or something.
    She's pretentious. Fair enough. She needs to do that to make herself feel good, then that's fine.

    And yeah I enjoy drinking and partying to. I just find it so annoying when people do it without good reason.
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    (Original post by vintage_007)
    Aww I don't think you're a psycho! I would be feeling exactly the same way!

    I can't relate exactly but I did have a flatmate last year who annoyed she - she was really loud and opinionated and thought her subject was superior to everyone else and the fact that she'd had a lot of lfe experience meant that she was always right. Now, I know it's not the same situation but for the first term, everyone seemed to keep their feelings to themselves and then after the Xmas break, everyone started to reveal that they all found her irritating.

    Anyway, when people have private FB settings, it drives me crazy, BUT, i think you can legitimately add her cause she is your flatmate and that might show that you dont hate her (which they might think cause of the 'look at her face' thing) which might go someway towards stopping them from laughing about you again.

    Right, so I reckon, everyone seems to love her at the mo 'cause it's freshers but once lectures begin, you'll be suprised how quickly people settle down and if she's still being a pain then, people will probs see why she's getting to you.

    Keep talking to all of your flatmates but dont get involved in her rubbish if you dont want to - dont alienate everyone else though.

    Good luck and try not to let her get to you xx
    This does actually make me feel marginally better ... in the case of your girl, was she popular? I mean in that first term did people appear to love her?

    And thanks for the advice, I know on a practical level that it is good advice it's just hard to practice in reality you know
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    So I moved to uni last Sunday, I was obviously excited but also pretty scared because I'm not the type to just go crazy with people, not overly-confident etc. Don't get me wrong I actually do really enjoy going clubbing and that but like to do so with my close friends. I went to a really tiny all-girls school where everyone had their own set of friends and didn't socialise outside that. There was a group of 5 or 6 girls who blatantly thought they were cooler than everyone else and although they were perfectly civil I found them really initimidating, and was really hoping that the people at Uni wouldn't be like them.

    As for my hallmates, they pretty much all seem like really nice, friendly, down to earth people...except for one particular person. This person is probably best described by our first encounter, I was chatting to some guys from the hallway when we heard this banging and yelling. It was this girl, already drunk (it was literally half an hour after our hall's moving in slot) banging on everyone's door with a doorstop, dressed in a full-body panda costume, yelling and swearing for everyone come out to 'get messy'. In her room were several crates of beer. Of course, everybody loved it.

    She is loud, inconsiderate and pretentious. I can tell she thinks she's really edgy because she's got some piercings and plays really loud music (she also loves to advertise how much she loves dubstep in a really cringeworthy manner.)

    The worst bit is, literally everybody seems to love her. I wouldn't care that she was like that - if you don't like someone, you don't like someone, and you stay out of their way but my hall is so corridor-orientated and she lives 2 doors down from me. All the boys seem to absolutely love her, which I don't understand because she's not even that good looking, she is waaay too skinny and has a weird nose. She has a 'gang' which is of course some hilarriooouussss drunken personal joke. They were mucking around in the corridor 'appointing' people and one of the guys I get on pretty well with in the corridor was like 'hey you!' she took one look at me and burst out laughing, and said "look at her face...she'd rather die" and then they all laughed at me and I felt like complete crap.

    I know that you're going to all call me pathetic, but I can't help it, she really, really bothers me. I would go so far as to say that her presence, and the effects she's had on our community, has ruined my freshers. But in another respect, I'm kind of obsessed with her. The fact that she has private facebook drives me mad, I don't know why. And no, I'm not gay.

    I don't even know what I'm expecting from you, or what I'm asking. I think I needed to vent (I mean clearly I can't talk to people at uni about he) and maybe consolation that I'm not being a psycho.. am I being a psycho?

    I promise you by Christmas everyone will be absolutely fed up of her. She'll cause too much drama... people hate that once freshers is over and they actually need to get on with their lives Just be yourself, real friendships tend to form slowly at uni and social groups change a lot in the first few months
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    it'll calm down when lectures start and work gets serious, if she's still so noisy and hell she might get worse tbh, folks will start to get bored of her and she'll be the crazy one.
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    Initially I was just going to comment on my noticing of someone else called Miranda, this always interests me , as there are very few of us

    BUT as I did, I thought of somethings to suggest maybe. Have you actually had a conversation with her? All this attention-seeking stuff might just be her reaction to being out of her comfort zone. Maybe she'll calm down once she settles in. Also, why don't you just join in with these drinking games and stuff? There might be a reason why people like her, try and find out what it is? There is always some good in some people, and she seems to be one of those people who makes a big impression quickly. Try and form one through direct experience with her, rather than how she behaves with other people
    having said this, I've never dealt with flatmates or anything so this advice may be worthless, but you may as well try to start out on the right foot. Good luck
 
 
 
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