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    Keep the clothes tips coming please everyone I'm going shopping tomorrow with my mum, and will attempt to buy something no matter what, but obvioulsy it has to be flattering.

    And thankyou all. Tbh the method or motivation for weightloss isn't an issue now; I'm finding it easier to lose it now I've got going, and normally when I'm busy, I lose it quite easily. So I'm fairly sure I'll keep losing weight at uni. It's just that I probably won't be nearly done before new year, and until then, and specially at the start, I'm going to feel really rubbish, as I am now. I kind of don't want to be the one who 'used to be fat' either but meh.

    So the best thing I can do now is gain confidence somehow and dress well I guess.
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    Anon please.

    I'm a girl btw. I literally feel sick thinking about going to uni because I'm so unconfident about the way I look I'm going to my dream uni and the course is amazing, everything's perfect except ME. I was meant to have lost all the weight I've been gaining over the last couple of years, but I haven't.

    Problem 1: I'm fat.
    Problem 2: My skin seems to be ageing prematurely and a few months ago, I discovered massive creases below my eyes, that are really obvious especially when I smile even slightly.
    Problem 3: I have no sense of style, and added to the fact that I'm fat, I look terrible.

    I really wanted to have sorted out the fatness before starting uni (I've had a lonely, uneventful gap year with barely any contact with people my age but that's a whole different kettle of fish, the offset is that I haven't had any pressure on me to sort the way I look out)

    I tried to leave the house to go shopping today for example, but it took me way over an hour to get the confidence to do it, I kept stressing about what to wear to hide my lumps, and then I went into a fitting room in topshop and nearly cried, everything looked so bad on me and I bought nothing.

    I have hardly any going out clothes or formal stuff, which I keep being told I need, but I hate the idea of wearing any of that stuff.
    I know I'm being stupid but I look like such a dork all the time and I think people will be embarrassed to be friends with me never mind how I'm going to go out or attempt to dance. I hate photos anyway and will hate them even more now. My uni has a rah reputation and is very sporty, and all the girls I've seen who go there seem super fit and pretty.

    The biggest shame is that I actually wanted to enjoy myself going to uni and make a good impression, and just feel and look the best I could.

    Help me TSR what do I dooo?
    Gosh this is me! Iv'e started uni and havent made any friends I just can't I mean I keep thinking who would want to be friends with a fat blob like me? So I spare them! I cannot even make eye contact with people I walk into the lectures head for the first front rows and sit there without even looking around I then rush out (like escaping) and it sucks major people are all talking to each other made friends and then theres me the freak! Gosh I see three years of major lonerism heading my way!

    And its not like im a bad person I mean I have so much to give etc. But I just cannot make the first move by talking to people the limited friends I have all started by interacting with me! And I am so scared I want to make friends I mean what if I need help with stuff I don't get Ill have to figure it out myself! And no there arent any socities I want to join (why do people always say that!)

    I am trying to improve my appearance but it'll take time! And I hear what you say on dress sense I am so pathetic, that in order not to stick out I tend to wear black troursers muted tops and converses.

    I guess I will have to stick to just seeing my best friends twice a year as friend interaction

    But thats me I am sure everything will be ok with you! Just do the opposite of what I do and eveything will be fine
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    Gosh this is me! Iv'e started uni and havent made any friends I just can't I mean I keep thinking who would want to be friends with a fat blob like me? So I spare them! I cannot even make eye contact with people I walk into the lectures head for the first front rows and sit there without even looking around I then rush out (like escaping) and it sucks major people are all talking to each other made friends and then theres me the freak! Gosh I see three years of major lonerism heading my way!

    And its not like im a bad person I mean I have so much to give etc. But I just cannot make the first move by talking to people the limited friends I have all started by interacting with me! And I am so scared I want to make friends I mean what if I need help with stuff I don't get Ill have to figure it out myself! And no there arent any socities I want to join (why do people always say that!)

    I am trying to improve my appearance but it'll take time! And I hear what you say on dress sense I am so pathetic, that in order not to stick out I tend to wear black troursers muted tops and converses.

    I guess I will have to stick to just seeing my best friends twice a year as friend interaction

    But thats me I am sure everything will be ok with you! Just do the opposite of what I do and eveything will be fine

    Oh wow. Well, I feel bad for you, but I'm not sure this has given me much hope.

    Like you say though, I'll do the opposite of all that. Forgive me for saying, I'm not quite as bad as you, I mean I do actually talk to people! It's just when I catch sight of myself that I have a breakdown.

    Good luck though, you seem to have plenty of your own problems
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Gosh this is me! Iv'e started uni and havent made any friends I just can't I mean I keep thinking who would want to be friends with a fat blob like me? So I spare them! I cannot even make eye contact with people I walk into the lectures head for the first front rows and sit there without even looking around I then rush out (like escaping) and it sucks major people are all talking to each other made friends and then theres me the freak! Gosh I see three years of major lonerism heading my way!

    And its not like im a bad person I mean I have so much to give etc. But I just cannot make the first move by talking to people the limited friends I have all started by interacting with me! And I am so scared I want to make friends I mean what if I need help with stuff I don't get Ill have to figure it out myself! And no there arent any socities I want to join (why do people always say that!)

    I am trying to improve my appearance but it'll take time! And I hear what you say on dress sense I am so pathetic, that in order not to stick out I tend to wear black troursers muted tops and converses.

    I guess I will have to stick to just seeing my best friends twice a year as friend interaction

    But thats me I am sure everything will be ok with you! Just do the opposite of what I do and eveything will be fine
    You sound like me. Especially the "who would want to be friends with someone like me" rings true. And I would like to give you a big hug. That thought comes into my head at least once a day and while on the surface I do appear to have friends, I still think this of even my absolute best friends who I've had for 7 and 10 years. It's a horrible mindset to have but it is getting better for me as I realise that what people do affects how they see them.

    Like I said to the OP, when I was bigger than I am but in denial and not constantly thinking about what people thought about how I looked it was fine, people spoke to me etc. When I clam up it's then that they stop bothering.

    You have only just got to uni though. Give it a while, you may find some people you can get along with, it's early days. Took me a while to find anyone to be friends with, as it stands now in final year I possess one close friend here, and a bunch of coursemates I can get along well enough with (banter in lessons, working together, that kind of thing, I don't socialise much with them though).

    Feel free to PM me if you want to talk x
 
 
 
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