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    (Original post by storm_jh)
    I'll go ahead and take the negative rep as a big fat "yes" then shall I?
    Didn't actually neg you :fyi:
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    I hope your flatmates aren't ignoring you completely. Are they involving you but you just aren't interested? I think you have to give it a week at least. Sure, some people make friends easily, others just take a bit more time.

    Most people make friends on their course via tutorials/group work/sitting beside people. I met my first uni friend during registration cause it took 3 hours, had a nice time chatting. Met the second when I got lost finding the room and he was following me I asked him for directions.

    It's just that most people don't like going outside their 'comfort zone' (talking to strangers) unless absolutely hammered.
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    (Original post by lizlaz350)
    They probably do like you
    based on what?
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    My friend is having the exact same problem, she hates it. And thinking about it makes me really upset that she is not having a good time. I go to Uni in Australia in February and if I don't make friends I'm pretty much doomed because on thousands of miles away from my friends and family, so chin up, keep smiling, don't let it get to you.
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    (Original post by SallySparrow66)
    Are you male or female? Just wondering really because I'm EXACTLY the same. My freshers week has come and gone and I've started my course and I'm still eating lunch alone and finding it hard to fit in with anyone because they all seem to have established their groups already.

    It's early days, you will make friends. I will make friends. You've just got to keep putting yourself out there and at least try to be abit more outgoing than you normally would be. You don't have to go out partying, just say hi to someone in your accomodation or your course.

    And it's okay to cry!! I cried thrice in freshers week. All on the phone to my mum. Probably why I haven't made friends. :p:
    Completely off-topic, but I am deciding my fifth choice, and I am basically doubting between Sheffield and York. I see you study at York, what can you tell me? (I must have made up my mind by the 8th). Cheers.

    To the OP, just try to chat with someone, then go with the flow, ask to go out with them sometimes... they're in the same position that you, so they won't say no, unless they're complete morons and completely unworthy of your company, in which case you'll find some more nice people pretty soon.
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    (Original post by logic123)
    I sympathise OP, in fact i am planning on pulling out of student accomodation this week and commuting on a train journey. I work much better and focus much better at home. Which will in the long term, lead to me getting better grades.
    gah this is so stupid.
    Stop trying to justify what a bad decision this is. You sound so pathetic, honestly.
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    (Original post by bingobongo)
    I don't like any of my flatmates and it seems like everyone else in my block and hall already know each other really well - obviously this can't be the case with every single person but I feel like I can't make any friends because they've already established their groups. I'm not the most outgoing of people but I'm usually quite confident in the sense that I will do what I want to and won't be pressured into doing something that doesn't appeal to me...will this go against me? I genuinely feel like none of my flatmates like me even though I haven't done anything horrible to them. Did you make good friends with all your flatmates straight away or did it take some time? Did you make good friends with people that weren't your flat mates? I keep thinking about all my friends and family back home that love me for who I am
    If you are in the mindset of not being up for any type of new experience or getting involved with other people, then that's always going to hold you back in life.

    I think the first week is the most important to meet people and make friends, usually people make their social groups in the first week and stick with them for their whole time in uni.
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    (Original post by Stefan1991)
    If you are in the mindset of not being up for any type of new experience or getting involved with other people, then that's always going to hold you back in life.

    I think the first week is the most important to meet people and make friends, usually people make their social groups in the first week and stick with them for their whole time in uni.

    I agree with the mindset if you don't want to meet new people, and get involved you probably won't enjoy uni. Starting uni is a great chance to do things you have always wanted to do and is great for being youself where nobody knows you.
    But i disagree about making your best friends in the 1st year. My closest friends were made in my 2nd and 3rd year, and I hardly talk to people i made friends with in the 1st year, but you will always make new friends up until your last day.
    The more things you get involved with the more friends you will make and you will get to love it.
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    I started uni last Sunday and I am friends with two people from my corridor. The rest are from the corridor round the corner, and I socialise with them in their kitchen which is nearer to their corridor than mine. I also have made lots of friends with people two floors above me, through my course (had one lesson) and through other people. Honestly, don't worry at all. Everyone will start mixing soon. I'm at St Mary's which is one of the smallest unis in the country so I suppose I'm lucky because we all mixed literally from the first half hour after registration. But really, it will be fine (:
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    (Original post by SallySparrow66)
    Are you male or female? Just wondering really because I'm EXACTLY the same. My freshers week has come and gone and I've started my course and I'm still eating lunch alone and finding it hard to fit in with anyone because they all seem to have established their groups already.

    It's early days, you will make friends. I will make friends. You've just got to keep putting yourself out there and at least try to be abit more outgoing than you normally would be. You don't have to go out partying, just say hi to someone in your accomodation or your course.

    And it's okay to cry!! I cried thrice in freshers week. All on the phone to my mum. Probably why I haven't made friends. :p:
    i saw one post where you said you liked animalistic sex. then this post where you say lonely. hmm, you sound like the sort of girl i should be meeting!
    i wouldn't worry re. not having friends. i think a lot of freshers think that they have not joined the cool crowd and that it will soon be too late to join it. but the fact is is that everyone manically tries to join groups, and then soon finds that they are in the wrong group! just take your time. bit by bit you will find a few folk that you get on well with. and then all will be well. :-)
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    :rofl: 2 days..come one..
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    (Original post by lizlaz350)
    I think for the first few weeks, being pressured into things that you don't necessarily want to do (as long as it's nothing illegal) may work in your favour until you make friends.
    You really think that's a good idea?
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    (Original post by jmenkus)
    You really think that's a good idea?
    Yeah, because how else are you going to make friends? If you refuse to do anything that other people want you to do, then you're basically excluding yourself, so sometimes you have to try and compromise and do a few things you don't want to until you get to know people. As long as it's not like illegal or ruining your health/education.
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    (Original post by the writer)
    based on what?
    Based on the fact you shouldn't dislike someone until you know them, so they probably have no reason to dislike the OP.
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    (Original post by bingobongo)
    I don't like any of my flatmates and it seems like everyone else in my block and hall already know each other really well - obviously this can't be the case with every single person but I feel like I can't make any friends because they've already established their groups. I'm not the most outgoing of people but I'm usually quite confident in the sense that I will do what I want to and won't be pressured into doing something that doesn't appeal to me...will this go against me? I genuinely feel like none of my flatmates like me even though I haven't done anything horrible to them. Did you make good friends with all your flatmates straight away or did it take some time? Did you make good friends with people that weren't your flat mates? I keep thinking about all my friends and family back home that love me for who I am
    The fact that you don't do things that do not appeal to you, means when you do make friends, they will be your real friends and not easily giving into peer pressure is a quality you're luck to have.

    Friend groups form and break through the year, so do not worry it's hardly the first proper week... some people have yet to start uni cheer up

    If you can maybe tell us where you are? and some TSR folks can befriend you
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    (Original post by vintage_007)
    Aww what halls are you in? I felt like that at the beginning of UCL but soon realised that, after freshers', everything calms down and then real friendships start to form.

    If you've really thought it through then I'm not going to discourage you but I'd wait at least until 2 weeks into your course if it was me.

    Also, I wish I'd done neuroscience!
    Nothing wrong with linguistics :hmmm:

    OP wait till after freshers to see whether it's still the same! You are bound to meet like-minded people on your course
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    (Original post by lizlaz350)
    They probably do like you, but maybe as you haven't spoken to them as much as you could have or something, they are slightly reserved.

    I think for the first few weeks, being pressured into things that you don't necessarily want to do (as long as it's nothing illegal) may work in your favour until you make friends.

    ...or likely to result in horrific injury.
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    My girlfriends in same position.
    She is stuck in a crap private house because she couldnt get halls, stuck with two geek second years who dont go out or chat, and she has no internet or TV yet and knows not one person down there.
    And theres me, in halls with 4 other guys, going out every night and using our flat as the pre drinks place with like 20 people and meeting more on the way .. so i get a lot of crying on the phone everytime i tell her what i been up to lol :/
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    (Original post by acdunn)
    ...or likely to result in horrific injury.
    That too (: I added that in to my second post.
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    (Original post by lizlaz350)
    Yeah, because how else are you going to make friends? If you refuse to do anything that other people want you to do, then you're basically excluding yourself, so sometimes you have to try and compromise and do a few things you don't want to until you get to know people. As long as it's not like illegal or ruining your health/education.
    That or you'll just get a reputation as a pathetic pushover and become the ***** of the group. I'd rather not have any friends than have that happen.
 
 
 
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