Anon or delete please
I don't really know what to say, I don't usually make threads like this but I thought I'd give it a go.
So many people ask me why I don't have a boyfriend and never had but I don't really know why and when they do ask me, this whole situation brings me down :/
I'm very flirty and outgoing, I'm funny and friendly, I'd say I'm good looking and have a nice body (I've heard that compliment a couple of times). I've had some guys asking me out but they weren't really my type. I certainly don't think that I'm too good for anyone but I won't just go out with someone for the sake of it...
I've kissed before but that's the furthest I went...(im 19 btw)
So I guess I just want to know what is it that puts you off in a potential partner maybe I'm going wrong somewhere. I do read a lot of relationship books. (the last one I read was called "Why men love *****es" )
p.s. I do believe in waiting for the right person, I'm not asking for advice how to get guys, I'm asking what characteristic puts you off, there's a difference.
sorry for the long post. thank you for your replies
So why am I single?? Watch
- Thread Starter
- 26-09-2010 02:02
- 26-09-2010 02:08
- 26-09-2010 05:32
You actually sound like you'd be a great catch for someone. Drop the relationship books and just let life happen as its going to happen. Why anonymous though?
- 26-09-2010 06:54
We do love the *****es
- 26-09-2010 07:25
You can't really ask what puts someone off. Everybody is different. For example, I personally find smoking unattractive in anybody, whereas others will say its hot. If you catch my drift.
- 26-09-2010 07:31
Desperation is a put off , not saying you're desperate.
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 26-09-2010 07:34
I've had some guys asking me out but they weren't really my type. I certainly don't think that I'm too good for anyone but I won't just go out with someone for the sake of it...
Basically you should still date people fully realizing that you probably won't end up marrying them.
They don't need to be your soulmate to give them a chance. Who knows? Some people take a while to warm up to others fully, and if you're in a relationship with them they might turn out better than you thought.
Say yes more often, even if it is just for the sake of learning what a relationship is like (being with someone you love but don't <3LOVE<3 isn't bad) That doesn't mean whore yourself out btw.
- 26-09-2010 09:32
There isn't really anything about you that would put me off. Just say yes more often, like BumperBo said.
- 26-09-2010 10:01
Hi. I'm in exactly the same situation as you. I am 18, never had a boyfriend and have done stuff but am still a virgin. I wouldn't say I'm not pretty enough to get someone and I take good care of my body but nobody I like ever seems interested. I don't think I'm too good for anyone at all but I don't want to settle for someone, you know?
I think asking someone why they're single is v. rude even if its meant as a chat up line. It always makes me feel v. uncomfortable because I truly don't know why/have a planned answer
You'll find someone hun, I'm sure, I just hope I do too.
- 26-09-2010 12:51
Don't over-think it; those books are probably a load of crap. Just be yourself.
I also think you should say yes more. Once you got to know those guys who were interested in you, you might have started to like them. Even if not, you could go out on a couple dates, have a nice time. There's no harm in giving people a chance.
- 26-09-2010 12:57
You put me off. The world does not revolve around you and your personality doesn't entice me enough to make you a girlfriend.
- 26-09-2010 13:08
get rid of the relationship books, stop posting on forums, go out, find a guy you like, ask him out, and its wham bam thankyou mam.