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    Hey, sucks that this wasn't in HR cos I would have posted this as anon. But I know what you're on about... there are always people like this! Look up the female dog whistle on google, and you'll probably read it and scream "THAT'S HER!!!"
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    This does actually make me feel marginally better ... in the case of your girl, was she popular? I mean in that first term did people appear to love her?

    And thanks for the advice, I know on a practical level that it is good advice it's just hard to practice in reality you know
    Aww I'm glad I've helped a bit!

    Yeah, I thought everyone loved her at first! She has a really strong personality and I'm relatively easy to egt with but won't put up with people putting others down (she insulted my sis to me!), especially when other people were too afraid to say anything (she had very strong opinions on religion and lots of my flatmates were church-goers) so we clashed quite a lot. At first I thought that people were leaving us to it cause they thought we were pathetic but after Xmas they all told me they agreed with me but don't want to stand up to her as she could be a total *****.

    Anyway, with her, it was sort of a case of holding your own actually helped as she didn't walk all over me and I was the one who ended up being invited to things over the summer whilst she was left out

    The thing is, during freshers, noone wants to offend anyone and you certainly dont want to ***** about your flatmates. Everyone will have their own opinions about her though and may be thinking she's just one of those people that they want to stay on the 'right' side of if you see what I mean?

    Hope you're enjoying uni other than that x
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
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    You're clearly deeply jealous of her, in particular because she gets more male attention than you and she is more outgoing. I'd be careful from ostracising yourself from the rest of your flatmates by showing your jealousy so obviously.

    You do sound like a bit of a psycho by the way, just chill out, and try and make friends with this girl. She sounds like she'd be a valuable ally, and she'll probably calm down after freshers week (like most people)
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    (Original post by psychocustard)
    Well think about it, if she's spending ALL her time getting wasted and taking the piss out of people, she's going to get kicked off her course.
    LOL why would you get kicked off your course for doing that? :lol: what an idiotic thing to say
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    She sounds so annoying, I completely understand how you feel.
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    People who are really academic usually don't have brilliant social skills. I don't think shes doing all these things on purpose, I think shes trying to make friends the only way she knows.
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    I agree with the posts saying it won't be like this for long.

    It's freshers week. Everyone wants to party party party. I'm not saying you don't want to btw! But this girl provides alcohol and 'fun' to some people. But after a few weeks, people will want to have some calmer days, do work sometimes, not go quite so mental. And then it'll calm down. She won't be such a big presence. In the mean time, keep your flatmate friends, but try and build up some others too (from nearby flats/course/societies) so you have options. Then you can bring them along sometimes (still socialise with flatmates but have people to talk to without miranda) and go out sometimes etc etc
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    Can't she make friends like most people?
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    The only way you can defeat her is if you stab her in the heart.
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    (Original post by Stefan1991)
    You're clearly deeply jealous of her, in particular because she gets more male attention than you and she is more outgoing. I'd be careful from ostracising yourself from the rest of your flatmates by showing your jealousy so obviously.
    This. I know this because I've felt this way before. Although I wouldn't call her a psycho!

    OP you're clearly quite insecure yourself so that's probably what you need to work on. I'm not sure if this is true for you but in my case, it wasn't jealousy in the sense that I wanted to be like her, because her behaviour repulsed me. It was jealousy in the fact that her repulsive behaviour seemed to attract so much attention, whereas me being all shy and quiet, attracted no attention. I didn't want to change and be like her for people to like me, I wanted them to like me and notice me for me.

    My only advice I can give is for you to work on your own insecurities. As to how to go about that I'm not sure, as I haven't sorted out my own yet...
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    Is it me or does this girl sound like a human version of imsoacademic?
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    Why did she say 'look at her face, she'd rather die?'
    Is it a weird nose gang or something?
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
    But I enjoy drinking! I do! I like to go out with my friends and get drunk and have a laugh, I just can't deal with this huge looming presence in the place where I'm going to be living for the NEXT YEAR! OH MY GOD. A YEAR. I WANT TO CRY.


    And to all the people who said she sounds like a *****; the thing is, she's not actually *****y or outright mean. It's more that she's just really dismissive and arrogant. She wants everybody to like her, so she talks to everyone, even what one might consider stereotypical 'nerds' (annoyingly, she's really academic. she got 3A* and a special letter from the exam board:rolleyes: which, of course, the entire UNIVERSITY knows about)

    For instance: she saw that I had a poster with a quote about music on it and asked what sort of music I was into. I said I liked indie and she seemed really nice and enthusiastic and was all coooool me too what bands are you into and I told her that my favourite bands were the Fratellis and Bon Iver. She kind of smirked and went like 'oh right, so like mainsteream indie-pop. Yeah I'm more into like 90s post-punk blablablabla' and went on for about a year about her musical knowledge before ending the conversation firmly on that note and running off to get messy, or something.
    Haha! You're funny./
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    But evenn you are fascinated by her, can't complain that they are too.
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    They were mucking around in the corridor 'appointing' people and one of the guys I get on pretty well with in the corridor was like 'hey you!' she took one look at me and burst out laughing, and said "look at her face...she'd rather die" and then they all laughed at me and I felt like complete crap.
    Could you just explain that again, I don't understand it. Sorry, it's probably me being dumb.

    I'm sorry she's ruined your freshers, OP. Is there no other like-minded person/people in your halls, who find her just as annoying as you do?
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    Bless you, OP. You sound just like me. I'd hate to be in a situation with people like that. But you did say there were plenty of more normal people so at least its not a 'you vs the Nose Gang' sort thing.

    As everyone else has said, it will die down. And it really will. She'll be yesterday's popular girl soon enough and a normalcy will settle. And if it gets too much and she's constantly vile and noisy and all that... university complaints. It sounds horrible but if you have to do something to stop it then go by official channels, more to protect yourself than anything.

    Good luck and enjoy uni!
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
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    you're at bristol and freshers has already started..? :lolwut:
    as far as i remember we don't move in til next sunday.. :hmmm:
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    Give her a two week window to improve. If she doesn't then you tell her EXACTLY what you think of her and tell her if it continues you will complain. Don't hold back, it's wonderfully cathartic telling people exactly how pathetic they are. No use complaining on the internet!
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    (Original post by candygirl2010)
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    Just think about it this way, you cannot go through life without meeting a few douches on the way. I know exactly how you feel when you just totally clash with someone personality wise and you can't get on with them at all, but as others have said, people will get bored of her after a while. Just be nice and it'll all work out.
 
 
 
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