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    LOL I just read through that laughing the whole time. Do people really need to read a guide talking about the queens and kings of social groups and how to be cool?
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    (Original post by twl)
    I'm telling people who think they are a natural loser ... no you're not, you can be a winner too.


    If the alternative is looking like an awkward idiot do that. If you can get into a group, go ahead. What I'm saying is, patience is rewarded. Of course, if you are someone who has no patience, you won't ever have learned that lesson...
    hm..just
    That advice is way too calculating and political
    really

    but fair dos
    and can you really class people into categories of "winners" and "losers" based on their social preferences?
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    (Original post by halfoflessthan50p)
    That advice is way too calculating and political. You come across as a little bit bitter and emotionally damaged tbh.
    My experience includes experiences of other people. Nothing bad happened to me. All good.


    Just be friendly and open with everyone you meet. Show a genuine interest in them and take the initiative with regards to arranging things and including people in your social activities.
    You can fake it. But for those who can't, my advice is their guide.

    The best bit of practical advice I could give to freshers who have just moved into halls is:

    Get off TSR. Open the door. Walk down the hall. Knock on a door. Ask whoever answers if they fancy a cuppa :yep:
    I don't disagree with that on principle. Get to know your neighbour. Just don't try to crack into a group in a really loser-type way which will only end in you getting rejected.
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    (Original post by theths)
    and can you really class people into categories of "winners" and "losers" based on their social preferences?
    You saying that people choose to be friendless loners? Seriously?
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    (Original post by Stefan1991)
    LOL I just read through that laughing the whole time. Do people really need to read a guide talking about the queens and kings of social groups and how to be cool?
    Some of the threads people have started ask this type of question. That's why I wrote the tips.
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    6.... or a group in which you always get **** on. These socially inept, crass or loutish individuals who take you for a friend could come back to haunt you again, again, again and again, when you least expect years down the line. So NEVER commit to ONE group of friends in the first week.
    This is the only bit I agree with in the OP's post. I did this and it has turned out to be a huge, huge mistake. I'm going back for the third time and will be starting all over again; I have to make new friends and everything. Getting tied to one group may seem great because you have a set group that will be there to do things with. But for heaven's sake - make sure you have other places and people to go to should something go wrong. There's nothing worse than things changing and being left with no one.
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    (Original post by Gez1990)
    The feedback to this thread is funny
    Sorry OP, I'm with the others...and I HATED the advice about the hierarchies. I'm too old to be hanging around with people who think they are better than me with out even knowing me, that's schoolyard stuff.
    Reality is a harsh, but fair mistress, and a fun one when you know how to play her.

    Fact is, "schoolyard stuff" still happens at university but you will find the dynamics are more sophisticated. It could be a glance, a witty a put-down, a double-edged compliment about someone's clothes, it could be they have more money or sexual experience... in every group there is one individual who has most influence, someone who decides which club to go to, what time, how high up their ass their friends should kiss. Everyone who has ever had a group of friends and is not socially retarded knows this.
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    (Original post by twl)
    You don't get much better than one of your friends being the leader of the student union!
    No, you certainly don't! Life's going to be downhill from there, that's for sure.
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    And the award for most pretentious thread title of the year goes to...
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    (Original post by Aconite)
    No, you certainly don't! Life's going to be downhill from there, that's for sure.
    He was an *******, but in terms of social climbing at university, it's the tits' nipples.
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    (Original post by twl)
    He was an *******, but in terms of social climbing at university, it's the tits' nipples.
    Well then, you've made it! The very top. Think how impressed employers are going to be when you mention all this!
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    (Original post by ghostbusterbunny)
    This is the only bit I agree with in the OP's post. I did this and it has turned out to be a huge, huge mistake. I'm going back for the third time and will be starting all over again; I have to make new friends and everything. Getting tied to one group may seem great because you have a set group that will be there to do things with. But for heaven's sake - make sure you have other places and people to go to should something go wrong. There's nothing worse than things changing and being left with no one.
    Thanks for your comment. I knew the advice would chime with the experiences of some people.
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    Social butterfly... what about Social frog, or Social hampster.. hmm
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    (Original post by Aconite)
    Well then, you've made it! The very top. Think how impressed employers are going to be when you mention all this!
    If you have a more well-rounded personality because you - shock - gained friends at university and socialised then yes, employers are going to notice. They want to see some social life on your CV. My advice helps those who need help getting social life.
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    (Original post by paddyman4)
    Most people shoot for making friends a bit quicker tbh.

    My advice everyone:

    1. Go with the flow, make an effort and have fun.
    2. Ignore OP.
    Quite Agree.
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    Well some of the comment are too much. I mean she took the time to put advice that worked for her (yeah not everyone is the same) and everybody is blaming here for what? taking 20 sec from your life? Yes you can and should express your opinion but not by making the other feel like ****. Common that's not cool.

    And regarding the post, I can relate to jumping into the first group and staying with it because lets face it they just might be someone you don't like to be with. But it isn't something you can't fi by going and meeting new people.

    The hierarchie? I dont know about that. I'm not saying it's not true but in my experience it's much better to form a group than to join one because you are automatically the creator and the go to guy. And you can merge your new group with some older groups and so one. Therefore being the uni hub.

    But great effort nonetheless.
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    (Original post by twl)
    If you have a more well-rounded personality because you - shock - gained friends at university and socialised then yes, employers are going to notice. They want to see some social life on your CV. My advice helps those who need help getting social life.
    That you can down a Joe Swale in 40 seconds?

    Are you talking about CVs for 'special' people?
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    wow how did i get the idea from the post that you were a girl? sorry if your profile is correct ^^
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    (Original post by twl)
    11. It can be an advantage to join existing group of friends in weeks 3,4 and 5 also because you may get offers from multiple groups. Throughout the year you can hop between offers of parties and nights out. Everyone will like you, people will be saying hello to you where ever you go, and you will know too much. This happened to me first first year. First six months of my first year (my first fresher year) I didn't know anyone, but then I got into one group, and another, and another while keeping contact with them all. Too much social life!


    Hope these help.
    lolwut. Offers? What is this. :facepalm: You've thought about this all way too much.
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    (Original post by lukasvalio)
    Well some of the comment are too much. I mean she took the time to put advice that worked for her (yeah not everyone is the same) and everybody is blaming here for what? taking 20 sec from your life? Yes you can and should express your opinion but not by making the other feel like ****. Common that's not cool.
    I'm a he... (()()) thanks

    The hierarchie? I dont know about that. I'm not saying it's not true but in my experience it's much better to form a group than to join one because you are automatically the creator and the go to guy. And you can merge your new group with some older groups and so one. Therefore being the uni hub.

    But great effort nonetheless.
    There is only one king. If you are a natural born king or queen alpha, then you can do this. I've written this guide for those who are not - they are the majority. I'm not a natural born 'hub' and yet I knew more people at university than probably most of the alphas so if you're not an alpha queen or king, those tips could make your first year memorable.
 
 
 

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