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Being heartbroken
Anyone else been hearbroken?
I was, up untill very recentley. I had met what i could call perfection. I was just so infactuated and in love and had never experienced it all so it was especially significant. Things just did not work out. I cried for abseloutley weeks. Id wake up and tears would fill my eyes; id go to the toilets during break and have a cry. I was just so torn - id never been apprechiated, or wanted, ever, by anyone. Its just moments you remeber with someone, they are so special and they were all prominent in my mind. Im not totally over it but i have someone else i like alot - im not sure i should go for it because my heartbreak has made me cynical and apprehensive.
I was, up untill very recentley. I had met what i could call perfection. I was just so infactuated and in love and had never experienced it all so it was especially significant. Things just did not work out. I cried for abseloutley weeks. Id wake up and tears would fill my eyes; id go to the toilets during break and have a cry. I was just so torn - id never been apprechiated, or wanted, ever, by anyone. Its just moments you remeber with someone, they are so special and they were all prominent in my mind. Im not totally over it but i have someone else i like alot - im not sure i should go for it because my heartbreak has made me cynical and apprehensive.
marcusfox
Perhaps going out with someone for four years, then finding out she's been seeing someone behind your back for a year and is getting engaged to him - but she still wants you and her to be friends. LOL.
Marcus
Marcus
They always want to be friends, think it must help then jusitfy it to themselves
LucidExtra
Anyone else been hearbroken?
I was, up untill very recentley. I had met what i could call perfection. I was just so infactuated and in love and had never experienced it all so it was especially significant. Things just did not work out. I cried for abseloutley weeks. Id wake up and tears would fill my eyes; id go to the toilets during break and have a cry. I was just so torn - id never been apprechiated, or wanted, ever, by anyone. Its just moments you remeber with someone, they are so special and they were all prominent in my mind. Im not totally over it but i have someone else i like alot - im not sure i should go for it because my heartbreak has made me cynical and apprehensive.
I was, up untill very recentley. I had met what i could call perfection. I was just so infactuated and in love and had never experienced it all so it was especially significant. Things just did not work out. I cried for abseloutley weeks. Id wake up and tears would fill my eyes; id go to the toilets during break and have a cry. I was just so torn - id never been apprechiated, or wanted, ever, by anyone. Its just moments you remeber with someone, they are so special and they were all prominent in my mind. Im not totally over it but i have someone else i like alot - im not sure i should go for it because my heartbreak has made me cynical and apprehensive.
If you really like the new person you should go for it, because you don't want to look back and think what if. Maybe just take things slow, or explain to them that you've been really hurt in the past. Everyone is different though, and you shouldn't let one bad experience put you off or you will deny yourself many more good experiences.
Good luck,
Ruthie xx
Ahh yeah, it kills. F*cked me up for about 6 months, and made me all dark and cynical for another 6 (although retrospectively, my broodiness was hot). You'll get over it though, eventually. Now I'm all happy-go-lucky but with a dark (and much more realistic) edge... which I like. So put it down to life experience - it's all good.
Time is a great healer. You need to think about whether you are ready for a new relationship yet, if not, then you are being unfair to yourself and the person in question.
You just learn that a little cynicism and detachment are actually good things when starting a relationship, as they stop you getting caught up in the moment and making more of something than it really is.
You just learn that a little cynicism and detachment are actually good things when starting a relationship, as they stop you getting caught up in the moment and making more of something than it really is.
u evolve as a person and change is the only thing thats permanent. So dont get too depressed. U'll do better as you grow. 
Life's a bitch 
met a totally amazing guy last summer, we got on so well. he says he isn't sure whether he can cope with it (the distance) - he had a tendency to get very depressed late at night "are we doing this cause we're just lonely.." etc.
Agreed to give it a break for a while, 2 weeks later he texts "can we try again? i really love you".. 3 weeks later (straight after I come out to mum as being gay, and persuade her to meet him n stuff - his parents have been wanting to meet me for ages), we break up again.
5 months later (march 05), he found another bf, and afaik, they're still together, but a lot more local to each other so meh.
STILL haven't got over him
I seem to have a tendency to pick up unstable people
met a totally amazing guy last summer, we got on so well. he says he isn't sure whether he can cope with it (the distance) - he had a tendency to get very depressed late at night "are we doing this cause we're just lonely.." etc.
Agreed to give it a break for a while, 2 weeks later he texts "can we try again? i really love you".. 3 weeks later (straight after I come out to mum as being gay, and persuade her to meet him n stuff - his parents have been wanting to meet me for ages), we break up again.
5 months later (march 05), he found another bf, and afaik, they're still together, but a lot more local to each other so meh.
STILL haven't got over him
I seem to have a tendency to pick up unstable people
My girlfriend left me for my father.
I'm not even joking.
I'm not even joking.
I am en-route to getting heart broken again, must stop it
ruthiepoothie
If you really like the new person you should go for it, because you don't want to look back and think what if. Maybe just take things slow, or explain to them that you've been really hurt in the past. Everyone is different though, and you shouldn't let one bad experience put you off or you will deny yourself many more good experiences.
Good luck,
Ruthie xx
Good luck,
Ruthie xx
i'd second that.
Yep, exactly there.
I broke up with long term (3 years) boyfriend at the beginning of the summer. It was TOTALLY my fault.
I miss him more than anything. I still speak to him occasionally, but not much. It's all v strained and weird, not right at all. It makes me cry now, even though this was at the beginning of the summer (like May!) He just doesn't realise what I'd do to have him back, which makes it hurt even more It's hard enough knowing that I did it!
I broke up with long term (3 years) boyfriend at the beginning of the summer. It was TOTALLY my fault.
I miss him more than anything. I still speak to him occasionally, but not much. It's all v strained and weird, not right at all. It makes me cry now, even though this was at the beginning of the summer (like May!) He just doesn't realise what I'd do to have him back, which makes it hurt even more
It's hard enough knowing that I did it!
time does heal things... i had a bad break up 2 years ago (he'd been my best friend so when we split up i didn't even have anyone to cry to), but he came to visit me at uni yesterday and it was brilliant, completely how things were before we went out... time does heal things and although right now you think you might never be able to be friends, you might do if you really work at it
i also think that sometimes talking to each other can help, i know me and my ex analysed paractically every part of our relationship and even now we still discuss what went wrong etc... it's true the only people who understand a relationship are those in it.
lou xxx
i also think that sometimes talking to each other can help, i know me and my ex analysed paractically every part of our relationship and even now we still discuss what went wrong etc... it's true the only people who understand a relationship are those in it.
lou xxx
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