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    Story is this:

    I live in a shared house with 4 other students and none of us knew each other before we moved in.

    Anyway one of the people I'm living with (who's room is next to mine) is overly sensitive to noise. For example: it was 18.30 and I had my speakers on (it was a guy talking) and he came to tell me to turn my volume down. Now I am always a very considerate person and never turn the volume of anything up to the point where I think it would bother others, only to the point where I can hear what I want and not even have it quite as loud as I'd really like it to be (conclusion: it was not loud at all). I know he wasn't trying to sleep at this hour because he just made himself a big meal and his lights are still on like an hour later, I know he has nothing to study because courses haven't started yet. And still I insist that my speakers weren't that loud at all. And this isn't the first time he's come to ask me to turn my speakers down. Of course since I'm a considerate person, I always comply but this is just getting ridiculous. The reason I bought speakers in the first place is because I don't like earphones. No idea what that guy is doing in his room that he wants such absolute silence but perhaps he's got his reasons. I'm not that into music but watching films is a very important part of my life and I don't want to spend a year (well at least until June) listening to them with earphones.

    I can't say I have any particular question I'd like to ask regarding this issue, just wanted to put it out there for discussion.
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    I think I live in your house :mad:
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    About noise:
    There is nothing worst than even low background music when you are trying to do something else.Especially when you can't hear it well and it's all blury like in your case.
    How about headphones?
    Try to be more considerate.
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    You're not doing anything wrong if you're noise is within reason and it's not during the night. Go in his room while you're playing your music and see if it is loud or he's just being a douche.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Story is this:

    I live in a shared house with 4 other students and none of us knew each other before we moved in.

    Anyway one of the people I'm living with (who's room is next to mine) is overly sensitive to noise. For example: it was 18.30 and I had my speakers on (it was a guy talking) and he came to tell me to turn my volume down. Now I am always a very considerate person and never turn the volume of anything up to the point where I think it would bother others, only to the point where I can hear what I want and not even have it quite as loud as I'd really like it to be (conclusion: it was not loud at all). I know he wasn't trying to sleep at this hour because he just made himself a big meal and his lights are still on like an hour later, I know he has nothing to study because courses haven't started yet. And still I insist that my speakers weren't that loud at all. And this isn't the first time he's come to ask me to turn my speakers down. Of course since I'm a considerate person, I always comply but this is just getting ridiculous. The reason I bought speakers in the first place is because I don't like earphones. No idea what that guy is doing in his room that he wants such absolute silence but perhaps he's got his reasons. I'm not that into music but watching films is a very important part of my life and I don't want to spend a year (well at least until June) listening to them with earphones.

    I can't say I have any particular question I'd like to ask regarding this issue, just wanted to put it out there for discussion.
    Ouch! I know that must be really frustrating for you, but I can empathise with your housemate. Being sensitive to noise is not fun at all, it is probably as frustrating for him as it will be for you.

    Something that might help:

    Do your speakers back onto the wall to his room? If they do, you could try and move them - I've always found that this helps minimise feedback into an adjacent room.

    The other thing you could do is talk to him about it, maybe you can figure something out so that you watch films on certain evenings and he gets earplugs or noise cancelling headphones for use in such periods (a bit odd, but somethimes this kind of compramise can work).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Story is this:

    I live in a shared house with 4 other students and none of us knew each other before we moved in.

    Anyway one of the people I'm living with (who's room is next to mine) is overly sensitive to noise. For example: it was 18.30 and I had my speakers on (it was a guy talking) and he came to tell me to turn my volume down. Now I am always a very considerate person and never turn the volume of anything up to the point where I think it would bother others, only to the point where I can hear what I want and not even have it quite as loud as I'd really like it to be (conclusion: it was not loud at all). I know he wasn't trying to sleep at this hour because he just made himself a big meal and his lights are still on like an hour later, I know he has nothing to study because courses haven't started yet. And still I insist that my speakers weren't that loud at all. And this isn't the first time he's come to ask me to turn my speakers down. Of course since I'm a considerate person, I always comply but this is just getting ridiculous. The reason I bought speakers in the first place is because I don't like earphones. No idea what that guy is doing in his room that he wants such absolute silence but perhaps he's got his reasons. I'm not that into music but watching films is a very important part of my life and I don't want to spend a year (well at least until June) listening to them with earphones.

    I can't say I have any particular question I'd like to ask regarding this issue, just wanted to put it out there for discussion.
    computer speakers have loadssssssssssssssss of bass

    dont you have a living room to watch films?

    he probably is studying- getting ready like many do

    does he get nasty about it? if he does not get nasty then i think a calm conversation with him may help although he does sound like abit of an idiot
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    (Original post by PercyChatsworth)
    I think I live in your house http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/i...milies/mad.gif
    really? are you the mouse?
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    Desensitise him by blasting an airhorn in his ear. If he's deaf, he won't complain about noise.
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    Ouch! I know that must be really frustrating for you, but I can empathise with your housemate. Being sensitive to noise is not fun at all, it is probably as frustrating for him as it will be for you.

    Something that might help:

    Do your speakers back onto the wall to his room? If they do, you could try and move them - I've always found that this helps minimise feedback into an adjacent room.

    The other thing you could do is talk to him about it, maybe you can figure something out so that you watch films on certain evenings and he gets earplugs or noise cancelling headphones for use in such periods (a bit odd, but somethimes this kind of compramise can work).
    Actually I don't know if he is super sensitive to noise or not, its simply what I've concluded from what has been going on. Maybe his hobby is cracking safes with a stethoscope and he needs the quiet, who knows....

    Anyway, the compromise thing about dividing up evenings sounds interesting. Though then again it might not work if he wants quiet all the time. Luckily he sometimes works late shifts so I can watch my things then when he's out.

    As for the speaker positioning, they're aimed away from his wall but due to the setup of my room, they are right next to his wall and there really aren't many options for setting them up. But your mentioning of this gave me an idea: I have a spare mattress so I could try setting that up against his wall and then put the speakers up behind it and perhaps dampen the noise that way.
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    (Original post by LazyWorseThanInfidel)
    computer speakers have loadssssssssssssssss of bass

    dont you have a living room to watch films?

    he probably is studying- getting ready like many do

    does he get nasty about it? if he does not get nasty then i think a calm conversation with him may help although he does sound like abit of an idiot
    :lol:
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    sounds like a douchebag
    don't comply, you're not his *****
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    (Original post by arabie)
    sounds like a douchebag
    don't comply, you're not his *****
    (Original post by LazyWorseThanInfidel)
    does he get nasty about it? if he does not get nasty then i think a calm conversation with him may help although he does sound like abit of an idiot
    On the contrary he's been very normal about it, no *****ing, just a quick polite shout and end of story. He's very nice overall but just this particular issue he's a little weird on.
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    (Original post by LazyWorseThanInfidel)
    really? are you the mouse?
    There's a mouse in your house..?

    Shame :p:
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    well serves you right for trying to play music during his designated jerk off hour, who the **** do you think you are. You know what its like knocking one out to some big booty porn and hearing chris moyles as you're about to ***?




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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    On the contrary he's been very normal about it, no *****ing, just a quick polite shout and end of story. He's very nice overall but just this particular issue he's a little weird on.
    have you tried just explaining to him what you said on here? about films being important to you and not wanting to watch them with earphones on? tell him to put cotton balls in his ears or something
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    Also, to add to what others have said, do you have surround sound? (I know you probably don't, but if you do it instantaneously makes it horrible being in the next room over)

    But yeah, I don't much like earphones, what I would probably do is get a pair of good quality comfortable headphones if it continues to be a problem.
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    Tell him to man the **** up.
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    I would tell him to **** off and then turn it up, but you sound nicer than me.
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    No, I don't have surround sound. Just an average pair of computer speakers. Right now I'm trying to set up my spare mattress against his wall to see if that will calm him down. If that doesn't work and he complains once more, then I'll have a talk with him.

    And my liking of film is no excuse to bother him with my noise because if he genuinely wants to get some studying done then that has priority. However I just don't see why he'd need such absolute quiet every single evening.
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    I would double check that your speakers arn't super bassey, or put something to dampen the volume between the contacts of your speakers/desk and desk/floor.

    Failing that, if he asks again, go with him to his room to see if it really is that loud from where he is.
 
 
 
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