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    (Original post by charlie:P)
    He is very sweet... and very confusing!! I always have those what if we'd stayed together. My imagination can get well caught up in it sometimes

    At least u were 1ce together, my one doesnt even kno I like, wait scratch that., I LOVE HIM,n he's 1 of my closest friends:-(
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    (Original post by sxcmitzy)
    At least u were 1ce together, my one doesnt even kno I like, wait scratch that., I LOVE HIM,n he's 1 of my closest friends:-(
    Does he not love you back?
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    (Original post by charlie:P)
    Does he not love you back?
    Nah he doesnt kno I like him, we've been friends for a long time but I just dnt have the guts to tell him
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    It was 2 and a half weeks ago, and stupidly just a one night stand with a guy I met in a bar. We're still in contact, but I left home for uni two days after I met him, but he's such a sweet guy. I think I'm really falling for him but he's still in love with his ex. I guess he's always going to mean something to me as my first but it was just a one time drunken thing.
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    Nah, mine wasn't a big deal at all (no pun intended). Basically it was the first week of uni and as a bullied loser for the previous 14 years of school, I was desperate to get in with a 'cool' crowd. So I slept with this guy in the 'drugs crowd' on our corridor in halls... only to be told straight after wards, "Don't tell anyone I slept with you" and he left. Yeah, that kinda backfired on me...

    But virginity (or sex) wasn't and isn't anything special for me. Just as well lol
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    I have a bond with him, but for more reasons than he took my virginity.

    The interesting thing is he doesn't know he did, and I don't plan on telling him.
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    (Original post by Kätzchen)
    I have a bond with him, but for more reasons than he took my virginity.

    The interesting thing is he doesn't know he did, and I don't plan on telling him.
    Are you sure he couldn't tell? I don't think there was any way I could have hidden that I was a virgin...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Also has anyone else had experience of somebody in a relationship just becoming really hostile to you? (without excellent reason, like cheating or something)
    I've done it before because I was tired of him, and bored of his mannerisms, tired of his "we'll see what happens" attitude, because I was interested in someone else whom I never got over.

    Back to your question though, I believe there is always a reason for someone to switch from one attitude to another like that. Sorry
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    (Original post by SpamBa)
    Are you sure he couldn't tell? I don't think there was any way I could have hidden that I was a virgin...
    Absolutely positive. I was one of the lucky people who felt no pain/didn't bleed etc.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't really know what question I'm asking here, I'm just asking about the subject in general. Me and my girlfriend were both 18 and virgins and were together for about a year, then she ended it a few months ago.

    Of course I was sad, but not in an over the top way. Because we were both virgins we both shared something that we can never experience again, and I feel a special bond that won't go away. However in the past I've tried talking to her and just being civil with her but she absolutely hates me. Now I have of course given up and don't try to contact her. Girls of TSR, what do you think? Did you have a special bond? Does it mean anything to you? I'm a guy and it means a lot to me.



    I couldn't be bothered to read everyone else's replies, so I'm just replying to you Mr Anon directly.

    Firstly, this post made me smile and if you are worrying about her feelings and whether she's been hurt by the loss of virginity, as this suggests, then she's made a mistake in letting you go.

    Secondly, how long had you been with this girl before you slept together?

    As for your half question, I look back at the boy I lost my virginity with and smile, because I know he was the right person, at the right time (though I was only 16 -- well done for holding out till you're 18). However, losing the big V is a huge deal for most girls, though they like to pretend it's not. I know what you're thinking, that she probably regrets losing it to you and that's why she broke up with you, and you might even feel it's your fault. But most likely, cos she's 18, she liked the feeling and wanted the independence to sleep with who she wanted, as opposed to being limited to you. It could be either, but I wouldn't beat yourself up about it.

    I hope that helped a little.
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    (Original post by Kätzchen)
    Absolutely positive. I was one of the lucky people who felt no pain/didn't bleed etc.

    I don't think it's just physical signs....most virgins are crap in bed. You'd know one a mile off.
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    (Original post by mimi-h)
    I don't think it's just physical signs....most virgins are crap in bed. You'd know one a mile off.
    I was thinking the same. Aside from the pain I had no idea what to do!
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    (Original post by mimi-h)
    I don't think it's just physical signs....most virgins are crap in bed. You'd know one a mile off.
    I had other sexual skills, I'd just never been penetrated.

    I know me and my first partner. I'm not really up for debating whether you or anyone else was bad in bed, sorry!
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    Is it really that different to mimicking what you've seen in porn?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is it really that different to mimicking what you've seen in porn?


    Being a girl who's never watched porn I wouldn't know exactly, but I'd imagine it's extremely different....
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    (Original post by SpamBa)
    I was thinking the same. Aside from the pain I had no idea what to do!


    My boyfriend was a virgin too at the time so it wasn't too bad cos we knew each other really well, but when I had sex with my next boyfriend, it was weird learning to go with the style of the new guy! Plus he was **** in bed! Haha. But the pain was a bit of a distraction first time yeah!!
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    I lost it just over four months ago. I wasn't with the boy, we got together two weeks later. And split up two weeks ago tomorrow. I'm still in love with him but think he is a knob in all respects. I wouldn't take it back because it was fun. We don't speak anymore, his choice. I'll move on and find somebody who treated me much better than he ever did.

    Seriously though she's not worth it at all.
 
 
 
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